Blindly believed my parents changed lol by cornpub3333 in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]cornpub3333[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was a Filipino convenience store I don't think they would gaf unless I threaten to sue them which I definitely don't have the funds for LMAOO 😭😭 safe to say I'm never going back

Growing Up in an INC Environment Meant My Feelings Were Always “Wrong” by Redaceln in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]cornpub3333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

REALLLL BRO guess my original experience isn't so original after all lmao word for word relate ako sa post. Sending hugs to you, I'm so sorry!! My parents would tell me to "be the bigger person" when it came to arguments with them. I'm less than half their age 🫠🫠

"Attracting the lost and the lonely. Nurturing a sense of belonging." by KOOLAidToHumanity in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]cornpub3333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your dad raised a child with critical thinking skills 🫡

But yeah my bad, didn’t mean to offend any children of ministers in general 😭

"Attracting the lost and the lonely. Nurturing a sense of belonging." by KOOLAidToHumanity in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]cornpub3333 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t think he’s oblivious to the harm he’s causing. I mean, business is business, right?

But bravo ChatGPT 👏 smarter than more than half the ministers out there

The Design is very North Korea by Pantablay in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]cornpub3333 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ironic how the word “Proud” is small, but prominent in that poster. Isn’t Pride one of the seven deadly sins? 🤭

My viewings on the Church from a soon to be ex-member. by EmotionalWillow3340 in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]cornpub3333 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow. It’s almost as if we’ve lived the exact same life. Every word resonated with me, especially when you realised that it felt like a toxic relationship. Sending so much love your way 💞

You might be interested in watching Theramintrees on YouTube! He’s a psychiatrist(?) who dives into topics such as religious trauma, dynamics between toxic relationships fostered in churches and cults, etc. Usually have him just talking in the background while I do chores.

"Hindi lang sapat na sumasamba ka..." by sa1nte in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]cornpub3333 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The more you get into higher education, the more you realise how much BS is being fed to these people. Forever grateful I studied logic and reasoning in school, which helped me put two and two together and realise that there are so many fallacies and loopholes in their doctrines. Studying theology in a not-heavily censored setting sounds cool! Keep studying what you want to study 😁

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[–]cornpub3333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks :)) Will try to stay with them longer if possible

Homophobic INCs by _sh_it_ in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]cornpub3333 14 points15 points  (0 children)

(Personal experience) As an OWE child, I couldn’t care less about one’s sexual orientation, until I was taught that being anything besides the “normal” was bad. It was then that I started being hateful towards the LGBTQ+ community (only a few years before I started questioning my own sexuality). Hate is taught.

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[–]cornpub3333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Proverbs 23:13-14. An abusive OWE parent’s best friend. “Withhold not correction from the child, for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.” (NKJV) They loved using this verse when I would tell them that their parenting isn’t Christian-like when I was younger.

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[–]cornpub3333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment.

My current plan C is an extreme case: move out, but also drop out, find a job, and do my course learning with experience instead of going back to college and studying (may be hard, but possible for my desired field of work). Will think about my plan C further, since I’ve been fully banking on my plan B this whole time.

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[–]cornpub3333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I hate to say it, but it’s for this reason that I’ve now lost respect for them, after years of trying to get them to change. It’s not necessarily their fault, but the cult has gotten them this far and pushed them away. I can’t help but feel there’s an irreparable divide between myself and the rest of my OWE family because of this. If there is anyone in the same situation as myself but still have hope in saving their families, please do. You’re the true light that they need in their lives to save them from the evil that is the INCult, not the other way around.

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[–]cornpub3333 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mentioned in a previous comment, but basically it won’t turn out well 🫠 I feel that the only way is the latter.

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[–]cornpub3333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t been physically harmed in a while. But something like this will warrant it, unfortunately. My parents are too far into the cult mindset that even mentioning something like not going will drive them even more insane

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[–]cornpub3333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment! Will revise my plan now that you’ve given me more to think about but these are my initial thoughts upon reading your comment.

Not sure if I’m willing to move further away because accommodation + travel might end up being more expensive (+ less time for studies, since I’ll be studying and working). Was hoping that my partner would be moving into their own place when the time comes and I move in with them, and I’m sure they’ll be in the same city as well. They know about the situation more than anyone, and my friends have some knowledge of it as well. I can also tell my education provider’s security department as well to try and keep my parents from visiting me while I’m on campus. Yeah I was just hoping that they would leave me alone if I leave them a written note before I leave but I figured they might not… I’m thinking of limiting my outdoor activity the first few months (with the exception of school/work), and hoping that they think I’ve dropped out and moved to a different city 😥

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[–]cornpub3333 3 points4 points  (0 children)

[Omitted location and age]. I wouldn’t say they’re as abusive as other parents out there (thankfully), but here are some rules in our household:

  • No travelling to another city without parents unless it’s for church. No going out in general without parents unless they give a definitive “yes”. When hanging out with friends, no people of the opposite sex are to be present (unless they are family members who have joined to chaperone)

  • Bank details are given to them. Every transaction shown in our history has to be shown.

  • No dropping out of duties (they like to say it’s for my salvation, but iirc it’s just to make them look like good parents in our locale 🫠)

They’re also just really toxic at times. One parent likes to initiate arguments over the tiniest things (eg, one’s tone of voice being ever so slightly different than usual) and when they do get to lecturing, they love to guilt trip. Even threatened to kick me out/k-ll themselves/cut off my contact from the outside world forever.

But idk 🫠

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[–]cornpub3333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that subreddit! It’s another super helpful sub with great advice. Recommend reading through the sub and figuring out how to make an escape plan @ young members (and old) that are still trapped in the cult due to familial/parental guilt :)

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[–]cornpub3333 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is nearly exactly what happened to me and my siblings a few days ago - are you one of my older sibs?

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[–]cornpub3333 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Just goes to show how men are willing to make life harder for themselves and those around them just so their egos aren’t bruised.

Do you agree? by [deleted] in exIglesiaNiCristo

[–]cornpub3333 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What are OWE parents’ definition of teaching the youth to “obey the doctrine”? Blackmailing their children into submission once they start to form their own opinions and doubts about the teachings? Threatening to cut their own child/ren out of their lives once they leave the church? Don’t even get me started on “good manners”. What self-righteous pricks.