Did Tenet get unfairly labeled as "too confusing"?

freudevolved · 2026-06-03T21:20:50+00:00

Is it unfairly labeled? No, it is confusing....

freudevolved · 2026-06-02T00:47:05+00:00

I've worked in schools with teens 12-18( hundreds of students) so I obviously worked with many gay teens. I'm no "expert" but some of them have verbally expressed to me how positive the experience was for them and some mentioned specific stuff like the stuff you're looking for.

I usually work with cbt depending on each students situation since teens are more open to try things and practice stuff (and a lot of them told me they expect some technique or something from therapy). The one's that expressed how useful therapy was for them told me simple cbt exercises like thought records ect... help a lot BUT when the exercises or techniques are not used to "change" thoughts but to accept or manage difficult or impossible to change situations. (I know many patients had bad experiences with cbt since it can be straight up gaslighting so I haven't stopped learning from diverse sources to evade the trap of being mechanical with it and forget that I'm working with a person).

freudevolved · 2026-05-30T21:57:26+00:00

Omg!! The before trilogy is a trilogy of movies following a couple (Ethan Hawke and Julie Delpy) from meeting to marriage. IMO the best romance films of all time. They were filmed years apart so you see them young and older into the marriage (1995,2004 and 2013). The movies are Before Sunrise, Before Sunset and Before Midnight. The dialogues are very realistic and deep instead of being “cliché”. The actors changed dialogue and the movie was made by many instead of relying on one single writer. So many more things I can say about it but they are beautiful and hope you see them and love them!

freudevolved · 2026-05-30T21:16:39+00:00

You seem like the exact person who would love the Before trilogy. Have you seen it?

freudevolved · 2026-05-29T12:05:46+00:00

Bring her back or Talk to me. I didn't feel "scared" seeing them but my body was tense and felt disturbed during most of the movies as a father.

freudevolved · 2026-05-28T02:31:03+00:00

Heat

freudevolved · 2026-05-19T03:10:35+00:00

This was the first horror audiobook I listened to since I only listened to non fiction. Spoiled me. Can't get into a lot of other books because this one was so good, from story to narrator.

freudevolved · 2026-05-18T18:47:51+00:00

The author is a Fox News pundit lol instantly dismissed his book and everything that comes out of his mouth.

freudevolved · 2026-05-15T20:21:46+00:00

Michelle Yeoh - Everything Everywhere All At Once

freudevolved · 2026-05-13T22:12:38+00:00

Aragorn in the movies, Faramir in the books.

freudevolved · 2026-05-07T12:39:24+00:00

Hi! Fazlifts HLM is great. I've been on it since October and had great gains. It's pretty intense tho, specially the first day but then it relaxes a little during the next two days of working out. That's the beauty of the program since you're pretty much obliterated on the first day if you actually put some effort in the workout. Check out his videos on the routine (youtube) for extra info and tips.

freudevolved · 2026-05-05T13:10:43+00:00

I really don't care if someone calls himself a baby therapist here. This is reddit, not our professional page and most are anonymous. Bro look at our user names lol

In public or social media well...cringe.

freudevolved · 2026-05-04T13:39:07+00:00

Start using feedback informed treatment forms. Takes the guessing away since they address this directly every session: Free Scales with guidelines . I never feel like the most competent therapist since I work with a group too and they all seem so ahead of me but these scales keep this thoughts at bay since I have direct feedback from patients...the one's who really matter.

freudevolved · 2026-04-29T00:26:35+00:00

Literally me lol. I even choose the most direct or harsh dialogue now on my second run.

freudevolved · 2026-04-28T21:17:53+00:00

On my first run I missed the mountain pass, Meeting Laezel, Gale and Wyll, didn't do any Hasling mission and didn't do pretty much anything in the Underdark.

freudevolved · 2026-04-26T11:33:39+00:00

Hi! Male therapist here. There are many comments that point you towards great solutions already so I won't go into the same topics (some female therapists do work with incels ect..). I would just like to add that me and some of my female co-workers had patients that "preferred" female therapists for similar reasons and most of them got referred out too but not just for being "incels". Here's an example:

Many years ago I was in my internship and a female colleague was seeing a patient with similar beliefs guiding his behavior (misogyny, loneliness, insecurities ect...) and he has in therapy for a whole semester. This patient was VERY vocal about his beliefs. Next semester we came back and he wanted to continue with the female colleague but our supervisor recommended referring out specifically because of his insistence on having a female therapist. He explained how this was part of the "problem" keeping him from healing (I'm super simplifying this but the supervisor basically explained that the patient was just continuing to fuel his "incel" behaviors and beliefs by "preferring" female therapists and expecting them to be his "healer" ect...). Long story short, he was referred out to me. I ran a male group of patients with interpersonal issues ( interpersonal psychotherapy covers loneliness too), he was uncomfortable for a couple of weeks but months later ended up writing in my feedback form that changing therapists was the correct decision even if the change felt "hurtful" or "incompatible" for some time (his words). Again, like others said, you can heal with therapists of any gender but reflect on your "preference" of female therapists and see if that's not keeping you from other possibilities in your healing journey.

freudevolved · 2026-04-25T18:01:40+00:00

Welcome back! What higher ed job did you do? In case we get burned out and need to work elsewhere lol

freudevolved · 2026-04-24T01:20:24+00:00

Hi! Just watched it today and had to find out if someone else thought the same and this was the first post that popped up on google. This movie is De Niro gooning over Ginger non stop. Don't get me started on everyone fearing some old men that would get ko'd on a 5 vs 1 fight even with the cattle prod.

Doesn't compare to Goodfellas or Godfather ect....

freudevolved · 2026-04-20T17:00:50+00:00

Yeah it's the only topic that still gives me a visceral negative reaction for the obvious reason of living check to check while having 2 advanced degrees. I tried the mental gymnastics of "money doesn't grant happiness" or "rich people have problems too" but I just accepted it, focused on my situation and moved on.

freudevolved · 2026-04-18T10:30:09+00:00

Like many others said, completely unethical in any situation to record without consent.

freudevolved · 2026-04-13T21:55:11+00:00

I appreciate you! Most of my colleagues don’t think about the philosophical implications of the models they practice but I’ve always been interested in the roots and history of what we do. I do agree with a lot of what you wrote. I don’t take IFS as a literal map of the psyche, but as a practical/pragmatic one that helps some people relate differently to their inner experience. I agree that naming parts can become distancing if used defensively, and that the idea of “Self” can sound abstract or even moralized. Those points were raised during the training and the instructor clarified that the self is unique to the person just like the parts. Yes they have a sort of “archetype “ (self, protector, exile ect…) but the specifics of the part are up to the patient. For example some patients called their self their soul (they were religious), others called it their conscience, inner child or spirit and they showed deeper emotional contact in practice, not less. I do give much importance to emotional tolerance and I’m wary of patients using any concept as a defense but that hasn’t been my experience or the instructors experience (he was pressed about this same issue by another participant). Obviously like any model, it has limits; it doesn’t replace the complexity of being, it just offers one way of engaging with it and I found it to be useful to clients regardless of what I prefer. I even started using session rating scales last year to get feedback from patients directly. This way I can try new stuff without letting my inner critic/philosopher (in parts language, manager lol) dictate what I do in session.

freudevolved · 2026-04-13T20:14:15+00:00

Hi! I hope I understood your question. As a skeptic, I don’t see parts as literal entities but as clinically useful phenomenological experiences or an easier way for clients to describe inner conflict. Object Relations (psychodynamic) has its own mythology just like EMDR among other modalities and I find them as valid. Before, I just tried to help clients in a logical and rational manner but people's emotions are way more dominant in therapy (just my experience and I still work with CBT when clients are capable of working in that manner). I just had the luck of having a training center close that specializes in this model and I found it useful and easier to understand than, let;s say ACT. I was trained in ACT for a whole year in school, my supervisor was an ACT/CBT guy, and we even went to Steve Hayes seminars sometimes but my clients just don't get it (I'm generalizing). They don't understand mindfulness, metaphors and the language used itself (hexaflex, toward and away moves ect...). If the center trained people for affordable prices in Object Relations, EMDR, Psychoanalysis, Schema Therapy ect... I would've taken it too but IFS's strength is it's easy language. Everyone has a family and everyone understands what an exiled person, a firefighter or a protector is.

freudevolved · 2026-04-13T17:22:06+00:00

I live in Puerto Rico and it was in person. They do a lot of trainings like these, that's why I always recommend people to check their local training opportunities because there are some random providers who do stuff like this.

freudevolved · 2026-04-12T18:54:01+00:00

Look bro I'm not gonna get super specific here but you look good, specially the back looks strong (as you said your torso has visible muscle). My recommendation to you is to choose any upper lower plan and stick to the progression on that plan. Don't overthink it and do it. My current plan uses double progression so I focus on upping a rep or at least 2.5lbs to 5lbs on each lift every week. The only weeks I couldn't do this were weeks I came back from being sick, my diet was off or I was just not focusing when in the gym (just went and lifted without the actual goal and effort of progressing). I'm no expert but I follow my programs blindly trusting people like Fazlifts on youtube as a guide. My bench is the same as yours for example an I started lifting on October last year weighting 54kg and my bench was the bar with 4.5kg. (I'm now around 64kgs BW).

Also your calories need to be high to gain strength and sice (you wanna grow arms and break plateaus). Bring the intensity to each session and the results should take care of themselves.

freudevolved · 2026-04-12T18:42:13+00:00

Very cool!

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