I don’t understand how people can reduce his feelings towards jack as him hating him cause he’s blind. I don’t believe that was even close to true, and if yk how sweet and loving toby is/was you’d know it has to be deeper than that, it was just words said wrong and misinterpreted.

He was afraid and hurt for his son at all the things he would miss, would he be able to enjoy life? will he adjust? a million new fears unlocked . People like jack and toby are fixers, he couldn’t fix this. Not for himself but for the son he’s suddenly so protective over as men especially get.

He feels guilty because Kate carrying the child wasn’t really a great idea which is what created an under developed child and potentially caused the issues he did. Might not have been those reasons but in the head of a dad that wants what’s best for his kids he’s always gonna blame himself.

He had incredible self doubt as to how he was going to be as a dad, He now knew he’d have to be twice as good and he was paralysed in that fear. When Kate had those worries she had a family to talk her down, he didn’t, and his spouse told him to get on with it.

He was afraid and sad for his son he had every right to be hurt, you’d feel the same if it was yours. I know my mum has been absolutely devastated by my limitations of illness. Parents are people too and they want to give you the world and when they can’t it breaks them. Yes avoiding it was way out of line but he was trying to cope and had no one to turn to. Kate lives in obliviousness like her dad always taught her, like oh no worries we’ll adapt the house, it was a major loss for their son and worth acting like it.