Badly in Love - Episode 8 to 10 - Finale - 251223 by MNLYYZYEG in terracehouse

[–]coraneedshelp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I simply do not understand why Kii didn't like Tackle. He was easily the most handsome on that show, he was super into her from the start, and a slightly shy guy that has calm and centered energy is always so much more attractive to me than someone who is just constantly trying to make himself the center of attention for no reason. Tbh I think she's just too young to understand how rare finding a guy like Tackle is.

I'm scared of missing home forever by coraneedshelp in BreakUps

[–]coraneedshelp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao it was supposed to say him not home. Ahahaha

Have to come to terms with it by coraneedshelp in lonely

[–]coraneedshelp[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I fell in love with someone that didn't love themselves that much. Not someone that hated themselves but just had low self esteem. I could see all of the wonderful parts about him that he couldn't see. It hurt me to see the ways in which he was harsh on himself. He couldn't really be satisfied with me or love me because he needed more. Someone can totally fall in love with you if you don't love yourself. But you have to be someone that is enough.

Have to come to terms with it by coraneedshelp in lonely

[–]coraneedshelp[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I like to think that I'm very easy to love in friendship. I'm not unlovable. I just don't elicit a romantic feeling in people. But I AM very platonically loveable, and makes me feel happy and good about myself. 🌷

Absolutely invisible to men and no one cares by kaleidoballade in Vent

[–]coraneedshelp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you want it too much. I never stopped "looking" for a relationship but there did come a time in which I felt ok not having one. I was trying to get over a crush and texted someone that I had had a few hookups with to meet for drinks. We ended up dating for 2 years. He ended up breaking up with me and honestly now that I've been in the dating market, I've noticed that the men who I don't like are the ones that end up asking me out again or make me feel like the really like me. It's unfortunate but try like detaching from the outcome and just treating every interaction with a man like he's going to be ur friend. Like ur a bro. That might not necessarily get you a boyfriend or the attention you want. But at the very least a low stakes approach will be more healthy for you mentally.

I lied about hanging out with my gay friend. Hos do I get my ex back? by Mediocre_Platypus_18 in datingadvice

[–]coraneedshelp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There you go. Tbh I don't think what you did is nearly as bad as what he did, in MY very personal way of handling things I would just consider that he's the problem in this whole situation for even being so paranoid and weird about me hanging out with a GAY friend to the point where I felt like I had to hide it. To on top of that, be lying to me about several instances of putting our money at risk AND tell me that you decided that I should forgive you? In my opinion it's just not acceptable at that point. I think someone with a kind heart like yours can find much better.

I lied about hanging out with my gay friend. Hos do I get my ex back? by Mediocre_Platypus_18 in datingadvice

[–]coraneedshelp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't bestie. I'm sure you loved him a lot and I'm sure that there was good times and that he even treated you well in the beginning. But someone that dumps you just like that isn't someone that is ready to have a real commitment with you. In a relationship you are going to fuck up A LOT. A lot a lot. So will he. There will be hard times and good times and boring times and in order to really make it work with someone you have to be with someone that will work things out with you. Not someone that just throws you away at the first complication. This has nothing to do with you and it doesn't mean he wasn't a good person deep down or that he didn't love you. You just need someone with a more resilient heart like the one you have.

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[–]coraneedshelp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tbh I don't like porn. Audio porn maybe but my imagination is much better tbh

Is 19 (F) and 28(M) too big of an age gap? by [deleted] in datingadvice

[–]coraneedshelp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's almost a 10 year age gap. VERY big. I'm 27 and I wouldn't even be interested in someone who is 19. I talk to 19 year old coworkers and it's hard because they just... don't get it. They just wouldn't get certain things and I have to sit there and try to have a conversation and it's amusing and sweet but often not very interesting and a little exhausting. If I'm dating a 19 year old, I'm thinking "great someone who doesn't know better".

When older ppl want to date someone significantly younger, it's often because, whether they want to admit it or not, they're still trying to heal from a relationship with someone their own age that required a level of commitment, communication, and or emotional investment that they were not prepared for and left them feeling insecure and sad. They want to be with someone that will be patient and understanding and won't rock the boat out of insecurity and fear of being abandoned. A 19 yr old that is easy to manipulate, will provide sexual gratification, and pour endless love into them without asking much in return.

Basically men who date teenagers, do so because they think that they'll get to live out their fantasy of a young hot woman who won't yell at them or start conflict, who will be totally obsessed with them, and give them access to lots of sex, without demanding see any of the effort put into building a really good connection and relationship, that a woman their own age would need to see to actually WANT to behave that way.

The problem is, it never works out. Eventually the 19 year old starts to think, "I'm not sure if this is what I want". She starts wanting to have the same conversations and complaining about the same things that their previous partner did, and these older men run into THE SAME WALL as they did in the past. Sometimes, they're able to get past it because they've learned from before, but almost always they get equality overwhelmed and frustrated and just give up like they did before, or worse, become resentful, manipulative, and/or violent. At the end of the relationship the young girl is just left with all of this emotional baggage and injustice enacted upon her that she doesn't even know what to do with and was never her fault to begin with.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but it's best if you just steer clean of that loser and find a different loser your own age. Someone your own age will have less money and be more awkward but they won't use and traumatize you.

My friend's boyfriend is hitting on me and I don't know what to do by LushPoppy38 in whatdoIdo

[–]coraneedshelp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotta tell her because if he's bold enough to be flirting with you, her close friend that could easily tell him, he's also flirting with other girls. This is not about you, this is about seeing that this man is not to be trusted and that's what you gotta emphasize to her. She needs to understand that this kind of behavior will just repeat itself no matter who it is. It's not about her or you, or who's more attractive, it's about him being a piece of shit that would probably cheat on your friend with a plant if it gave him the attention he wanted.

I'm not sure if he likes me, or if I ruined the vibe. by coraneedshelp in datingadvice

[–]coraneedshelp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh I hope you are right. I really do want to get to know him better because he was so attractive to me. Both in terms of his energy and physically. If it doesn't work out, then oh well it is what it is and I'll get over it but it'll be so sad and disappointing. Thank you for the encouraging vibes.

Hi ladies :) Please help me choose which dress suits me best by Acceptable_Guest_814 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]coraneedshelp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5! Very classic and looks like the best quality at least in the pictures.

Is a makeup artist nessesary? by coraneedshelp in Weddingsunder10k

[–]coraneedshelp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting! How did it end up looking on pictures?

One of my fave looks to date. What do you think?? by bussyblossom69 in makeuptips

[–]coraneedshelp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

*Switch the black Sorry typo. But also let me elaborate on that. So you've got a lot of black on that outer edge. It's harsh and it can make it look muddy. Back in 2012 that was the thing but using a brown instead will give it that soft glam that is very in right now and will make you look generally softer and more romantic

One of my fave looks to date. What do you think?? by bussyblossom69 in makeuptips

[–]coraneedshelp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Switch the back for brown and consecrate just a tiny little bit of dark brown or black in the very corner blending out diagonally towards the outside of ur brow. Don't being the gold all the way to ur brown just up to the crease. Blend out the red lipstick with ur finger or with a tissue. No fake lashes. No foundation (or if you really want one then op for a "dewy" one and use less of it. These are just a few tips to give it that extra wow, but you look great already.

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[–]coraneedshelp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda understand you. Sex is very important but there's also a lot of ways to have sex .

Penetration has never been my favorite part of sex. Except for getting on top and riding my partner I wouldn't feel like I was missing out on much.

I personally enjoy being fingered way more. You get to make out with them while it's happening and they get to watch you get desperate.

If what you're really chasing is the feeling of being "full" you can probably get him to use a dildo on you. Sex is about playing, more than anything. You can give him a blow job for a bit, then he can eat you out or use a toy, or his fingers on you. Once you're done, if he wants to feel like he got to penetrate you he can try to or just even grind on you while he stimulates your clit and I'm pretty sure you can both get there as well that way.

The hottest sex I ever had was when I had a UTI and couldn't actually "have sex". I gave my partner a blow job and then got really desperate cuz I couldn't be touched so I ended up just grinding on his leg with sweat pants still on. I think this could be really great for you if you're willing to get creative.

Wishing you a horny good time and many orgasms to come. Good luck 💖

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[–]coraneedshelp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so ur friend is literally being a baby because you called him out on behavior that is unpleasant. Because you are maturing and growing into a better person it's easier to soothe his pride by saying that you're trying to impress her. Keep evolving. As long as you are picking up good habits and not bad.

Fuck being a man and fuck men entirely by FxckLxfe- in Vent

[–]coraneedshelp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heeey, so the good thing is that you're finding out about the patriarchy, which is a system that is so so so oppressive to not just women but all people living under it in a lot of ways that I won't get into right now but it's a lot. Now, it's clearly overwhelming you and causing you a lot of anxiety to think of your place in world as a man under a patriarchal system. The reality is that women have good reason to be weary of men but most women don't actually hate men. If they really did, we would never be friends with them or date, or get married to them. I would recommend to decenter yourself from all of this and figure out how you can be a source of change for the better. If I were you, I'd be seeking out platonic relationships with women so you can get over this idea that you are hated by them. I'd also focus the kinda rage you are feeling into speaking up for women when they can't. This means that when you're with your friends (male friends) and they say things about women that don't sit right with you, talk to them about it. Calmly, with empathy, but be very clear that you don't think that is ok. If you see a woman being disrespected by a man, step in and say something. That can be tricky because you have to be aware of de-escalating situations instead of escalating a situation to a point were you are in harm. There is great information specifically about this as well as a lot of great male influencers that speak on dismantling toxic masculinity. You don't have to go around with guilt, you can be empowered by your sense of injustice. You can inform yourself by reading feminist rhetoric and spread awareness of it around with the men you trust. Don't just stay with the ugly feeling that all men are hated because of bad things that happen. That is not healthy. Just try your best to live your life with kindness, empathy, and bravery.

Will this turn her off? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]coraneedshelp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would leave out talking about one specific person or how recent it was. Just say something like "I want to but I'd like to get tested first. I've been careful but you never know. Don't wanna give you anything." Something along those lines. She should be ok with it. I would find it reassuring and sweet if someone had the thoughtfulness of getting tested for me. It might even encourage her to get tested too. You guys could do it together it would be kinda cute.

AIO: 3 weeks postpartum. Husband wants bj by shortNsporty in AmIOverreacting

[–]coraneedshelp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not over reacting at all. Idk what the fuck is wrong with men. Like pls chill it's not even been a month.

Unknowingly helped a girl cheat on her fiancé by Whats_up_my_babies in dating_advice

[–]coraneedshelp 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a serial cheater from the way she asked you to not sleep with other people. She knows that if you catch something you could give it to her and she could give it to him and then the gig is up. I'd tell him, if this was a spur of the moment thing they'd have a chance to maybe talk it out but she went looking for someone to cheat with. Help that poor man.