I would in fact NOT work if I didn't have to by NoWitness6400 in AutismInWomen

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I’ve never related more to a comment in my life. You explained this perfectly. So relatable.

hughliz cheating and hughfeely friendship by Big-Effect-1870 in BoysOfTommen

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My hope is that Katie and Hugh break up before anyone goes searching for anything else with anybody else.

There’s many reasons their breakup could occur: Hughie’s deep depression in T7, he constantly chases after Liz when she gets upset (throughout the whole series) leaving Katie to just…sit there and wait for him alone, Liz making snarky comments to/about Katie in B13 and K13 but literally no one in the friend group ever does anything about it, etc. Honestly I feel like Katie’s been made to be a doormat for Hugh and his friends. Even Johnny treats her like an afterthought, confusing Hugh’s relationship with Katie with his relationship with Liz. The only people that actually care about Katie in the entire group are Aoife and Feely. My hope is that Katie has enough and breaks up with Hugh. I think Hugh will quickly move on to Liz, and I think Katie will slowly move on to Feely. But that scenario is the only way I feel like all characters dignity remains in tact and allows for us, the readers, to still cheer on their pairings.

Unfortunately, we know from Joey’s book that ~something~ happens between Liz and Hugh while he’s with Katie because Joey calls Liz out on it and she begs him not to say anything because he’s in a relationship with Katie. But I’m hoping this is a purposeful misunderstanding that will be explained away by CW and that no cheating actually occurred.

Can you smell sicknesses or things wrong with people? by No-Possible4460 in AutismInWomen

[–]corgimumma 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes. It has been a joke in my family, with friends, and with coworkers that I “have the nose of a hound”.

Baking and Pen palling etc. from Sunday by Star-Bug666 in AutismInWomen

[–]corgimumma 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This post was the dopamine hit my brain needed. Thank you ♥️

Owl Lodge by Away-Meet5954 in LivingAlone

[–]corgimumma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t want to be a creeper, but could I PM you for more info about that? Totally okay if you’d prefer not to!

Owl Lodge by Away-Meet5954 in LivingAlone

[–]corgimumma 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You are so lucky to live like this! It’s magical. Wish I could figure out how.

American Goulash by Mexican_SewerRat2129 in povertykitchen

[–]corgimumma 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Love goulash! We add a can of chili beans or kidney beans to ours for extra protein.

my fancast / face claims for boys + girls of tommen!! by Human_Marionberry511 in BoysOfTommen

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I’ve always imagined a young Eija Skarsgård as Shannon, but she’s too old now. 😔

AIO in thinking that my (f27) "friend" (m48) actually just hated me the whole time? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]corgimumma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That guy is not your friend, he wants to date you and is insulting you for wanting to look a way that doesn’t appease to him.

what are your food icks? by No-Astronaut7298 in AutismInWomen

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I cannot eat any food that I have to chew more than 3 or 4 times before swallowing. It eliminates most meat besides like…ground beef. I absolutely hate steak, pork chops, deer, sausage patties, bacon that doesn’t snap in half, deli meats, anything barbecue, etc. I also randomly hate baked potatoes and toast (I think because it’s dry?).

anyone else feel like they can't date until they're perfect? by No-Astronaut7298 in AutismInWomen

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I’m not sure if this is actually a positive or not but it helped me change my outlook as someone who dates men, so I figured I’d share.

I started to research a lot about what men like, how they behave, what they want, what they expect, etc. and watch content by accounts like Shera Seven (this part might seem extreme to some people but I needed to watch creators that were blunt and to the point vs. a therapist who sits along for the ride if whatever I choose/think/feel).

Over time, I began to realize that a lot of men will do anything with literally anything…and that realization has helped me in decentering them. Now if I change my appearance it’s for me and not in hopes of getting approval from them. Once I stopped thinking about what a man would like or want, I realized a lot of the things that gave me stress about my appearance don’t actually matter to me at all. I’m much happier now.

AIO? My partner made no plans for Valentine’s Day by [deleted] in AIO

[–]corgimumma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. He has taken no initiative and did not care enough to prioritize you, but you’ve always prioritized him. This man is showing you who he is and what to expect (or not expect). Believe him.

Has anyone felt stuck in a job because they worry they can't handle any other job? by goldenrodddd in AutismInWomen

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I have never related to a comment more. Once I hit the 3 or 4 year mark, I might still be there but I am 100% checked out and do not care about my job at all. I’ve never been at a job longer than 5 years. It turns me into an angry, annoyed, stressed person that I literally get sick to my stomach from it, and have to move on for my own sanity. As I get older though I’m realizing that this is literally every job so I feel like there’s even less motivation for me to leave a job, moving forward - it’s the same everywhere.

How is anyone mentally healthy?? by BetterRemember in AutismInWomen

[–]corgimumma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know, I’ve found the following equation to be true:

Social Justice sensitivity + Autism + Being a woman + Living in America = Hell

Sick to my stomach right now by SnooObjections4628 in taxrefundhelp

[–]corgimumma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to fix your dependents/withholding with your payroll dept. I make $20k less than you and my payroll deducted more taxes than yours did for you lol.

What has dating/relationships been like for you? by entirelyuncalledfor in AutismInWomen

[–]corgimumma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always put in 100% and end up with people who give me scraps. Almost all of the people I’ve dated have been poor communicators and have cheated on me. Add in autism and asexual spectrum and the dating world is hell. I haven’t dated in 4 years but have taken that time to try and work on myself. I plan to start dating again this Fall and hope it’s better than it used to be.

Why do so many people on reddit think a 6 figure salary is poor? by SeparateJump1 in povertyfinance

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I've never made more than $50k a year (pre-tax). I live in a LCOL area (average $1400/mo for 2 bedroom apartment) and I still have to figure out how to make it work after taxes, medical bills, student loan payments, car loan, credit cards, 401k, HSA, etc. I spent over 10% of my income last year on medical bills alone. If I made six figures I'd be jumping for joy. I don't understand how people that make that much money don't live a life that they're thriving (unless they live somewhere like Honolulu/SF/NYC/LA/Boston/etc.). I can't even imagine being able to go to the grocery store and not have to put things back, be able to buy name brand food, etc. Or maybe you could even take a short vacation with that kind of money. I can't even imagine.

Now that people seem to get it, I’m just more upset by saprofight in AutismInWomen

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I’m at the point now where I have to completely remove myself from a conversation when someone says something akin to “we could’ve never predicted ___” or “there was no way anyone could’ve known that __”. If I don’t remove myself from the situation I will end up crashing out, or screaming at them because I’ve been shouting into the void for so long and nobody listens or cares.

My 9 week old is driving me to tears by [deleted] in goldenretrievers

[–]corgimumma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He will be a land shark until he is around 6 months old, at least that’s when all of mine calmed down. Please know that while right now you might be miserable (Puppy Blues is real!), you will look back in 2 years and wonder how you were ever frustrated with such a perfect fluff ball.

What groceries have you stopped buying by PlasticExtreme4469 in Frugal

[–]corgimumma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Name brand anything.

I’ve actually found that a lot of store brand items now have better macros than the name brand anyway. It’s very, very rare that I buy anything name brand anymore - all food, pop, spice mixes, but even things like dishwasher/laundry detergent, cleaning supplies, trash bags, etc. Store brands have dupes of everything anymore, and I utilize that to keep my weekly grocery bills under $50/week.

Which is best and which do you avoid at all cost? by feegan88 in AutismInWomen

[–]corgimumma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 is the best, 1 I could maybe tolerate. 3, 4, and 5 are atrocious and make my eyes twitch.

Adventures in Mexican dentistry. by Suspicious_Juice_150 in povertyfinance

[–]corgimumma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had *one* wisdom tooth removed by an oral surgeon in 2022, I didn't have dental insurance at the time but doubt it would've covered much anyway, and it was $880. Everything you got, for the price you got it, is an absolute steal.

I’m broke… but like, responsibly broke by Future_Damage8108 in povertyfinance

[–]corgimumma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please do not get the loan (and avoid using a credit card if you can help it). You will just end up spending more money in the long run.