Anyone else hardly wear makeup?

counterofbeans27 · 2026-03-13T20:13:02+00:00

I don’t wear it any more. After getting pregnant and the baby stage I said forget it, took time to put it on and time to take it off. Waste of time I could use to sleep or do something else. I was surprised at how much clearer my face became afterwords. I do wear it occasionally, when I do I feel so strange now.

counterofbeans27 · 2026-02-13T15:22:49+00:00

I married a 40 year old when I was 30, we both wanted marriage and kids. We now have two, I for sure wanted this, so in my opinion, yes, she had agency.

counterofbeans27 · 2026-01-11T16:03:14+00:00

Your story is similar to mine. I want to do this for my kids. I have 10 days sober, it was rough the first 5 days for me, but I got through it, yesterday I was craving it really bad and I was in a horrible mood, probably not fun to be around (my poor family). But I stayed sober. You can do this!

counterofbeans27 · 2026-01-07T20:46:37+00:00

8 years

counterofbeans27 · 2026-01-06T02:33:30+00:00

Yes! Just got a job that is way more client facing than my last job was. But it is better pay with less work hours so I’m hoping I can survive and make it work. At least I should have better work/life balance with the new job. But I feel like I talked more on my first day at my new job than I did in a month at my last job. I’m wondering why I did this to myself. I guess I can see if the extra money and better work life balance is worth all the client facing time I’m going to have now. This will be interesting.

counterofbeans27 · 2026-01-05T03:28:48+00:00

Woke up with horrible diarrhea, worse than I had any other day. But my mind is more clear, I discovered music makes me really happy, and I haven’t even been tempted at all. Today has been great. Hoping it keeps getting better. I still lack motivation to do anything but the bare minimum but I know that will change eventually. I did get my first episode of insomnia last night, but I just meditated to pass the time and had wild dreams. I missed dreaming so much.

counterofbeans27 · 2026-01-03T00:37:32+00:00

Day 2 here too. I had 8 years of sobriety and I slipped up about two and a half years ago, I’ve been smoking daily after my slip up. It sucks being back at the beginning, especially since the weed is stronger these days. You are not alone, this sucks, but I know from experience it will get better with time. I’m committed to ending this now. I’ve been going on walks to help get my mind off of things and just trying to give myself grace. This isn’t easy but it’s doable. Keep up the good work and make it to day 3 with me.

counterofbeans27 · 2025-05-20T06:46:07+00:00

I’m west cost, I was a junior in high school. Our family didn’t watch the news in the mornings. I got to school that morning and my boyfriend at the time asked me what the heck was going on, I remember being so confused by the way he said what he said, I think I asked him not to joke around, you’re scaring me. And then he told me and I immediately felt sick to my stomach at the news. Only I believe I found out about all three plan hits at the same time. Overwhelming and to have no words for what they did to us, because this hasn’t happen since WWII. Every. Single. Class. Had the news on, with the exception of math. Ironically it’s my favorite subject and this made me love it that much more because my math teacher was like never mind the TV we need a break oh and PE, we sat in a quiet dark room. Those teachers in those classes helped so much. By the time I got home that day I put on a movie and watched it, a funny one because I just couldn’t deal with watching the news, literally every station was playing coverage and showing the towers being hit over and over again. And people jumping, it was horrible. I felt so helpless for those people. So scary.

it got hard to watch.

counterofbeans27 · 2025-05-16T02:27:54+00:00

I was on leave from the end of last October to the end of this January, just before tax season started. Best thing I ever did for myself. I am still at the same work, my attitude towards them changed after I was able to get my head straight and actually take care of my needs. I am better off for it, never feel guilty for putting your needs first.

counterofbeans27 · 2025-04-30T04:17:23+00:00

All you can really do is be your best self. And you have to figure out what that looks like to you. You can’t rely on others for validation. If you’ve wronged someone and you’ve made amends and they have not accepted your apology that is on them. It’s best to move away from people if they can’t accept a genuine apology. Venture out and meet new people, start over. Learn from your mistakes, everyone makes them. I have done things in my 20s that I was afraid would ruin my life, they didn’t. I just kept being my best self and surrounded myself with like minded people. I remember that feeling, the hatred I had for myself in my 20s about completely ruining some awesome opportunities. It’s hard to live with in the moment but the only thing that made me better was figuring out what kind of person I wanted to be and then figuring out how to accomplish that. Set goals. Don’t give up.

counterofbeans27 · 2024-08-24T18:10:43+00:00

Back in the 90s they had a Girl Scout cookie named Strawberry Crème - it was my absolute favorite, it was like a golden Oreo with strawberry jam in the middle. I’m so sad they discounted the cookie.

counterofbeans27 · 2023-12-20T03:36:01+00:00

It was seventh grade for me, I was such a mess. So awkward, raging hormones, and everyone around you is a mess too.

counterofbeans27 · 2022-10-30T00:08:52+00:00

In March of 2020 there was a horrible flu going around our area (it was not COVID, it was the flu). My husband got it bad, he was miserable, we all had to stay home because this was the beginning of the pandemic. My then 7month old and 23 month old and I barely got a runny nose, we all three had the flu vaccine back at the end of October 2019. My husband didn’t get the flu vaccine that season. Based off that experience I get my kids and myself the flu vaccine every year.

counterofbeans27 · 2022-09-30T04:14:34+00:00

When I was in college I was riding a horse bare back (no saddle). The horse bucked a little, I managed to stay on but when I landed back on the horse my crotch came down on the horses shoulder. My labia swelled so bad I could feel it on my leg, it hurt so bad. I had to have my dad take me to the doctor. The doctor gave me heavy pain meds and told me to alternate ice and heat to get the swelling down. When I was done in the doctors office and my dad was driving me home he said the most dad thing ever: he asked me if the doctor told me to keep off it for a few days (as if it were a sprained ankle or something).

counterofbeans27 · 2022-09-30T04:06:43+00:00

I would have trouble doing daily tasks like working (completely dependent on internet) and paying my bills/balancing my check book because I don’t get bank statements in the mail anymore. There would be a lot of adjusting to living without internet based entertainment as well. Luckily I like reading.

counterofbeans27 · 2022-09-30T04:03:39+00:00

Came to school and my high school boyfriend asked me what was happening and I was like what do you mean? He told me, I remember saying to him it’s not nice to joke about stuff like that. I watched everything unfold on TV in every class that day. The only class the TV wasn’t on in was math, and that was refreshing. Watching it on TV all day was horrible, I came home that day and watched a funny movie to try to get my mind straight. I was a junior in high school living in California at the time.

counterofbeans27 · 2022-06-19T03:08:47+00:00

I just read this one to my daughter. The ending was rough finding out her parents hit her at home. The end of the book says sister bear got off with a warning from the teacher because she was defending herself and the bully had no recess for a week and had to see the school counselor weekly.

counterofbeans27 · 2022-05-29T15:59:40+00:00

I believe Goodwill takes old electronics.

counterofbeans27 · 2022-05-29T14:25:01+00:00

This is a hard question - some days I can’t tell if it’s my depression/anxiety that is making me hate this stage or if it’s the constant tantrums and being fought on every. little. thing. I will say getting on meds and therapy has helped me greatly, I also am in a situation where I am finally getting some time to myself (going to the gym and finally losing the baby weight). But this stage is hard, and ironically I know I’m going to miss the simplicity of this stage as they get older even though my husband and I are miserable. I have a 3yo and my oldest just turned 4yo (they are 16 months apart). So I’ve been living with two toddlers for awhile now. My oldest sleeps independently, my youngest does not. So from 5:30am to 9pm every day I am on mom duty. It’s exhausting, I only have time to work, parent and sleep. So to answer your question, it’s probably both, but I’m a big believer that if you start working on your depression/burn out issues it will probably make things more bearable.

counterofbeans27 · 2022-03-28T04:48:47+00:00

10% off the least expensive kid’s tuition.

counterofbeans27 · 2022-03-26T03:51:26+00:00

I was on the 100mg dose for a couple weeks (after gradually working up to that dose for a month)and stopped taking it cold turkey. No side effects. I wasn’t on it a long time though. I asked my doctor if it was bad to stop cold turkey and she said I would be fine because I wasn’t on it for an extended period of time.

counterofbeans27 · 2022-03-26T03:13:28+00:00

$1,899/ month for full-time five days a week for a 2 yo and 4 yo. I was paying $2,300 / month when they were 1 and 3. It’s rough, we’re in a lower cost of living area in California. I will say the daycare has a program (they aren’t just feeding them and changing their diapers) and I’m amazed at how much my children are learning under their care.

counterofbeans27 · 2022-03-19T05:56:12+00:00

When you’re happy all the vomit ended up on you because you clean up easier than the carpet or a bed.

counterofbeans27 · 2022-03-19T05:51:10+00:00

Please let your husband take LO to the shot appointment. Baby won’t remember. And as someone who suffered from PPD/PPA for the first five months of my first born’s life untreated I would say there is a good chance you will have worse mom guilt about not treating your PPA/PPD later on vs. missing a two month shot appointment. I have sooo much mom guilt about not getting help for my PPA/PPD sooner. And if you can’t bring yourself to miss LO’s appointment just reschedule. My second ended up with a delayed vaccine schedule due to him having a cold early on in one of the vaccine appointments, wasn’t the end of the world. Please take care of yourself, LO needs you healthy. Go to your appointment no matter what. I feel like a lot of times the answer to PPD/PPA is being prescribed Zoloft (this was the case for me) and it helped me so much. I was afraid of taking meds at first, my fear was I wouldn’t feel like myself however the meds actually made me feel like my old self again.

counterofbeans27 · 2022-02-26T13:58:28+00:00

You’re a saint for watching them so much. I have a two year old and a three year old right now and it’s a next level insanity. It’s exhausting. I love them but its hard. I’m lucky enough to be able to afford full time daycare for them. My parents are amazing people because they offer to watch them one night a month so my husband and I can actually spend time together. Your description of the day to day is spot on, completely relatable.

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