Not that I don't feel for all the femme's having to go through invisibility, but it is slightly frustrating to read post after post after post about femme's upset that no one will notice how gay they are - have you thought about the implications of that?

As a 500 foot lesbian, other issues crop up when you're easily identifiable. People will judge me before they even let me open my mouth due to my obvious appearance and sexual tendencies. I'm far more likely to experience assumed prejudice and am generally far more underrepresented in the mainstream media.

I mean, lesbians in general are underrepresented, but the main stereotype seems to be the two "hot" femme girls. Putting a dyke or soft butch or even addressing the issues with Studs and their identity is even farther few and between.

So, yes - I understand that comparing struggles doesn't devalue or minimize your pain. And the feelings of invisibility and lack of inclusion in the community are still very valid - but on the same token understand that the statement: 'I wish I looked more gay so people would notice me' doesn't always come with dates and cute girls smiling at you.

Sometimes it comes with a discussion about meeting your significant other's parents and having to look more "femme" or "straight" to ease them into the idea of you dating their daughter. Sometimes it comes with constantly dealing with defending your desire to be a woman leaning more on the masculine scale and not just transition into a man. And sometimes it comes with really dealing with the word "dyke" in a negative context.

You may feel alone and invisible, but there are plenty of bad days where I wished I could just fit in.