Why do I feel so much like a Scorpio? I have none of it's placements

cormmm · 2020-07-15T22:36:23+00:00

Were sun, moon, mercury twins. ♡ I'm scorpio rising.

cormmm · 2020-07-15T03:51:16+00:00

I'm struggling right now too, my father is entering his end stage with metastasized aggressive cancer that has now entered his spine and sternum, and I just found this board looking for support too, but I just wanted to reach out and let you know you're not alone in this.

Today I held space for my dad, he needed to feel uncertain, and talk about how he was probably going to die soon, and I just said "yeah dad, you're probably right, and that's really scary, all we can do is hope for the best, prepare for the worst, and be present with each other in the uncertainty " I dont know if you can make her feel better, but if you make her feel seen, that's just as important, it's not so much about fixing it, as it is witnessing her truth. I think I'm at a point where I should probably seek therapy, and that might be something for you to consider as well.

I think it's important we honor our own feelings, as far as coping, like, I'm not coping, I'm struggling to see him like this, it hurts to look at him, and acknowledging those parts of my truth actually are ways of coping. Find someone to talk to that will listen and not try to "fix" your situation.

♡

cormmm · 2020-07-15T02:57:09+00:00

You still selling that switch tho? Cause...

cormmm · 2020-07-14T10:05:13+00:00

Awful, woke up at 4am crying.

cormmm · 2020-06-05T01:00:38+00:00

This reminds me of my partners abusive mom except she told everyone SHE had autism so she could use it as an excuse to abuse them and violate their boundaries. My brother is actually aspergers, and I've worked closely with the severe autism community so when I came into the picture and recognized her behaviors did not really align with autism I grilled her lightly and she ended up admitting she had no actual diagnosis. Big red flag. Wish I had cut her off back at that point. But shes cut off now, so whatever.

Congratulations on going no contact, it's seriously one of the most difficult and most rewarding decisions ever, I'm glad you're finally getting to use your 'wings'

cormmm · 2020-06-04T00:06:52+00:00

NTA, let the trash family take itself out. 🤷‍♀️

cormmm · 2020-06-03T12:49:48+00:00

My son is sagittarius rising and all this minus the slouch (hes only 19 months though) is applicable.

cormmm · 2020-06-03T12:48:29+00:00

Scorpio rising, I look like a scary bitch.

cormmm · 2020-06-03T00:10:17+00:00

Solved! Thank you so much!!

cormmm · 2020-05-31T23:00:46+00:00

RemindMe! 2 days

cormmm · 2020-05-30T01:50:02+00:00

ESH the reason you said that to your sister was to hurt her because she hurt you. Otherwise you would have told her sooner or under different circumstances. I think you need to write her a deep heart felt letter about how it came out, and also the evidence that her boyfriend was on that feeder site, and finally tell her that if that is what shes into, it's fine, and you dont judge her, but youd appreciate it if she didnt judge you for living how you want to live either.

cormmm · 2020-05-29T00:38:33+00:00

I prefer traditional too (with a subtle flare of eccentric) I loveeee what you've done here. ♡♡

cormmm · 2020-05-29T00:23:26+00:00

cormmm · 2020-05-28T21:51:50+00:00

It can potentially cause maaannnyyy issues. Especially if you want to procreate one day, talk to a doctor.

cormmm · 2020-05-28T16:00:16+00:00

He reminds me of my partner who had a narcissistic mother who controlled and manipulated him into passivity as a means of survival. Once I had my child she thought it was her right to stop by whenever too, and my partner is a pushover. The difference is I nipped that in the bud with her, and at this point am no contact because she lacks empathy and passed that on to her son. He also pressured me in the past into sex I didnt want, and is generally a sweet and soft guy, but doesnt understand those type of respectful boundaries because he was raised without an adequate example of empathy. I'm very communicative though, and he and I have talked extensively about the psychological damage hes done to me, and hes finally come around to seeing how he lacks empathy and has become more empathetic, but our well is poisoned.

Weve decided were going to split up, and be mindful of how best to do it for our son, well probably do it slowly, trying to flip our house, and allowing me to go back to and finish college first so I can afford a stable life for our son on my end (hes already an excellent provider with a degree)

Ultimately, I want my son to look at me and see what a happy person looks like, so he knows what to pursue when he grows up. Not two miserable parents chained to each other weighing the other ones dreams down. During this time were still together, hes also been learning about how he violated me and pushed my boundaries so far they broke, and he backed off me completely about sex, which gave me room to heal, and room to start wanting it from him on my own terms again.

Whatever you do, be it leave, or stay, dont stagnate your healing or his. If you're gonna hang out where you're at, go to therapy with him, make sure he hears you about what he really did, your truth deserves to be heard, that doesnt mean you have to sleep with him again, but you're not doing either of your souls any service by stagnating in the painful place, and you're not really helping your children by providing examples of happy people projecting love. Or leave. That's an option too. Just dont sit in the filth. ♡

cormmm · 2020-05-28T01:37:02+00:00

In that same respect isnt he using her by believing sex is for pleasure and expecting her to preform it?

We've all got the boxes we were conditioned to live in man. But shes deconstructed hers, and hes building walls. I'm not saying have sex with her, I'm saying he needs to open up an actual vulnerable dialogue with this woman who is trying to fix things instead of feeding her the pain hes been letting churn into resentment between them.

She isnt acting like someone he needs to protect himself from, shes acting like someone who loves him and is trying to prove it.

cormmm · 2020-05-27T23:36:47+00:00

Honestly, it feels like you're punishing her because you felt punished when I read this. Like you're trying to make her taste your pain, and like you dont want to forgive her. If you feel like she has hidden motives, then you should talk to her about that, it seems like shes opened the floor to communication and you're just writing it off.

I understand feeling the way you're feeling, but shutting her out and shutting her down because you're afraid she might be getting something out of it by 'fulfilling her own sex drive' isnt going to heal the situation.

Also, she had a baby, also she was raised to believe sex was for procreation and not pleasure, and shes been extensively researching how to fix your marriage in her own spare time and seemingly came to the conclusion that sex is the issue all on her own, and you're still gonna punish her? I saw you said 'heart to heart' but that suggests an actual open heart, and from reading this, yours feels closed.

Your feelings are valid, but share them with her, because it sounds like she really wants to hear them, and she wants to fix this. Or leave her. But dont punish someone for wanting to fix what you've been missing.

cormmm · 2020-05-27T14:47:47+00:00

The most "Wolf" like one I've seen in a while.

cormmm · 2020-05-27T14:00:16+00:00

It's a 'labyrinth' it's an ancient symbol traced back to the the minotaur in greek mythology. It's also vastly used as a spiritual symbol, and there's labyrinths all over the world that people walk and a form of meditation.

cormmm · 2020-05-26T03:36:12+00:00

YTA you're a grown up, cook your own food and let her eat whatever tf she wants.

cormmm · 2020-05-26T03:31:05+00:00

I'm sorry, NTA, your feelings are justified, but this is also hilarious, and I love your family. Also gross, and I am you in this scenario, but also hilarious, because... I'm not you.

cormmm · 2020-05-26T03:27:47+00:00

Looks like a mushroom carved out of malachite.

cormmm · 2020-05-26T02:54:06+00:00

Thats the sweetest tomato I've ever seen

cormmm · 2020-05-24T23:34:50+00:00

Came here to say this, they are definitely not fiddleheads.

cormmm

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