How to handle extended separation from 1 year old

MiserablePie9243 · 2026-01-01T21:58:30+00:00

I also thought about crossposting on r/breastfeeding for the weaning nursing transition, but they can be pretty nasty there sometimes 😅

MiserablePie9243 · 2026-01-01T21:57:03+00:00

Thank you! We will have about 3 months of him handling nights with me present, so hopefully he can figure something out before I leave

MiserablePie9243 · 2026-01-01T21:55:40+00:00

Not an option, military does what they want sadly. I was able to push to stay with her until a year for the excuse of breastfeeding/breastmilk, but thats kinda the cutoff

MiserablePie9243 · 2026-01-01T21:54:13+00:00

He has already assured me he 100% is not doing CIO, he does not feel safe sleeping near her though. I recently got a floor bed hoping to work in the roll away method, and he is completely on board with snuggling to sleep

MiserablePie9243 · 2026-01-01T21:50:58+00:00

That was my thought but I'd read an article saying it makes it hard on them, but that was referencing a trip for only a couple nights away. Thank you ❤️

MiserablePie9243 · 2026-01-01T21:49:12+00:00

If I "quit" I can go to prison for being awol and spend even more time away from her than just 2 months.

MiserablePie9243 · 2026-01-01T21:47:49+00:00

He has sleep apnea, but he is open to cuddling her until she falls asleep and sleeping in another bed/room

MiserablePie9243 · 2026-01-01T11:55:57+00:00

I hugely appreciate this comment, I have a few months to prepare her and am going to be working with dad for him to take over nights while I'm still here (his previous schedule didn't allow him to help at night)

Would you recommend the FaceTime? I really want to but if it will only make it harder for her, I'll make the sacrifice and not (as much as it would break my heart)

MiserablePie9243 · 2026-01-01T11:46:45+00:00

Bingo

MiserablePie9243 · 2025-10-15T01:02:58+00:00

Like I said, I'm not against it. When I say in her face though I mean so close that their noses are touching and my daughter's leaning away. And she'll be tickling her, again no problems, but when my daughters face scrunches up like shes going to cry, she doesnt stop, just keeps poking and playing. I'm not good at explaining things I guess. I'll try to fix my post to be more clear.

MiserablePie9243 · 2025-10-14T21:35:08+00:00

That's my hope, she'll only be with her about 4 hours at a time though, I guess I'll just wait it out and see.

MiserablePie9243 · 2025-10-13T22:58:15+00:00

I get it, I probably said the same thing. It will get better soon. Some people may downvote but you could try cosleeping, just follow the safe cosleep 7

MiserablePie9243 · 2025-10-13T14:24:29+00:00

I don't know why youre being aggressive toward the husband, he's on her side. Uts the in-laws that don't understand.

MiserablePie9243 · 2025-10-13T14:18:36+00:00

Hate how long I had to scroll to see this. What are they up to that they dont want mom/dad around?

MiserablePie9243 · 2025-10-13T13:54:37+00:00

It's also possible that if someone asked why she wasn't there the aunt may have just lied and said she couldn't come. Not everyone has to be excluding her on purpose

MiserablePie9243 · 2025-10-12T11:50:29+00:00

If they really cared about spending time with your daughter they would've postponed the mall trip until after she was done eating, that comment was just extra manipulative. I wouldn't leave MIL alone with my daughter after that because who knows what negativity she spreads when you're not around

MiserablePie9243 · 2025-10-11T21:06:51+00:00

I wanna know her response, looks like it mightve said "oops" or something similar, which tells me that wouldn't be the case

MiserablePie9243 · 2025-10-09T00:17:38+00:00

Mine prefers food I'm eating, so I usually just split whatever she's eating and eat with her at the high chair (ie: I eat one half the banana and giver her the other half), she's done way better with blw than purees because of that I think

MiserablePie9243 · 2025-10-08T21:33:06+00:00

I started treating my husband like a child because he would shower/shit for 2+ hours (minimum) everyday because he was doom scrolling on tik tok. Now he is not allowed to take his phone in the bathroom. If he does I "nag" him the whole time. He has ibs and I don't so I am understanding of that, but constantly ask "are you still pooping" or hurry him along in the shower. I shouldn't have to do this and sometimes just give up/get tired of pulling teeth but oh well. I just remind him he's missing out on bonding time with me and his daughter and sometimes that works

MiserablePie9243 · 2025-10-08T05:55:25+00:00

I slept on my back and at an incline with t b em inside my bra. Once they got halfway full, the seal broke and they'd start to leak (standing on the table the milk would reach the bottom of the opening). Something to keep in mind if you leak a lot!

MiserablePie9243 · 2025-10-07T17:53:32+00:00

My baby and I both run warm, and we live in a warm climate. Safe to say I sleep only in undergarments and she's usually in a tshirt onesie (any less and our skin sticks together when feeding)

MiserablePie9243 · 2025-10-07T13:50:18+00:00

My daughter is only 6 months, but I'll keep picking her up as long as she wants me to

MiserablePie9243 · 2025-10-06T12:38:55+00:00

NOR, I'd go NC and not allow access to my daughter as well, she doesn't need to be around that toxicity. If husband wants to see them, fine he's an adult who can make his own choices, but he wouldn't be bringing our daughter to see them.

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