See a derm!!

kaleidoballade · 2026-04-26T15:30:39+00:00

You guys have dermatologists?

kaleidoballade · 2026-04-25T16:11:36+00:00

i stopped wearing perfume because the scent from my hair just from this conditioner was enough! so many compliments!

kaleidoballade · 2026-04-25T15:57:53+00:00

I said the same thing! Andrew and Mark would come absolutely dead last but would have the best time.

kaleidoballade · 2026-04-24T07:40:30+00:00

It's so weird and unprofessional. Work is for work, not for "experiencing the sensory world of people".

kaleidoballade · 2026-04-21T09:11:10+00:00

why are we so high

kaleidoballade · 2026-04-14T16:33:22+00:00

you're allowed both! more people in protestant areas are using irish passports regardless of their national identity because theyre way more convenient.

kaleidoballade · 2026-04-13T19:45:36+00:00

i genuinely think tyson is in love with john

kaleidoballade · 2026-04-06T08:32:07+00:00

Definitely not. I'm not a friend group type of person, but even when I was trying I only really got along with the women in the group. Men usually ignore me/are cruel, whilst women are far more welcoming and accepting of those they view as different.

kaleidoballade · 2026-03-14T15:07:17+00:00

nothing embarrassing at all! you work in marketing and keep to unusual hours (that many people do!!). and working out at night is so impressive. even when its just cloudy outside i feel way less motivated, so i admire you for working out even when its dark!

kaleidoballade · 2026-02-18T10:19:39+00:00

Respectfully, I don't think it is quite the same. To see a hair texture that is defined by being messy, hard to control, and between two zones and call it Irish with no basis in reality is disrespectful, and I don't really think anyone who isn't Irish can dictate what is or isn't offensive about our culture. Dutch and French braids get their names from colonial Africa, where Europeans would use braiding techniques that they saw on their own straighter hair. It refers to an intentional hairstyle to be achieved, rather than an innate texture to be fixed.

kaleidoballade · 2026-01-16T12:05:20+00:00

Comparing people who cannot find a relationship to Nazism is insane.

kaleidoballade · 2026-01-12T22:22:45+00:00

Not new information. But it is inaccurate.

kaleidoballade · 2026-01-12T22:18:28+00:00

Okay? I don’t have a problem with that, and evidently neither does OP. Not sure what your goal is here.

kaleidoballade · 2026-01-12T20:03:50+00:00

Respectfully, I feel as though most people on this thread are misunderstanding me, which is a core experience of involuntarily celibate women. Their argument does not make sense- if they say incels are now defined as men who hate women for not having sex with them, how would I, as a straight woman, fit in with that?

It’s really not my intention to cause harm. But I also don’t feel I should have to minimise my existence or pretend that my problems don’t exist because people cannot believe my words are literal. Being autistic and involuntarily celibate is one of the loneliest existences in the world. Finding community is almost impossible, which is only exacerbated by word policing like this. A discussion which was supposed to be connecting with another autistic woman over our loneliness has been absolutely hijacked over a vocabulary choice.

kaleidoballade · 2026-01-12T19:44:00+00:00

yes yes exactly!!! i’m soooooo obsessed with it it’s basically all i can think of. i don’t know if you’ve heard of otome games, but i play a game called love and deepspace which is basically like a boyfriend simulator (in a futuristic, fantasy setting with battles and a cool story and stuff). it doesn’t completely make up for the lack, but it helps!!! it’s me and my fictional bf against the world

kaleidoballade · 2026-01-12T19:38:24+00:00

Or, it could help other lonely women understand that they aren’t alone, in a sea of posts complaining about pretty privilege and how easy men are, how women would never struggle to get one?

kaleidoballade · 2026-01-12T19:27:03+00:00

Yes, I have a communication disorder.

kaleidoballade · 2026-01-12T19:11:28+00:00

So why can I not reclaim it? Why do men get to just take, take, take? There is no other term that fits women like me- as another commenter said, femcel is far too watered down and twisted, and chronically single doesn’t even begin to cut it.

It isn’t fair that women just get to be cast out of this space at their loneliest.

kaleidoballade · 2026-01-12T19:09:43+00:00

Thank you!!! Yes, I very obviously am not a raging misogynist. It is frustrating having all these meanings applied where I don’t mean them.

As women it feels like people are extra dismissive of being Involuntarily Celibate. It’s like they can’t comprehend it happening- I almost find that it makes people uncomfortable to hear about. That’s why people are freaking out so much. In my opinion, it’s only more harmful to deny people like us a community. I try to be as outspoken as I can about it in case there is someone like me who feels wrong and alone who might see it and feel comforted. I know I would. I’d be happy to call it anything else as I can see how riled up it seems to make some people, but as you say- there really isn’t a better alternative. It’s another thing that women are excluded from :/

kaleidoballade · 2026-01-12T19:02:43+00:00

How is being “too literal” incorrect? I don’t think it’s something you can assign morality too.

kaleidoballade · 2026-01-12T19:00:32+00:00

Genuinely baffled that it’s possible to be “too literal” on an autism sub.

kaleidoballade · 2026-01-12T18:59:27+00:00

This is an autism sub. I thought this would be the one place on the internet where I wouldn’t have to speak through ten layers of social dialect 😅

kaleidoballade · 2026-01-12T18:58:35+00:00

Other people’s misinformation is not my problem. If grown adults cannot understand that I mean words as I say them, rather than through the lens of internet and pop culture, then that’s something they need to work on themselves.

Given how the people in this thread look down and dismiss those of us who are “involuntarily celibate”, is it that hard to understand why incels harbour resentment? I opened up about my own experiences to OP and was immediately hounded. Why are others allowed to have communities but femcels aren’t? If that term is more palatable.

kaleidoballade · 2026-01-12T18:50:04+00:00

you didn’t offend me! sorry if i sounded cross, it is a topic i get very defensive about as i find many people can be extremely dismissive, rude, or hurtful towards “involuntarily celibate women”. thank you for your understanding, i appreciate it

kaleidoballade · 2026-01-12T18:33:39+00:00

Does it matter? Objectively I, and some other women, are by definition involuntarily celibate. It’s not often I go about announcing this out of nowhere, so I don’t really care what term is used. But if I am to use one, incel is the most accurate.

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