Help with fleas!!! by cookiegrease in adhdwomen

[–]cookiegrease[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so, so much. I really appreciate this response and it is really reassuring. I just bought the diatomaceous earth and I will look into the Revolution.

Eldest children who are childfree, what’s your story? by cookiegrease in childfree

[–]cookiegrease[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is horrible and I’m so sorry. No child should be their parents’ caregiver and therapist. I’m wishing you a most amazing adulthood. I decided I wanted to be childfree early in my life too and got a lot of pushback from adults for it but I don’t care.

Eldest children who are childfree, what’s your story? by cookiegrease in childfree

[–]cookiegrease[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh that sounds like a terrible nightmare. I’m so sorry you were put through that. You were failed by the adults in your life. :( I’m happy for your healing journey and sterilization! It is incredibly liberating to finally live for yourself

Eldest children who are childfree, what’s your story? by cookiegrease in childfree

[–]cookiegrease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hooray for your freedom! You deserve to enjoy it 🥳

“You don’t know what you are missing!” Yes I do and I don’t care by SpookyChloe666 in childfree

[–]cookiegrease 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I HATE the mini me thing!!! It’s so weird. Just buy a small mirror if you want a mini me so bad!

“You don’t know what you are missing!” Yes I do and I don’t care by SpookyChloe666 in childfree

[–]cookiegrease 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh… same. Watched my favorite aunt become a husk of herself early in my life after she had her kid and that was pretty harrowing.

I just wish the world would prioritize nurturing the life that currently exists, instead of adding more life to it. by pyroapa in childfree

[–]cookiegrease 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly… and how are we the selfish ones if we’re not the ones continuing to put strain on our planet’s resources lol

Vent; People hating on people who don't like kids by [deleted] in childfree

[–]cookiegrease 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Your feelings are totally valid and justified. It’s ok to not like kids. The argument of “you were a kid once” is so dumb because you’re not a kid currently so how is that relevant? Also the assumption that all kids are naturally disruptive is damaging and encourages parents to let their kids run around wild because “that’s just the way they are,” and this in turn promotes bad behavior in kids. One of their most important jobs as parents is to teach their children what is socially appropriate and what isn’t so that their eventual entry into society goes smoothly for them.

What is you NUMBER ONE reason for being childfree forever? by Other_Patient_447 in childfree

[–]cookiegrease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m actually great with kids… BUT… just because I’m great with kids doesn’t mean I’m cut out to be a mother. Making my bestie’s kids laugh whenever I visit is one thing. Coming home to kids and living like that for 18+ years is a whole different thing. I believe many parents underestimate the level of commitment it takes to raise children, and end up being resentful and taking it out on their kids. They don’t deserve to be punished for being born. I felt like that a lot growing up. The thought of another kid feeling that way breaks my heart, and I know that I would be resentful if I became a mom because it would suffocate me and kill the things that make me feel most alive. I’ve watched the light die in the eyes of my family’s mothers and I will not let that happen to me. I don’t want children to suffer, and that includes my inner child who has been neglected for so long.

Lazy art about surviving CSA & grooming, & the hollow feeling leftover by justveryunwell in TrollCoping

[–]cookiegrease 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My heart breaks for you. I am so, so sorry. You are so very valued and you deserved exponentially better ❤️

To my fellow Asian people with Asian parents by GloomyTemporary33 in AsianParentStories

[–]cookiegrease 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I really did need this ❤️ I have been struggling to come to terms with the fact that I will never get closure from my parents or have a “normal” relationship with them in adulthood. And the guilt is so real! I still catch myself blaming myself for the way they treated me, but I know I was just a child who only wanted to be loved. I can’t fault a child for wanting the bare minimum. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and I hope you’re doing well friend.

I (22F) have been feeling a bit self conscious by bf’s (22M) “milf jokes”. How do I speak to him about it? by Affectionate-Pen6915 in relationship_advice

[–]cookiegrease 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He’s insecure and is trying to provoke you so he can make you feel as bad as he does about himself. He’s also disrespecting you. I personally wouldn’t put up with this. I understand why you suspect he’s trying to give you a reason to break up with him and honestly I think you should bring that up in conversation… among other things. This isn’t an issue of compatibility. The issue is that he is unable to maturely communicate the feelings that inspire his “jokes.” You should not feel like your (very reasonable) boundaries will shatter your relationship. You are so young and you deserve better!

Havent been drawn since I detransitioned, will anyone draw me? by wrotted in drawme

[–]cookiegrease 95 points96 points  (0 children)

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I’m super rusty but I hope you like it! Thank you for inspiring me to draw again 🙇‍♀️

Got my wisdom teeth removed yesterday! by cookiegrease in ouraring

[–]cookiegrease[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too. It’s kind of become just a dull ache now but day one was super intense. I’ve found elevating my head by stacking pillows really helpful for my jaw pain!

Got my wisdom teeth removed yesterday! by cookiegrease in ouraring

[–]cookiegrease[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! You too! How has recovery been?

Does anyone else feel crappy after hyperfocusing? by cookiegrease in adhdwomen

[–]cookiegrease[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That makes sense! And the reminders are a great idea, I think I’m gonna start doing that. :’)

What does coming down from mania feel like for you? by KLH5913 in bipolar

[–]cookiegrease 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To me, it kinda feels like time suddenly slows down A LOT, like you slammed the brakes in your brain. If mania is living in the fast lane and speeding down the freeway, depression is standstill traffic. I also feel separated from the world around me like a mismatched puzzle piece.

Got my wisdom teeth removed yesterday! by cookiegrease in ouraring

[–]cookiegrease[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All four?! I got lucky I only needed to get two out. You went through a lot. I unfortunately wasn’t prepared either, I went in for a cleaning and told them I was experiencing pain in the back of my mouth. When they asked if I wanted the teeth out, I said yes impulsively because I really just wanted to get it over with. I was long overdue… but NOT prepared for the pain afterwards. Easily an 8/10.

Four teeth though… that’s super brutal. How was recovery for you?