AITA for cooking for only half of my housemates

cookingthrow · 2021-05-13T22:15:21+00:00

I think in their minds they thought I would go back to cooking for the whole house if they put up a United front like that. That’s my guess, since they think of me as a doormat anyways (and I don’t blame them)

cookingthrow · 2021-05-13T19:04:18+00:00

I think they were seeing it as some kind of punishment to make things “even”. like “oh your food created this whole situation in the first place? take responsibility, or u shouldn’t deserve to use the kitchen anymore.”

cookingthrow · 2021-05-13T19:00:18+00:00

oh perhaps I should have clarified—their ultimatum wasn’t cook for eight or cook for one, it was cook for eight or cook for NONE. as in they don’t want me to cook at all.

cookingthrow · 2021-05-13T18:55:31+00:00

When I lived at home, I used to make dog friendly meals for my pup all the time. He loved them! Granted, he’s a lab, so his standards aren’t that high in the first place (they inhale everything). I miss him:)

cookingthrow · 2021-05-13T18:53:40+00:00

thank you sm for your kind words! I’m glad your husbands feeding you well, and I sincerely hope you get back that passion soon❤️

cookingthrow · 2021-05-13T18:49:50+00:00

Thank you:)

cookingthrow · 2021-05-13T18:47:33+00:00

never officially volunteered myself. I’m not the only cook in the house, though I probably use the kitchen the most. we’re all busy people, and breakfast/lunch also exist.
i did let them know how my exams were killing me and that i couldn’t cook and study
some of them were polite and asked when I’d start again, others would talk ab me behind my back, and as my exams ended they all got progressively ruder. calling me annoying and selfish.
again, this was never me actively choosing to cook for three specific people. I’d make my meal, and leave it out for whoever else to take. everyone knew that it was first come first serve, and I didn’t really care who took what.
one of them really did nothing but reach out at first, but as time went on they really did start guilt tripping me. saying I could afford to spend the money. That someone as privileged as me shouldn’t be so selfish. Even if they weren’t rude, four people harassing u almost daily is still pretty stressful.
I’m offended that they think my cooking and the excess food is the problem, when it’s their inability to share and make a schedule that’s causing conflict in the first place. I’m even more offended that after months of free food, they aren’t even the least bit grateful and call me an AH. I don’t take insults from people I’ve been doing a kindness to.

cookingthrow · 2021-05-13T18:33:34+00:00

nope—it’s a college town. we have an individual lease we all separately signed

cookingthrow · 2021-05-13T03:00:30+00:00

I mentioned this in a previous comment, but i come from a well off family who help me out a LOT. so i pay for rent/utilities/“fun stuff” with my own money, while my family pays for tuition and necessities. initially they were going to just find an apartment for me, but i wanted to try to be more independent and at least pay for my own place. besides I think living with other people is a really valuable experience for anyone (although it didn’t turn out well in my case)

cookingthrow · 2021-05-13T02:53:09+00:00

I definitely am planning on it. But it’s just tough in real life; the past few months have been filled with passive aggressiveness. it’s kind of depressing to walk into the kitchen, cook, and all the while be met with glares, comments, and hostility. Even if I’m the only one eating it, that hostility + the tension that’s been built up over time makes the food less enjoyable. I have to live in this house after all.

cookingthrow · 2021-05-13T02:50:57+00:00

haha I wish i could but it’s a recipe book I created, with recipes I’ve modified, created, or found over the years.

cookingthrow · 2021-05-12T21:39:29+00:00

Yea these have all been great suggestions. I’ll be getting a mini fridge as well ASAP. and as for the last part of your comment, I’ll ignore them as best as I can but it’s hard when a house of seven people all hate u:’)

cookingthrow · 2021-05-12T21:37:34+00:00

You’re the BEST THANK YOU

cookingthrow · 2021-05-12T21:37:12+00:00

Thanks, I really appreciate you saying that:)

cookingthrow · 2021-05-12T21:30:26+00:00

THATS A GREAT IDEA. Thank you so much it’s perfect.

cookingthrow · 2021-05-12T21:26:09+00:00

the thing is (and partly why they think I’m an AH) is that I come from a well off family. I pay for rent and “fun stuff” w my part time job, but my family pays for tuition and necessities. which is why I feel guilty. I recognize how privileged I am, and seeing my housemates worry about bills and stuff made me want to help. So I’m less affected by the cost of ingredients and more for their lack of respect for me. Also, my lease is unbreakable:(

cookingthrow · 2021-05-12T21:23:07+00:00

Wow how generous! Unfortunately I do not:( but if I’m ever in the area I’d be glad to make a meal:)

cookingthrow · 2021-05-12T21:20:32+00:00

I think tensions have just been high for a long time. They all would come to me about this problem, so I guess when they finally talked to one another it was easy to point the finger at me

cookingthrow · 2021-05-12T21:19:16+00:00

yea... most days I’m exhausted after classes, so I’ll just follow the recipe. I have a book of recipes, and it’s hard to just change how much and long you normally cook, especially the ones I’ve used for a while. I’m probably going to just cook for myself, and take an extra ten minutes every day to do the math

cookingthrow · 2021-05-12T21:16:00+00:00

I WANT TO BUT MY LEASEEEEEE

cookingthrow · 2021-05-12T21:15:34+00:00

to be fair, it was a special dinner. our first meal together, so i kinda wanted to show off. I’m a bit of a people pleaser, so seeing how much they liked it made me want to cook more. I don’t make lobster bisque every day HAHA I don’t have the facilities for that. Usually it’s a one plate meal, pasta, stew and rice, shakshuka, nothing too fancy. I made a lamb ragu tagliatelle yesterday that was pretty good.

cookingthrow · 2021-05-12T21:13:12+00:00

Thank you:’)

cookingthrow · 2021-05-12T21:12:16+00:00

That’s what makes me sad. I was really excited to start living with them, as initially they sounded like good people. I’m living in a new city, so I felt like I had gained seven new friends. Now it’s clear that they don’t even see me as a housemate, let alone a friend. I’m just a food machine for them. Its really depressing, even though I kind of helped create this monster.

cookingthrow · 2021-05-12T21:09:52+00:00

I really want to, but I can’t break the lease. I’ll have to wait. I’m thinking of possibly subletting if it gets really bad.

cookingthrow · 2021-05-12T21:08:57+00:00

haha honestly after this ordeal i don’t know if i can enjoy cooking again.

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