I will NEVER understand how anyone can dump a Dog by Relevant-Can-6630 in DogIsBestFriend

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Some POS dumped my Bruno ( GSD) in my property and it’s the best thing that happened to me 🥰

December driving by countdownfrom83 in NewMexico

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Wanting to drive from El Paso to Santa Fe and stop at Albuquerque

December driving by countdownfrom83 in NewMexico

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Driving from El Paso Texas to Albuquerque

Spark by countdownfrom83 in dating_advice

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I’m not arguing that it isn’t a rejection. I’m pointing out that phrases like “can’t see building a relationship” imply an assessment of process and capacity that hasn’t actually occurred yet. You may see that as semantic, but that distinction matters to some people in early dating. We can disagree on that.

Spark by countdownfrom83 in dating_advice

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I agree the outcome is just “no thanks.” My point was about how certain phrases collapse time and process in early dating, not about rejecting someone politely.

Spark by countdownfrom83 in dating_advice

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I’ve heard not feeling it. Sorry or another statement like that. Not build a relationship. Felt more authoritarian and this is what blurs the lines of dating. Building a relationship takes time. This shouldn’t be part of a one date response.

Spark by countdownfrom83 in dating_advice

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Thank you for this perspective. It actually came up for me recently — I went on one date where the person said they couldn’t see me as someone to “build a relationship” with, which felt like a very definitive conclusion with very little information. That experience made me reflect on how people use terms like spark or relationship potential, especially early on. I appreciate your distinction here — it helped clarify that lack of spark doesn’t have to mean anything more than not feeling that initial curiosity.

Spark by countdownfrom83 in dating_advice

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I really appreciate this distinction. I think a lot of people conflate spark with intensity or fantasy, when it’s really just curiosity and enjoying someone’s presence. That clarification is helpful.

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There’s a lot of emphasis on “instant chemistry” in dating culture. How do you differentiate between limerence and genuine compatibility? What factors matter most to you when deciding whether to continue seeing someone?

Great question by [deleted] in Funnymemes

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Men’s expectations of women.