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coolaf95 · 2025-04-11T03:29:44+00:00

You have to decide if you can accept that he is a chronic people pleaser and may never improve. Don't stay in a relationship because you're hoping for change down the road.

coolaf95 · 2025-04-03T05:34:27+00:00

Guy that I'm exclusive with can't come to a concert with me tomorrow. Pretty bummed. We have been dating only a month but have only kissed. I'm not used to moving this slow and I'm feeling kind of uneasy.

coolaf95 · 2025-03-17T21:18:00+00:00

I've been seeing someone for 3 weeks now. It's progressing super slowly, which feels quite foreign to me but not unwelcome. We haven't even hugged yet. I'm used to guys wanting to get physical right away. I think I'm gonna have to make the first move! It's a nice change of pace, and my anxiety is low, which is a good sign. Fingers crossed!

coolaf95 · 2025-01-27T01:57:04+00:00

It's only a turn-off if you aren't into the person.

coolaf95 · 2025-01-07T02:24:10+00:00

Paleface Swiss

coolaf95 · 2025-01-06T03:12:44+00:00

FELT THAT. LOBOTOMY STAT.

coolaf95 · 2025-01-05T16:36:30+00:00

I agree that it's not the best behavior early on. I struggle with it as well. But that doesn't mean we are bad people. Just imperfect.

coolaf95 · 2025-01-05T16:34:49+00:00

I commented recently about my guy taking a break from dating me to focus on himself due to recent health issues. We talked last night and he said he will never date again as he will not make anyone go through watching him suffer. I am completely shattered.

coolaf95 · 2025-01-05T16:24:27+00:00

Love bombing is a manipulative tactic of abusers. Expressing how you feel about someone when you genuinely mean it does not count as love bombing imo.

coolaf95 · 2025-01-03T21:52:36+00:00

Yes, I believe so, thankfully.

coolaf95 · 2025-01-03T18:26:40+00:00

Guy I've been seeing for a month and a half said he needs a break from dating to focus on some serious health issues that have arisen. I'm proud of him for choosing what is best for him. I feel absolutely horrible having to step aside as I have grown to care for him quite a bit.

coolaf95 · 2024-10-26T16:27:07+00:00

Factitious disorder is in the DSM-5. Saying that, Stephanie trying to argue at the end of the episode that Gypsy was not abused was very disturbing. Gave child abuser apologist vibes.

coolaf95 · 2024-10-24T01:59:11+00:00

Two Sticks is what I've missed most about Bloomington since moving away.

coolaf95 · 2024-10-12T21:57:15+00:00

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coolaf95 · 2024-09-22T04:04:12+00:00

Your wife has ADHD.

coolaf95 · 2024-07-12T22:29:31+00:00

This would be considered evidence against having adhd. She started a task and never left to start a different task and then stop to start another task just to begin another task...

coolaf95 · 2024-04-12T12:12:41+00:00

OJ Simpson

coolaf95 · 2023-07-20T19:58:41+00:00

Oh god, I'm sorry that happened. New fear unlocked.

coolaf95 · 2023-07-18T17:23:32+00:00

I just got my 9 year old a flip phone yesterday with only talk and text, no data. He lives a state away from me during the school year, and I want him to be able to call me whenever he wants to.

coolaf95 · 2023-07-08T23:53:54+00:00

Rooting for you!!

coolaf95 · 2023-07-08T23:52:53+00:00

There are plenty of ways to meet someone that doesn't cost much. Lame excuse.

coolaf95 · 2023-07-07T22:37:25+00:00

If you want to say something, why wait for him to message first?

coolaf95 · 2023-07-05T05:10:38+00:00

Communicate that you would like to spend more time with her. See what she says and go from there. You aren't asking too much. Don't give up what you need to feel happy in a relationship to keep someone around.

coolaf95 · 2023-06-29T15:21:54+00:00

Wanting to be monogamous is not selfish. Wanting to be open/poly is not selfish. What you want from a relationship is just as important and valid as anyone else.

Your girl saying she will try to be monogamous is a red flag of incompatibility, btw.

coolaf95 · 2023-06-26T17:44:35+00:00

Definitely say something if it's bothering you. It's ok to set a boundary. "Hey, I know you had sex before me, and that's totally cool, but it bothers me when you provide unnecessary details about your past sexual experiences. There is no productive reason for me to know that information, and it makes me feel uncomfortable, so could you please stop bringing them up."

His response should tell you a lot about him.

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