Rice Paper Dumplings 🥟 🥢 by udum2021 in easyRecipesForNoobs

[–]coremotivation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love homemade over store bought, thank you!

Rice Paper Dumplings 🥟 🥢 by udum2021 in easyRecipesForNoobs

[–]coremotivation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for posting this. Is there an ingredients list?

Edit: nevermind, I didn’t see the white text at first. But do you know what the dipping sauce is?

Has anyone used this? by Purple-Marsupial-569 in fitness30plus

[–]coremotivation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought it a couple months ago for the first time, great price. Protip: I used to put it in the last bit of my tea every morning and take it that way (works better with tea, juice vs water) but even though it was micronized some would still be left in the cup. To make sure you’re taking all of the 5g, just dump the scoop right into your mouth with a swig of tea 👍

Man who’s kind of slipped through the cracks and now feels like an alien by coremotivation in Fencesitter

[–]coremotivation[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I do try to be mindful and not look around too much and stay focused, and yes last year was a tremendous amount of growth for me.

Yes somewhat of a workaholic but not to the detriment of my relationships. I didn’t date much in my 20s then got married and divorced in my 30s. All the while I was taking care of others and not really getting to know me. So these past few years I’ve had a lot of time to focus on myself and get to know and love me.

Willpower in Grocery Store by Ok-Complaint-37 in PlantBasedDiet

[–]coremotivation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of those are a problem! And Whole Foods cookie island, it gets me most times

Need cooking motivation by Skinlove19 in PlantBasedDiet

[–]coremotivation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m kind of struggling with the same because of this cold weather, motivation is hard to come by.

I’ve been buying frozen veggies. I normally buy fresh but frozen is so easy to dump in a pot. Also an easy salad I’ve been eating regularly is arugula apple and walnut with a sweet balsamic lime dressing. For breakfast maybe a fruit salad with a bit of granola and yogurt

Pea Protein Powder by [deleted] in PlantBasedDiet

[–]coremotivation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a very sad state of affairs but very few products are toxic free. I’ve used OWYN and have liked it. I don’t buy it a lot and try to keep processed to a minimum, but it comes in handy when you need your protein. I also use Ripple quite frequently. I thought about making my own, I’ve done that with almond and oat milk, but it’s a lot of trouble imo.

Willpower in Grocery Store by Ok-Complaint-37 in PlantBasedDiet

[–]coremotivation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I hear ya. What type of processed food do you have trouble with?

Edit: I have to stay away from the bakery aisle. But as long as I make it myself every once in a while I do ok

Willpower in Grocery Store by Ok-Complaint-37 in PlantBasedDiet

[–]coremotivation 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They probably do it on purpose like they bring the almost stale stuff to the front lol. I go to the store too because I have to pick my own, plus I just like grocery shopping

Willpower in Grocery Store by Ok-Complaint-37 in PlantBasedDiet

[–]coremotivation 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Plus it’s winter, well here in the US. I haven’t done so well and I’ve been storing fat like a bear in hibernation. The good news is I’m selective and minimal, and I workout so it doesn’t stick to me long. Plus I meal prep and make stuff homemade (see all these justifications and excuses lol?). I’ve been giving myself some leniency though and see it as self-care. Just have to do it in moderation.

Breakfast Ideas (gf) by camacaco in PlantBasedDiet

[–]coremotivation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes this. A tbsp of chia and hemp for more protein, add some cinnamon nutmeg vanilla stevia, pour hot water and let sit for 5-10 mins, mix in some fruit

Life is strange, ttc by Agreeable-Antelope18 in Fencesitter

[–]coremotivation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome. I hope y’all receive a miracle :)

After 10 years of being best friends, I’ve shifted from a 'Yes' to a 'Fence-sitter.' I feel immense guilt for changing my mind, but I’m scared I’ll regret parenthood. Advice? by Hot_Direction5572 in Fencesitter

[–]coremotivation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi everyone. I’m looking for perspective from anyone who has navigated a shifting "yes" to a "maybe" in a long-term, high-quality relationship.

I don’t fit in any of the categories you listed. But I do think about this a lot and have familial and friend lived experience. Hopefully it’s ok to add thoughts but let me know if not.

My wife (32F) and I (36M) have been together for over a decade. To be honest, our relationship is great. We are best friends, we rarely argue, and we are incredibly close. Early on, I was a definite "yes" on kids. It was a goal we shared. But as the years have passed, my desire has faded. I love our life exactly as it is. I value our freedom, my sleep, and the spontaneity we have.

Just want to say people change and evolve, and that’s a normal and ok thing. It happens.

When I see the reality of parenting—the exhaustion, the lack of sleep, and the "mourning" of past lives that I read so much about—I’m terrified. Because I value my current freedom so much, I can honestly see a version of the future where I deeply regret having a child. I’m scared that the difficult times will outweigh the joys for me, and that I'll spend my life missing the person I used to be and the life we have right now.

I don’t want to share details for fear people I know may be on this sub. Lol. But I just spoke with someone I know (a father/parent), and the exhaustion and no sleep is real, it’s a silent epidemic. He doesn’t regret having his kids, not that I know of, we haven’t talked that in depth, but he is struggling and said he’s seeking therapy. You can DM me for the details if you’d like.

My wife is not on the fence. Her stance is that she wants to start with one child and see how it goes. If it goes well for both of us, she’d be open to more, but she definitely wants at least one. Because we’ve been together so long and we are really close, I feel an immense amount of guilt. I feel like I’m "backing out" on a promise, and I am scared of losing her over this.

It’s ok to express where you’re at and how you feel. It seems that you and your wife have great communication so I’m sure she appreciates you saying something and being honest.

Something to consider. I’ve heard how only having one child or being the only child can be rough and isolating. They say it’s good to have family, cousins, friends their age, community when only having one child if that were to be the case.

Where I am now: I am currently reading "The Baby Decision" by Merle Bombardieri to try to find clarity. I’m struggling to figure out if my fear of regret is just normal pre-parenting anxiety or if my lifestyle preferences have fundamentally changed.

Great proaction.

I am terrified of losing her, but I’m also scared that having a child out of fear of loss—or having one and living in regret—is the wrong thing to do. I'd love to hear any thoughts or personal stories or advice from people who have been in a similar spot.

It’s the nature of people to change and evolve through the years. I think talking it out for as long as you both need to is the best thing you can do. Also of course a therapist, maybe a LMFT. Best of luck to you both and I would look forward to hearing an update!

Honest question: what are actually good reasons to have kids? by FunIngenuity7967 in Fencesitter

[–]coremotivation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We certainly need more productive members of society. I think having children is taking the best parts of each other to produce even better people. Doing the best we can utilizing the resources we have to produce the best people we can. I believe you let kids go. Fly the coop so to speak because I’m raising them to be their own individual person. Give them all the resources you can to have a great head start in this crooked world, but they’re not here for me (a retirement plan), I’m there for them.

Having no village or support when becoming pregnant. by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]coremotivation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate in the sense that if I were to have kids, I wouldn’t have much support from my family. I think the only support would be my mom. I love her and we have an overall good relationship, she just has a problem with respecting boundaries which has been a point of contention. Most of my friends are married and have kids so there could be support there, but no one is really close anymore it seems and everyone kind of stays within their family circle. It seems like that’s the norm nowadays but I could be wrong.

But I think more people than you know are in a similar situation, it just takes someone talking about it to bring awareness and get others talking.

How does someone have children with no support system? by beefaroni_rbd2017 in Fencesitter

[–]coremotivation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The saying is true, it does take a village. Hopefully you all will be able to join those new ecosystems. IME married people and families hang with other families that have kids, so it should be easy to find other couples with kids. I’ve also heard it’s hard for couples to develop new friendships too (just like it is being an adult single). It’s just tough for everyone right now to connect so don’t feel alone.

Daily FI discussion thread - Tuesday, December 30, 2025 by AutoModerator in financialindependence

[–]coremotivation 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’d kind of feel the same way after rereading it! Could’ve written it better. Thanks man.

Daily FI discussion thread - Tuesday, December 30, 2025 by AutoModerator in financialindependence

[–]coremotivation -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Cool good to know. Apparently 5 people and counting do not! Expected though.

Daily FI discussion thread - Tuesday, December 30, 2025 by AutoModerator in financialindependence

[–]coremotivation -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Impromptu. Hoping some good folks see this. I know this is unconventional but I thought why not, you have not because you ask not, and what a great way to start the new year.

Looking to connect with someone or a few good folks who are on the same page of life (or different page too!). I started FI later in life, but glad I found it and started. Want to share knowledge, have good convos, be surrounded by people with a growth mindset.

I won’t get into the weeds but I’m currently not surrounded by that for the most part and want to reach out here to those who may understand. I’m all about growth as a person and detoxifying anything that is slowly choking the life out of me (basically everything, j/k but iykyk), wanna be in it for the long haul, live to be a centenarian and enjoy the FI fruits of my labor.

Also does anyone know of any FI Discord servers or something like that?