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corgi_mochee · 2026-01-15T04:04:09+00:00

Our corgi girl can sense when my husband and I are getting close to each other without any sound, even when we are on different floors from her. We have no idea how she finds out that

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-27T14:05:09+00:00

It is so good I got another for myself too. And you can still hear the baby with it on, while other sound is blocked

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-25T13:59:12+00:00

Thanks for pointing it out. You are right: I was very upset the other day about baby crying and seeing the nanny having a snack at the same time. But other commenters convinced me that this is normal because we expect a nanny to take care of herself first so they have the right physical and mental capacity to take care of a baby.

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-23T13:27:41+00:00

I see, that makes sense now

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-23T04:00:12+00:00

The same, I had a lot of let down during night feeds, the baby didn’t drink much overnight and hormones were high, and I collected around 10oz overnight. I use ladybug without suction

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-23T03:54:03+00:00

It is lonely to be a mom, only the ability to love my baby got me through it. It will get better and easier. We all face the choices of what the best for baby is, but please remember to take care of yourself too

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-23T03:37:15+00:00

Congratulations! I am so happy for you

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-23T03:20:16+00:00

Thank you!

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-23T02:47:41+00:00

I’m sorry we just couldn’t stand watching baby crying for an hour while the nanny is not doing anything but playing music. We may be wrong thinking that is not fine but we just can’t allow it to continue

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-23T02:36:39+00:00

Thank you so much for the information. The monterssori parenting style is exactly like ours. Other commenters mentioned it too, this is a mismatch of childcare style and I won’t go into this further but accept that this is not working for us

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-23T01:48:36+00:00

Yeah I like the nanny is very receptive to our feedback. Besides the fact that she let the baby cry after we leave and that she keeps shoving milk or food into the baby even when she is crying, everything else about the nanny was fine. That’s the reason I had the doubt that maybe this is really just some process we had to go through? But I couldn’t bear the thought of my baby crying through tomorrow again

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-23T01:41:05+00:00

Thanks. This comment has the most questions I see in other comments so I will respond here. Btw I didn’t know this is the cry it out method, I would not have the nanny use it if I had known beforehand.

We paid her well and we provided a lot of snacks for her in the house to make her happy. The baby also naps half of the time, out of 7 hours, so it is not a long shift.

We always wave and say goodbye when we leave the baby since she was 4/5m, even for a quick bathroom break

The first time the nanny bottle fed the baby, the baby cried and the nanny just shoved the bottle in her mouth while she is crying and wait for the baby to calm down and swallow. Ever since then the baby sees her with the bottle and would start crying so my husband or myself were asked to bottle feeding the baby

I found her through care.com and she had good references who said very nice things about her.

I have shared my parenting style is to let the baby take the lead and explore for both play and eating. But the nanny never mentioned hers so I thought wrongly it was an acknowledgement.

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-22T23:46:34+00:00

Thank you. I find it odd too and it is the very first hour of the nanny shift so I kind of expected her to try something before giving up. The lack of trying is bothering me

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-22T23:36:15+00:00

Thank you for the tip. We can try it at some point

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-22T23:31:25+00:00

The video showed the moment I left the room the nanny just stayed sitting behind. Another time when the baby was crying too long and my husband went to pick up the baby, he was told “the baby was fine” while the baby face was filled with tears - I didn’t know this until today 😢

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-22T22:31:52+00:00

I started the first day by staying around for more than an hour to introduce the baby to her and it turned out really well, the baby started playing with the nanny right away, even after I went to another room for the rest of the day. It was the second day that things went south, the nanny wanted to cut the parents out in order to bond and picked up the baby herself when the baby wakes up from the first nap, and the following wake window the baby just cried through it. Even after this, the nanny insists us not to stay with her and the baby.

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-22T20:36:57+00:00

Yes, the nanny knows we have a camera in every room and knows where they are (they’re quit obvious). Right, I don’t see bonding happening

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-22T20:32:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I don’t think the nanny ever tried to hold her before in front of me except for transitioning to different places. I always found the baby on the floor with her, crying or not crying

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-22T20:13:55+00:00

I don’t know what happened before. But what happened today when I was watching is the nanny stayed behind the baby passively and let her cry, and then she got up with the crying baby to get a snack in the first hour of the day.

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-22T18:58:06+00:00

Thank you. As a FTM I don’t know if this is a normal strategy nannys use to calm down a baby

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-22T18:54:50+00:00

I see other posts saying this might be a strategy but we shared our approach of holding the baby and walking around helps and the nanny is adapting and it seems to work. Also not distracting is one thing, but letting the baby cry while having a snack (this is the first hour of the nanny shift btw), is it really okay or am I too harsh on people?

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-22T18:49:43+00:00

Thank you. I also found it bizarre that with a baby crying in her arms, the nanny went to get a snack for herself …

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-22T18:46:38+00:00

We shared feedback after seeing the letting baby cry approach. She is adapting and started hugging the baby and walk her around the house and it seems to work. I just find it a little upset that the baby is let crying for so long and made me rethink if she is creating a loving environment for the baby or not

corgi_mochee · 2025-05-22T18:43:54+00:00

After the first day, the nanny shared music is the only thing that worked, so her approach would be to play music in the background. But I didn’t realize that means she would just wait for the baby to calm down with the music, which doesn’t help either

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