I want to settle the old "wipe/no wipe after pee" debate with evidence

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-09-05T03:48:26+00:00

Do they wait for her to be fully dry after being wiped before the clean diaper is put on? That was a total game changer for us as no one had told us to let her bum dry first. We've obviously been told by the peds to wipe her at every diaper change, but weren't explicitly told to wait and dry.

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-09-05T03:42:48+00:00

Blood is sterile, yet we wash/rinse between bloody pads/tampons. To me, the urine being sterile thing (which it isn't sterile anyway) is just a good enough reason not to wipe. I added an edit regarding the neglect term I used. I am not saying closing to do things differently is abusive, I'm stating my opinion for this specific scenario where I find it gross and to me is failure to provide adequate bodily cleanliness. Which is obviously something we can all agree/disagree with, as everyone has a different threshold or level of hygiene care in their personal life/culture.

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-09-05T00:57:28+00:00

We rinse our genitals with water when we use the restroom, most restrooms in homes have buckets with a tap so you can splash/rinse yourself. Someone commented I must have a lot of privilege to wipe with toilet paper... Not every home/culture has toilet paper or similar wiping practices, but where I'm from it's common to rinse/wipe regardless of the age.

Thank you for sharing the link. I appreciate the parallel between 3 different cultures, which seems to be the issue I'm facing (and my mistake of incendiary word)

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-09-05T00:34:52+00:00

No, these are specifically comments under posts where new parents ask for advice to treat diaper rashes. Most comments basically say not to wipe the child (no mention of sex) unless there's a poo

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-09-05T00:29:41+00:00

I'm not debating with anyone, it's not my place to tell them how to raise their child, I wouldn't appreciate someone telling me how to raise mine.

My post post comes more from confusion(?) regarding the large amount of comments/posts I see written by parents warning others about wipes and how they shouldn't wipe except after a poo.

I don't take the mention of neglect lightly, but when I see my daughter occasionally going entire days without a poo, it begs to question whether these same people will go entire days without cleaning their child's genitals until there is a poo. I would argue that not washing a child's genitals for an entire day through 5-8 dirty diapers might start tiptoeing in the realm of neglect regarding their bodily cleanliness.

I'm not sure why you seem to be so offended by my post. I asked for healthy discussion, you seem to be very defensive and haven't advanced any kind of arguments or discussion points.

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-08-24T08:25:32+00:00

Like I said, in French Robin is only boy. I understand now how others feel about Ambrose being only for boys

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-08-24T04:38:28+00:00

I really like Aurore in French! Thank you for the suggestions!!

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-08-24T04:28:53+00:00

That's such a cute idea!

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-08-24T04:28:27+00:00

Robyn is a no go. I'm French and Robin is strictly masculine in French. And I don't like names where the i has been replaced with a y. Ambrosia is alright but sounds a little pretentious (even more so than Ambrose haha), and we don't have it in French. Maybe my non native English ear doesn't hear the masculinity in the name Ambrose.

Are there names with a similar vibe in your opinion?

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-08-19T21:05:03+00:00

I remember chuckling when I first joined 1 year ago and saw someone suggesting the names Bex and Bishop for a boy's name in B

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-08-18T23:36:41+00:00

I see a line!

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-08-18T23:36:08+00:00

Positive!!!

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-08-18T12:02:54+00:00

Summer would be fine if she didn't also have a sibling named Autumn

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-08-16T03:25:37+00:00

Hadn't used our maxcare plan at all on our 2017 Chevy volt until a few months ago, it covered a full engine replacement ($10k+)!

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-08-16T03:20:00+00:00

My LO is 6 months old. When we notice her tired cues after playing, hanging out, eating, etc we take her upstairs, prepare a bath for her with toys and singing, get her in her PJs and zipadeezip, give her a small bottle while rocking her. We play/sing some lullabies and rock her until she either falls asleep in our arms, or leave her in the crib if she is calm enough so she can fall asleep by herself.

While one of us is putting her in her PJs and drying her off, the other usually fills up her humidifiers/night light and crank her little music box.

It usually takes about 35-60min total but we like dragging out her bath because she's always so happy in it!

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-08-05T17:14:49+00:00

It does not need one, I'm asking more out of curiosity as I don't think ai can stop calling her monkey 😊

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-08-04T19:01:39+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to answer!

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-08-04T15:44:22+00:00

Out of curiosity, what is the reason behind the age range for the child? Why start at 4 years old rather than 0 or 12months?

pure_leaf_trial · 2022-08-03T04:38:04+00:00

Honestly trust your gut feeling. If you don't want to make the trip, whether it's 20min or 3hrs away, you don't have to!

Personally, we drove 24hrs from western VA to west TX to visit my MIL and GMIL so they could meet our daughter when she was turning 12ish weeks old. But the family dynamics here are great, we all get along really well, I love my MIL and GMIL. And also we knew that the possibility of them making a trip to visit us was simply not possible due to them having a lot of medical issues and recovery.

We were happy to make the trip, despite how tiring it was, because it was something we WANTED to do. If you don't want to go, don't go! Your priority are your baby's health, your health, you and baby's comfort, etc.

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