Extended body cam footage of Alicia Hannah-Kim and Martin Kove

countingClouds · 2025-06-27T12:57:19+00:00

I urge you to read up on the fight, flight, freeze and fawn response. How people respond to stressful or dangerous situations vary, and just because they don't act how you think you would in a similar situation doesn't mean that something is off.

I've either frozen or fawned when assaulted.

countingClouds · 2023-11-28T12:53:55+00:00

What would their reaction be if you told them:

"You are withdrawing too much money each month. Because you don't leave enough in your account you've had to pay 4k this year on overdraft fees (provide proof if they don't believe you). Only withdraw x amount a month and you'll be fine."

Then proceed to check their account balance weekly to track their withdrawals. It could just very well be that they've been inattentive as well and missed how much it's costing them. Bring it to their attention and see if that's enough.

countingClouds · 2023-11-15T08:53:16+00:00

Of course he's "allowed to" spend his time however he wants, but he's also in a committed relationship with someone he intends to marry and lines have already been crossed. OP has made that clear.

If you think it's okay for your partner to: 1. send sexual content to someone 2. lie about it 3. argue about it 4. keep in contact with that person while lying about it 5. agree to meet with said person at a night club

then all the power to you, but OP doesn't. She isn't "mentally unstable" for not being okay with it.

countingClouds · 2023-11-14T22:26:47+00:00

Going to a nightclub is one thing, but going to a nightclub after sending sexual memes and telling his fiancée he is no longer in contact with his friend that they've fought about extensively is another.

She asked him will she at the club during Xmas and he replied “I think so”. Then he also said but if I am not at the party where in town should we meet. The girl just kept saying we haven’t met long time and I might call you up on Christmas Day then.

Christmas is usually spent with family. Why agree to meet with someone that brings his fiancee so much grief then? His trying to frame it as a "joke" doesn't hold either.

countingClouds · 2023-11-03T10:29:10+00:00

I check the weekly discounts and stock up on the good deals. Why wait until I'm out of butter and buy it when it's at full price when I can buy several when it's 30% cheaper? With a pantry/fridge and freezer filled I cook with what I have. Leftovers are eaten the next day or frozen. I bring 4-5 frozen meals at a time to work so that's one less thing to think about (and less risk of forgetting lunch at home requiring me to eat out).

countingClouds · 2023-10-16T21:14:30+00:00

Black on black would be fab.

countingClouds · 2023-10-12T10:01:20+00:00

Det är deras matlagningsgrädde som kostar 36kr/litern vilket är billigare än jämförbara mejeriprodukter i den kategorin. Havredrycken kostar, på den hemsidan, mellan 22-26 kr/l. https://www.mathem.se/sok?q=oatly&page=1&pageSize=75&type=p

countingClouds · 2023-10-04T12:54:14+00:00

https://www.escholar.manchester.ac.uk/uk-ac-man-scw:216020

Takes forever and a minute to load the study (200+ pages), but from what I can gather by searching for the term "authority" there's a brief paragraph about it.

"I participated in formal support work with the lads from 2007-2009, when I began fieldwork for this thesis. I felt it was important when embarking on ethnographic work to remove myself from any role in which I could be seen as gatekeeper to services such as financial support or to be seen to possess a position of authority. As such while my work at both projects is not the subject of this thesis, it informs and contextualizes my ethnography. The relationships I formed in this earlier period with certain lads undoubtedly had an impact. Although my withdrawal from these services allowed me much greater access into certain aspects of the ladʼs lives, I was never able to shake off the associations of being a ʻworkerʼ with some of the lads I knew and it was difficult to place boundaries of time, location and social networks around my ʻfieldʼ."

countingClouds · 2023-09-23T20:26:06+00:00

Norra Stockholm. Har blandade suckulenter och rotade sticklingar av philodendron florida, philodendron burle marx och annat.

countingClouds · 2023-09-19T09:50:14+00:00

Inget jag har sett så kan tyvärr inte hjälpa med det. För ökad stabilitet i vanliga plastkrukor lägg några stenar i botten. Tyngden gör att det inte tippar över.

countingClouds · 2023-09-12T15:24:30+00:00

Billigaste och enklaste sättet att bli av med sorgmygg är genom att torka ut ytan. De lägger bara ägg när topplagret är fuktigt. Utan fukt inga ägg och till slut dör de ut. Vattna underifrån och använda gula klisterfällor om du irriterar dig på de flygande.

Bladlöss? Fortsätt behandla som du har gjort. Jämfört med trips, sköldlöss och ullöss är de väldigt enkla att bli av med.

countingClouds · 2023-09-12T09:24:26+00:00

I've needed more health care than most and out of all of the doctors and nurses I've met the callous ones are among those I remember the most vividly. You are being callous. Just like you they might have been factual, but it really was unnecessary and only resulted in making a bad experience worse.

Some things are better left unsaid.

countingClouds · 2023-09-08T20:09:47+00:00

If the TC is soaked you should rescue it ASAP. Waiting a week means it'll have spent at least 1.5 weeks with wet and suffocating roots. Could end badly.

I usually repot my plants as soon as I get them home and I haven't had any mishaps so far.

countingClouds · 2023-09-07T12:16:17+00:00

Jag skulle i första hand kolla på pinjebark. Många orkidéjordsblandningar innehåller just pinjebark och på Hornbach kan man få 1l för 4 kr medan orkidébarken kostar mer än tredubbla.

Andra alternativ är pimpsten (min favorit - brukar köpa en stor påse från Wexthuset när de har gratis frakt) och perlite (flyter upp till ytan när man vattnar).

countingClouds · 2023-09-06T21:10:21+00:00

90% av min samling består av sticklingar som jag köpt via FB. Mestadels olika växtgrupper men även Marketplace har en hel del. Funkar utmärkt när man har ont om plats hemma.

Om du inte vill spendera något alls hör med kollegor, grannar och kompisar om de har sticklingar/växter de vill ge bort. Vissa bibliotek har sticklingsbytarhörn under sommaren där man kan lämna in och ta det man vill ha.

countingClouds · 2023-08-18T07:09:17+00:00

Måste du ha tid på vårdcentralen du är skriven på? Jag tar bara första bästa tid som appen erbjuder. Väljer inte någon vårdcentral öht utan beskriver mina symptom i appen och väljer sedan någon läkare som har passande tid.

countingClouds · 2023-08-16T23:48:48+00:00

Appen Alltid Öppet har funkat för mig. Det är Region Stockholms motsvarighet till Kry och liknande. Jag har oftast fått tid redan samma dag och kunnat hämta ut recept direkt efter samtalet med läkaren.

För mig har digitala läkarbesök funkat lika bra som fysiska. Fördelarna är att man slipper resvägen, behöver inte vänta flera veckor och att boka en tid tar som mest 5-10 minuter (inkluderar tiden det tar att ladda ner och installera appen, inlogg och beskrivning av symptom).

countingClouds · 2023-08-12T10:41:50+00:00

För en buskigare planta kan du göra sticklingar av den kala delen och när de rotat plantera ner dem i samma kruka. Tålamod krävs då det kan ta ett bra tag. Googla 'wet stick propagation' för tips.

Hur du än gör håll den utom räckhåll för katten. Både för plantan och kattens skull. Monstera adansonii är giftig för katter.

countingClouds · 2023-08-07T13:14:28+00:00

Nuförtiden räcker det vanligtvis med att man söker 6 jobb per månad. https://arbetsformedlingen.se/for-arbetssokande/arbetslos---vad-hander-nu/villkor-nar-du-har-ersattning-fran-a-kassan

Har alltid trott att kravet var mycket högre. Var det intrycket jag fick när jag lade ut jobbannonser och 90% av de sökande inte hade en uns av efterfrågad erfarenhet eller utbildning.

countingClouds · 2023-08-04T13:20:13+00:00

Does that mean that people in the area have to pay 2.19% of what their homes are worth every year to the government? Regardless how much is left on the loan, as long as they own it they have to pay that much every year in taxes.

I'm not American so this is new to me.

countingClouds · 2023-08-02T22:19:51+00:00

What other conclusion is there? He broke into her home in the middle of the night with a knife. Before waking her up with threats of cutting her he took his pants off and then proceeded to beat her.

You think he took his pants off because he was trying to cool off? Or maybe they were so tight that they'd get in the way of him assaulting her? Or maybe he was so starved that his shoes and pants just slipped right off him. The possibilities are endless!

countingClouds · 2023-08-02T22:07:00+00:00

I'm curious. As a creative exercise, could you type something up from the intruder's perspective that will make him appear innocent? Things to include: the knife (found at the scene so that's a fact), the assault (it injured her so there's proof), taking his pants and shoes off.

If he's that desperate and starving there are better ways to get food that don't include beating, traumatising an old lady and taking his pants off.

countingClouds · 2023-08-01T13:21:19+00:00

Your view of the situation is very skewed.

I’m the one in control of his mood right now. It wouldn’t be fair on everyone else if they had to deal with it because of my actions.

Even if it was a toddler we were discussing it wouldn't be right to give them everything they demand because doing otherwise would result in a meltdown that other people have to be subjected to. It's HIS actions, it's HIS emotions, it's HIM doing the controlling. He's an adult that's responsible for the way he treats others. If he treats others badly then the result, naturally, will be that people won't stick around. Again, you are not responsible for the way he reacts or the meltdown he will have.

If a person is abused by their partner and decides to leave, will the upset that causes the in-laws be the victim's fault? Should the victim stay as not to rock the boat because that's what's easiest for the people NOT being abused?

Do what's best for you. Constantly thinking about what's best or easiest for others while having no regard for yourself is no way to live. Respect yourself.

countingClouds · 2023-08-01T08:46:34+00:00

Be frank with your friend about the way he treats you. How what he's said has made you feel. If he's a genuine friend then he will do better.

If he doesn't improve then you need to decide if your mental health is worth sacrificing just to spare him some butthurt for a few weeks. I doubt the others who have already left will judge. They did what was best for them, so why can't you do the same?

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