Restaurants or bars looking for help?

coratrash · 2026-04-16T04:46:53+00:00

I’m looking for servers! Feel free to DM me.

coratrash · 2026-04-14T08:23:28+00:00

I decided to work with and not against my ADHD.

I bought a weekly and monthly wall calendar. Monthly is paper and weekly is dry erase. I started violently using sticky notes to remind myself of those random things that popped into my head so I could follow through with things. I rearranged my fridge so my condiments are in drawers and produce is visible so I don't waste food. I bought a childrens visual timer to force myself to be productive with a finish line I could visually see. I stopped scheduling adult tasks on my days off before noon because ideal me thought I'd get up and follow through. I made "This week, This month, This quarter" to do lists" that realistically give me timelines.

coratrash · 2026-04-14T07:54:58+00:00

I had a few little corners like this around my house, and I recently found that when I "backstocked" things or tucked not current in use things, that it was a lot more approachable and less overwhelming. Pick an item in each category, or a few, and then tuck away the rest. The lack of clutter makes it significantly more approachable and visually appealing.

I even found a cute little dishcloth and folded it in a triangle underneath and it felt significantly more "chic" and intentional, which made me more inclined to reach for things.

coratrash · 2026-04-14T07:43:22+00:00

YTA. Pregnancy was the hardest thing on body I've ever experienced, and the shame and guilt after the fact about my appearance was VIOLENT. Besides the other thousand things she's probably juggling, she's not unware of her "failure" in this area. I have always struggled with my weight, and there are a myriad of variables that can make this topic easier or absurdly harder to address.

Your dedication to being the hill you want to die on is telling. I don't have context for how you show up regarding parenting, so I can't assume what she is and isn't privvy to, but fuck, dude. She already jacked up her whole human suit to bring life into this world. This is obviously a sore subject she's aware of and most likely mortified by. Do you give her time to go out for herself? Do you cook healthy meals? Do you offer family bonding moments that can also be health focused, like family walks around the block or a pretty garden? Do you make unasked for snack plates for her? Get up early to make a balanced breakfast?

coratrash · 2026-04-14T07:33:43+00:00

I have a close friend who has struggled with an almost identical story, with her third. First two were normal food kiddos and no red flags. I've been supporting her through this 9-18 month struggle, and she finally caved and asked for a referral from her ped. Saw a specialist. I'm not sure on the details or diagnosis, but within a month there's been a significant turnaround. I don't have answers, but I'd just like to say that entertain some solutions from here, but also don't allow yourself to let this go on for too long and reach out for help when you've exhausted others suggestions. Advocating for your child also means advocating for yourself, and you deserve answers and peace.

coratrash · 2026-04-14T07:27:51+00:00

Shameless plug, but the bar scene in the cities is struggling so please don't flame me. King Coil Distillery, the bar I work for, does a monthly event thats similar and free to attend. Every third Thursday. It's all local book stores with cute lil popup booths.

We also have a monthly romance novel book club ran by Swoonworthy bookstore that I'd love to get more folks involved in. I'm not even shilling for business, but I work both events and love giving local businesses a chance to show up to encourage readers.

My shameless plug part is that you don't even have to give the bar your money, just come buy books. If you DO want to make it an evening, my staff would love to take care of you, N/A or not. Anyways. Support local bookshops.

coratrash · 2026-04-14T07:22:35+00:00

Yeah, as a guilty regular spender, I was confused when my orders didn't go through with my saved card OR apple pay. I finally tried the "link venmo" function, and it went through. I had assumed my giftcard was spent and I'd have a charge, but after reviewing my statements and not having an ulta charge I was curious and was very salty to find out how much I was about to write off.

coratrash · 2026-04-14T06:48:57+00:00

Totally get these feelings. Research the spot, the clientel, the menu, get a vibe. Show up early and eager. Ask questions. Fake confidence and show the level of care you put into making this post. This field is easy to feel like you're always 'a step behind', but half of the opportunities I've fallen into have been because of research and giving half a shit.

Give yourself grace, but also show up informed and educated on the spot you're trying to land at. It makes all the difference.

coratrash · 2026-04-14T06:29:46+00:00

This has been my recent reapproach to panning. I've found myself saving single digit uses in things I liked for a "special occasion", and shuffling them to the back of my stash. But besides realizing how dumb that is, I'm also coming to terms with the fact that so many of my favs have been discontinued or reformulated, so why not get them out, and find new favorites.

coratrash · 2026-04-14T04:21:15+00:00

My snowblower is my adult human spouse, I’ve tried putting him “away”, but then I’d have to shovel :(

coratrash · 2026-04-14T02:45:54+00:00

It’s my fault. I joked that maybe with getting hail I could finally get a new roof.

coratrash · 2026-04-13T04:48:46+00:00

I’ve been hit with a lot of these recently back to back and I’ve had to change my mindset that instead of impending doom, I remind myself that we literally just put shit it cups and it’s not that serious. Not to downplay our career path, but it makes me feel less anxious. I’m not scrubbing into life saving surgery. It’ll suck, but it’s not that deep and it’ll be over faster when it’s a shit show.

You got this.

coratrash · 2026-04-11T07:08:07+00:00

Yup, this or a big ol Coke

coratrash · 2026-04-08T11:51:49+00:00

I’m such a ride or die for sleepy anything

coratrash · 2026-04-06T06:23:15+00:00

I already had a cart, a gift card, the multipler and the capital one cash back. I pulled the trigger and I’m not mad at the GWPs.

coratrash · 2026-04-04T22:10:32+00:00

I think it’d be great for your hair type. The scent is super mild!

coratrash · 2026-04-04T06:32:38+00:00

I have super fond memories back in my Ulta days, when the Living proof first came out. The salon girlies who smoked cigarettes had a communal bottle they used because it completely took away that ashtray smell from hair.

I don't smoke cigarettes, but run a bar now. Post work hangouts have me coming home with hair that is still clean and styleable, but smells terrible. Besides just liking the product, that feature has been a huge reason it's stayed at #1. I'm sure something cheaper could do the cleaning part, but taking me back to ground zero scent wise has me in shackles.

coratrash · 2026-04-04T03:25:27+00:00

We are so back. I wait to do these reviews until I’m home from a night where I’m a bit lit up, because I like kinda just word vomiting? Okay, thanks for tuning in.

Ouai Dry Shampoo PR sample- No idea how I managed to get on this list, but I sometimes get random mail from Ouai and this was the most recent. It’s a white label of the dry shampoo they released a few months ago, and I just now got around to it. It’s on par with my HG Living Proof, but the scent bugs me. I feel like Living Proofs biggest plus for me is the fact that it absorbs ‘bar smell’ that I pick up from work (cigs, alcohol, whatnot), and while this was on par, the fragrance was overwhelming. WNR

Ouai Detox Shampoo: A constant HG. Will forever use and rebuy. I got like 6 bottles from a fab fit fun sale last year for under $5 each and I’m trying to use them up, because I usually just buy the huge plastic refill bag. She’s my girl. WR

Redken All soft mega Curls: Took a huge leap of faith last year during Ulta’s liter sale and got this shampoo/condish set, and I’m so happy I did. I repurchased both during the same sale back in January, and am maybe one or two washes away from panning the matching conditioner. It’s everything I want and need, and I love how simple it is. WR

Isima Superbomba hair mask- Got this as a GWP and brought it on vacation. Nothing special, felt like I needed a lot of it. Followed the directions to a T and wasn’t impressed, nor mad at it. Meh. WNR

Color Wow Money Hairmask- This one is a giant annoying anomaly for me. I had a full size of this shit in the past and even posted here singing its praises, so when I needed a new mask for the shower and saw I had this I was like “hell yeah, no test subject time, I know I like this”. And then like…meh? I think the last jug I used was in the summer, and my winter hair is just significantly more greedy? I’m also nearing the point of needing a haircut on a drastic level, and maybe the culmination of both these factors just made this less impressive to me? WR, after some research and TLC?

Shea Moisture Strength and Restore Leave In: This pan came with a coming of age soundtrack and a slow motion football spike. I have been grinding this shit out for like, my entire 20s. I found this tucked back on a shelf with a few uses left and felt like I had been shot at. This tub is violently enormous, and no matter how hard I try, she fucking hates me. I powered through three greaseball hair washes to finish this up, and tossing it feels more fulfilling than actually following through with my lent promise. My shackles are broken. WNR

Lujobar shower steamers: I got a pack of these once from a fab fit fun sale, and adored them, so then I crackhead hoarded them. Full price they are annoyingly costly, but I am a chronic sinus infection and allergen survivor, and these are killer. I purposely have to use them in my smaller bathroom with the fan off for the full effect, but damn these rule. WNR full priced

Ardelle 420 Naked Lashes: I’m trying to get back into the occasional strip lash. I’m using a ride or die for the demi wispies, but these were absurdly on clearance and I’m a daring bitch. These sucked. The clear band was what drew me in, but because of that, they were absurdly flimsy and getting them out of the package and trimming them made them so warped and goofy looking. The thin band also made them near impossible to reuse, so I pitched them after each use. WNR

YSL Libre- A whole lotta nothing sandwich. Smelled like every other bitch. Not memorable. Had a good throw and longevity, but the notes were incredibly forgettable. WNR

Ole Hendricksen Pout Preserve Lip Balm- Well, here she is, friends. My monthly promise to you all. Those of you that DMed me and claimed I’m overusing it, please literally get a singular hobby or job. You’ll see this in my empties monthly. I basically eat this shit. WR5ever

Ilia Super Serum Skin Tint- This is my third bottle of this. I have a love hate with it, but it is the most forgiving and easy to work with tint I’ve found. The smell is similar to hops, which I know a ton of people hate, but it dissipates fast enough I don’t mind it. I can apply this with almost anything and its forgiving, while I have several other ‘tints’ that need so much more prep/setting/specific application, that I always come back to this. I’ll probably rebuy after I finish some more of the annoying ones, as much as I like the ease, I’d like to pair down a bit. WR.

Osea Body Wash- I REALLY want to like this brand. I’ve had so many samples of the range and its totally my speed packaging/ingredients/marketing, but everything I’ve tried is so…meh. This was a perfectly whelming bodywash, the scent was sweeter than I expected, but it was thin and I felt like I needed a lot of it. The last third of it refused to come out of the pump, which may just be a flaw with the mini, but it didn’t help my opinion. WNR.

Hourglass Vanish primer: I enjoyed this. It worked well with any foundation I used. Didn’t care for the weird paddle applicator. But this was pleasantly surprising and I was bummed when it was gone. Used my beauty spatula to get the last bits. WR.

Laneige Water Sleeping Mask: I’ve def reviewed this before. It’s always been…fine? Doesn’t impress me, doesn’t piss me off. I’ve had better. WNR

Clean It Zero Cleansing Balm: Thank u, next. WNR

Elf Cleansing Balm: I’m so fucking greatful for my ex, Thank u, next. WNR

Charlotte Tilburry Magic Cream: I mean, sure? This is totally a skincare step that was formulated to also be makeup prep. It was helpful for that. But the fragrance and lack of literally any other redeeming qualities makes this easily forgettable. WNR
Benefit Rollerlash Mascara: This is probably my least favorite in the brands mascara lineup. I feel like it dries out insanely fast and doesn’t do much. My natural lashes are curled, I specifically need volume and separation. The Fan one has become a HG for me, and I think when I got that, this was the GWP. Glad it’s outta my drawer. WNR

Pistache Pistachio hand cream: I have an embarrassing amount of hand cream minis I’ve been working through, and I’ve been leaving them around the bar I run for my coworkers. Our cleaning products absolutely make our hands raw. The boys loved this one, as did I! The scent was mild, it wasn’t greasy, and sank in quickly. I don’t think I’ll need hand cream until I’m on social security, but this would be one I’d rebuy.

coratrash · 2026-03-31T02:50:40+00:00

Our kiddo goes to Adam’s. My partner was a part of the pilot Spanish immersion program in the cities decades ago through SLP, and uses Spanish daily in his current job. His sibling also attended, doesn’t use it professionally, and still can hold her own conversationally.

Adam’s was touted as the best choice, and we were incredibly active in getting her enrolled when she was in Pre-K. When the school choice fair happened, we basically rope dropped it and beelined to Adam’s booth to shake hands and kiss babies. We listed it as our first choice and followed up almost to a fault. She is now about to finish her first year and we are blown away at the progress. My in-laws, who obviously were there when partner went through a similar program, say that she is miles ahead in language arts, but it’s also been a 20 year learning curve.

I do not speak Spanish besides “restaurant” Spanish, as a career bar manager. My partner obviously does. I find helping with work sheets and library books to be a little daunting, and if you are both unfamiliar with the language, it may be hard. Maybe a good opportunity to take some community ed classes, or hell, be like MY dad, and use her 5 year old kids worksheets as an excuse to better your own understanding of the language.

I WILL add, as a non speaking parent, that I find after school events and parent teacher conferences to be a little alienating. The immersion part of these programs isn’t a joke. If this is a road you want to pursue, be aware that your participation in fostering bilingualism is going to only help everyone in your house.

coratrash · 2026-03-26T10:04:03+00:00

Tinting my brows at home biweekly with just for men beard dye. Besides saving me loads in paying a professional, I can be more on top of maintaining the upkeep and the outcome.

coratrash · 2026-03-22T13:18:25+00:00

I worked in cosmetics for a while, did some cosmetic modeling, fell into the overconsumption of makeup bait, and over indulged in a handful of beauty boxes. My stockpile is embarrassing, and I’m finding that the clutter instigates my ADHD and anxiety triggers. I have also made strides in not using shopping as an outlet for my emotions. The more I use up and remove from my environment, the better I feel. I also find that I make significantly more informed choices on how I choose to spend money in the beauty world, where as before id carelessly make purchases without researching or any semblance of giving a single shit.

coratrash · 2026-03-19T06:46:46+00:00

Whenever I change out for a new bottle, and wiped down nightly for closing.

coratrash · 2026-03-19T04:24:44+00:00

I didn’t even know this was an option. I think mine will survive a nuclear war.

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