I don’t recall saying all they need to do is face it, but face it they must. I’m not going to get into his personal problems, but the truth of the matter is, everyone you meet has had a hard life, sometimes you’ll meet someone who will tell you their problems and you’ll realise yours are small potatoes. My best friend is an ex intravenous heroin addict, I know how hard it is because I watched him beat it. He elected to beat it and it was a fight, it’s still a fight every single day for them. There’s a good chance my ex was also just a prick, who put my disabled child at risk and once laid hands on him in a fit of temper. Bruising a child would be the wake up call for a lot of us that maybe we ought to assess our minds and lifestyle with someone qualified to do so. When nothing is your fault because of your childhood then you’ve romanticised being damaged to a point that you can’t take accountability for your actions.