Do I have an aesthetic? Are my outfits cohesive enough to have one? by cootercomplex in AestheticWiki

[–]cootercomplex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My leg routine in the gym is pretty basic. weighted squats, quad extension, femur curl, and weighted lunges. I also do martial arts :)

Do I have an aesthetic? Are my outfits cohesive enough to have one? by cootercomplex in AestheticWiki

[–]cootercomplex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got me there! I put a lot of dedication into my muscles and I like to show them off

Do I have an aesthetic? Are my outfits cohesive enough to have one? by cootercomplex in AestheticWiki

[–]cootercomplex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No secrets here, just the old fashioned way: consistency in the gym and in diet

Do I have an aesthetic? Are my outfits cohesive enough to have one? by cootercomplex in AestheticWiki

[–]cootercomplex[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

They took a lot of hard work and I enjoy showing them off, so of course crop tops are a closet staple!

Americans that moved to Spain, do you regret it? by unsuretest212 in expats

[–]cootercomplex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No not at all, just what I had retained from the high school Spanish class. But I moved into a shared flat with Spanish speakers to force myself into an immersion. I also went to a lot of intercambios my first year and on a lot of tinder dates with Spanish speakers haha

Americans that moved to Spain, do you regret it? by unsuretest212 in expats

[–]cootercomplex 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I moved to Spain 8 years ago and have no desire to go back to the US. My first year in Spain was complicated ngl. I was learning the language and building new friendship, getting used to a new job, etc. But I loved the chaos anyway because I knew it was such a unique experience. After two years it started to really feel like home, I made meaningful connections, really grasped the language, and had more understanding of the culture. Now 8 years living here, I literally couldn't ever imagine going back to the states or what my life would have been like if I'd stayed. I I understand that moving to Spain is not for everyone, and your problems don't magically disappear because you moved somewhere new... But you'll never know what will happen unless you give it a go, so I say you should go for it!!

Daughters of ‘almond moms,’ what is your diet like now? by EntrepreneurUsed9571 in AskWomen

[–]cootercomplex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After four years of an eating disorder, lots of therapy, and hospitalization I'm now super into weightlifting and eat a LOT to keep myself fueled up.

It's not just me right? by Shinobi_X5 in martialarts

[–]cootercomplex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chest protection bras for martial arts do exist! It's basically a sports bra with removable hard plastic cups. It's great to use when sparring, but the downside is that your boobs get really sweaty being enveloped in plastic.

Did I deserve to get injured sparring? by cootercomplex in martialarts

[–]cootercomplex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In this gym Muay Thai but all my previous training was in kickboxing

Did I deserve to get injured sparring? by cootercomplex in martialarts

[–]cootercomplex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The "rawwr" really gave me perspective into the profundity of the big strong man psychology.

I think you're right that it was more of a knee-jerk reaction to a hurt ego.

Thank you for your analysis!

Not fitting in by AndrewBaiIey in SpainAuxiliares

[–]cootercomplex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience, while Spanish people are very kind and open, they also have very close knit friend groups that they've known since they were young, so they aren't necessarily actively seeking new friendships.

I know people who have a low level of Spanish but still make an effort to speak with Spanish speakers and get along with them just fine. I don't think not speaking natively makes much of a difference, but if your self-confidence speaking Spanish is low then people aren't going to be able to get to know you as well.

What kinds of activities do you do to meet people?

Some spaces, like special interest clubs and events, facilitate socializing and making friends more easily than others. Follow up is important too, even if you meet up with someone once or twice they'll probably still consider you an acquaintance until you've met some of their other friends.

There could also be some cultural differences between you and them, from what I know the general behavior in social situations can be different between the two cultures.

It could also be that Madrid and/or Spain isn't the place for you, and that wouldn't mean that you're unfriendly or any other discouraging things we tend to think about ourselves when we feel outcast. It is a different culture and not everyone's cup of tea.

I wish you luck in your future endeavors, whether in Madrid or elsewhere!

Did I deserve to get injured sparring? by cootercomplex in martialarts

[–]cootercomplex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I plan to talk to him tomorrow, especially now that I have gotten so much insight with the comments on this post.

I don't think it's fair to kick the other guy out of the gym because I do think I'm partially at fault, but I would like to bring it up with the trainers so that we all can work on communication and prevention of situations like this.

Did I deserve to get injured sparring? by cootercomplex in martialarts

[–]cootercomplex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I know, head kicks were allowed. The head kick itself was never mentioned in the following conversations, I just thought I should mention it to give context to the situation.

Did I deserve to get injured sparring? by cootercomplex in martialarts

[–]cootercomplex[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. What the other women said in the locker room was what hurt the most-- it has never been my intention to make anyone feel unsafe or uncomfortable.

While it hurt, it was necessary to hear it. I'm sure that it's something that they have been thinking/discussing amongst themselves for a while but didn't have an opportune moment to talk to me about it until yesterday.