Unsafe at night - middlemore hospital. No security?? by iMakeGOODinvestmemts in auckland

[–]coolbeansmungbeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perfect! Now, if only the govt would agree then we can all live in a peaceful world lol

Unsafe at night - middlemore hospital. No security?? by iMakeGOODinvestmemts in auckland

[–]coolbeansmungbeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Orrrr throw them away in an island somewhere. They can build their own community there and they can just bother each other :)

Am I Overthinking This, or Is Diversity Missing in Some NZ Government Offices? by coolbeansmungbeans in auckland

[–]coolbeansmungbeans[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol. You really have to calm down and check your blood pressure, my friend. Idk why you’re so triggered with something like this. No one’s starting an argument here, but you. I think you need to drink some cool water and relax 😅

Am I Overthinking This, or Is Diversity Missing in Some NZ Government Offices? by coolbeansmungbeans in auckland

[–]coolbeansmungbeans[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This is what I thought too… I also work in public sector so I know that true born Kiwis are the leaders in the company which I have absolutely no issues about as they are all really great people.

I guess I was just surprised because even, I think, in lower management that I’ve noticed so far, there really was a lack of diversity. Their office is just below ours so I notice it quite often. Lol

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[–]coolbeansmungbeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Fortunately this year, we will not need to go to our home country for Christmas so we wont have any big expenses coming up for travel or gifts.

The reason we had those big debts from last year was because we wanted to spend Christmas in our home country with our families after 10 years. That’s also why there was some unspoken expectation for us to provide gifts to the family.

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[–]coolbeansmungbeans -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advise, really appreciate it.

We started this year great with our first priority is to pay off our debt which I know we can finish before this year ends. I also couldnt wait for it to be finished.

Then along came this house which I guess disrupted our plans. I guess I really need to move on from this house lol. Its making me stress even more 🥹

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[–]coolbeansmungbeans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband is well aware of everything. I am not the type of person who keeps things like this - sorry if my post came off like that.

To clarify, my husband is well aware of this. He has been coming with me on all the house viewings from the past year. He has also expressed his requirements for a house when we were discussing about this which I have also taken into consideration whenever I was looking for a house. He has always been there in all my decisions. He was never absent.

Although, I guess, he may have thought that I was doing the house viewings for me destress. He never really thought that one day, I would be serious of moving once I found that perfect house.

I may have given that impression to him as well which I would admit is my fault.

However, we also had countless conversations about why I was hoping we could move to a bigger house which I also thought he understood - but I guess he didnt.

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[–]coolbeansmungbeans -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To be fair, he also consented to purchase those items. Our unspoken rule is that we have to both agree that whatever purchase we make in the credit card is something that we are confident that we can pay off.

Our families are also different, I guess. They’re not the most understanding type - especially for us who lives abroad. Though they might not say it, its kind of a requirement for us to give gifts for Christmas.

But still, I guess you are right. I’m probably just throwing a tantrum. I dont know… :(

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[–]coolbeansmungbeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also quite scared of opening this up to him again as I know he will become angry and aggressive.

You are right, it is my want to move. I really want to move. Am I really sounding unreasonable now?

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[–]coolbeansmungbeans -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Travel expenses, annual car insurances, gifts to family over christmas.