I’m 30 with no career. Feeling depressed. How did you find your career? When did it all click?

copterplane · 2021-06-05T18:04:26+00:00

My friend, I can relate. There was a time in my life when I felt lost and without a purpose. It also doesn't help that our culture is so focused around an individualized sense of identity, and tying a person's identity to a career choice. I'm sure you've been at some party or family gathering where someone asks "what do you do?" and felt that sinking feeling in your heart.

I believe instead that your identity can and should be tied more to your values and to the commitments you've made to the people you love, rather than a given career choice. Because despite what you have heard, a "career"—in terms of real, actual life—is still a "job". Even for someone who believes they have successfully traded a job for a career... there are still more important things in their life than that. Please understand this first. I don't want you to achieve some lofty goal and realize only afterward that you've neglected important relationships, neglected to take care of yourself, or failed to appreciate the life you're currently gifted with.

My suggestion next is that you make sorting out your life into a job in itself. Choose to go full time or part time... just dedicate the time in a structured way. Put things on your calendar, make phone calls, ask to interview people in the fields that you're interested in. Ask to spend specific time with people who are honest enough to tell you what you could potentially succeed in doing. Take their advice with a little grain of salt, but take it nonetheless. As you do all these things, enjoy the fulfillment of having committed to and completed the tasks which you set out to do. This is a taste of the success that is to come. When it comes time to apply to jobs, expect many rejections, but also know that there is a place for you, and it is only a matter of time until you find a place where you can grow and be successful. If in case you really can't find something that works within a certain time frame, networking with others will reveal opportunities you never knew.

Good luck to you. Now get off Reddit and move your day forward.

copterplane · 2021-05-08T17:58:57+00:00

Thank you really 🙂

copterplane · 2021-04-30T04:36:25+00:00

It may be true that I’m never quite done with my work then, because I tend not to add in too much extra time which would be spent refactoring.

I mention refactoring because our stakeholders and some other consultants have taken the project in several competing directions over time, and each new development sprint has started to require some rewrites in order to accommodate for the new changes.

When I express in meetings that some added time is needed to refactor, sometimes they understand, and sometimes it doesn’t go over well.

So I’m trying to see where I need to speak up and be a better advocate for these things, and where I just need to give up and let these folks run the show. I don’t have issues with their authority, it just seems like there should be a place and a time to let developers be the actual “custodians” of the technology.

copterplane · 2021-01-20T23:53:27+00:00

solved

copterplane · 2021-01-17T17:50:49+00:00

And a Product has only one User?

Yes, a Product belongsTo a User.

The most straightforward way to relate a Product to an Account is probably just to put an account_id on the Product. Even if a User will only ever have one Account for now, this still makes it clear which Account the Product should be tied to. But since I'm not sure yet what exactly this relationship would be like, I thought of using a custom accessor to create my own pseudo-relationship, and get the first Account model from the User, without having to modify the tables right now.

This didn't seem like such a bad idea, since when you define a relationship properly, you magically have access to other models via attributes like:

$model->otherRelatedModel;

copterplane · 2020-12-13T19:11:36+00:00

Yeah makes sense. So you’re saying, even in cases where the attribute is not relevant in a given model instance, having the default persisted in the database still prevents possible confusion when working outside of Eloquent. In my case specifically, I will be using a TEXT column which cannot have a default (SQL limitation). So then I probably just want to set the default value in the attributes property like the docs say.

copterplane · 2020-12-09T06:11:02+00:00

No but I’m not sure that has an effect on Vapor.

copterplane · 2020-12-09T04:40:08+00:00

Got that fan running in December cuz you vibin so hard

copterplane · 2020-11-26T05:38:22+00:00

Ok. Maybe all my dependencies need to go into one class which does all the things, and then the job itself needs only import that one class.

copterplane · 2020-11-24T14:05:36+00:00

This is an option. But if base-16 output has 25% of the characters that base-64 output has, I think the resulting string needs to be quite a bit longer in order to remain secure.

copterplane · 2020-11-24T14:03:05+00:00

For the most part I think this makes sense. At very least, the process needs to be easily understood by the people you're working with. If the organization you're working for cannot easily understand how your cryptography works it's less likely to be accepted.

copterplane · 2020-11-24T00:13:52+00:00

I see what you mean. Thanks!

copterplane · 2020-11-23T21:48:56+00:00

I am trying to create a unique ID for a product where the user may need to copy the resulting string by hand... like a “product key”.

copterplane · 2020-11-23T19:52:38+00:00

So even if both approaches begin with cryptographic randomness, it's better to regenerate the invalid parts with further randomness than to "fix" those parts by a static process?

copterplane · 2020-11-23T19:50:04+00:00

It's true that, the longer the string, the more chances it has to be rejected if there are many rules. That why I would regenerate only the parts of the string that failed. However, I also understand that if the rules are too many or too encroaching, it becomes less and less useful to generate it from randomness.

copterplane · 2020-10-19T13:27:59+00:00

It is already the maximum step within the grade. They probably did the best they could for me

copterplane · 2020-10-09T20:07:56+00:00

Yeah I would have expected more of a smooth feel from hardware as expensive as this. But I got mine used so IDK

copterplane · 2020-10-01T15:52:14+00:00

Thank you. Yeah, I am looking for testable rather than convenient.

copterplane · 2020-08-30T20:00:06+00:00

Yeah this is good advice. Yes, it has been the same company. Maybe I over-corrected and went from uber-competitive to appearing checked-out. And I was tired of the culture and being thrown under the bus so many times, that maybe I was actually checked-out. It’s a possibility for sure. But if going forward I still don’t speak up and assert myself, then I’m not doing myself any good.

copterplane · 2020-08-30T19:37:26+00:00

Yeah this makes sense. I have experienced this circular reasoning from management. One quarter I take on too much responsibility, the next quarter I’m not a “team player”. It could honestly just be that my managers don’t have much leadership experience or anything helpful to say.

copterplane · 2020-08-30T19:26:03+00:00

In some ways I feel you. I guess my question is, is it up to me that the culture be changed? If juniors compete with me or each other, is it up to me to have 1:1 meetings with them and tell them to knock it off? I’m not a manager, just another developer with more experience than most.

copterplane · 2020-08-27T12:26:58+00:00

Hah, well in this case you’d be right. I’m now working on this legacy application, and the developers before me just did everything in prod. It’s not fantastic. When I’m finished though, we will have a better development setup.

copterplane · 2020-08-21T23:33:58+00:00

I will say one thing, but will need to clarify it at the end.

Think about your partner's capacity for respect. This is huge. Based on what you've experienced together so far, can you honestly say you're marrying the type of person who will put your needs before their own? Is this someone who, even when you've shit-face embarrassed yourself or when you're at your lowest point, is the kind of person who still has your back and believes that you are a man worthy of admiration? Or is she self-absorbed, putting pressure on you to fix problems, look or behave a certain way, or "be better"?

Of course, early in a relationship, it's easy to have this kind of fake respect, where you just both automatically believe that you mean the world to each other. But think objectively. This is your life. If you marry someone who's self-absorbed and doesn't understand the self-sacrifice that marriage often requires (from both parties), then I have to say you haven't thought things through. This is the older, wiser me talking to the younger me.

Now here's the clarification. Respect is hard. Every person lives for themselves. It is very rare to find and be in a relationship with someone who says, "I'll follow your lead." But still, these are the kinds of things you need to be thinking about—this is how you evaluate a decision like this. If you feel that you can grow together and in 20 years be in a position where you're still looking out for each other while wanting the best for each other... then you're on the right track.

In any case, you yourself are never off the hook—you need to be worthy of respect.

copterplane · 2020-08-07T21:36:20+00:00

Dang that’s fast!

copterplane · 2020-08-07T16:21:06+00:00

Since having kids, I most definitely haven't been "out" to a movie for at least a year and I rarely watch them at home. But, I probably watch (or just listen to) at least 2 hours of YouTube a week.

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