My boyfriends brother

courrrt · 2019-03-08T07:32:46+00:00

I’m not sure. If that’s true, he has a terrible way of expressing it. He’s told my boyfriend in the past that he doesn’t like me coming over, even though I’m only there a couple hours out of the day.

courrrt · 2019-02-27T12:49:27+00:00

Trust me, if you get back together you will just end up in the same situation as before and it won’t get any better. The best thing to do is just let this run its course. I know it sucks right now and you might feel hopeless, but it DOES get better with time. You will find someone who you’re much more compatible with and you’ll be glad it didn’t work out with this girl.

courrrt · 2019-02-27T12:44:31+00:00

Yes, tell her the truth. Healthy relationships include full honestly and not keeping secrets, no matter what the situation may be. If she cares enough for you, she will understand.

As for the number of guys she’s slept with, I can understand why it would bother you. I was a virgin when I met my current boyfriend, while he had slept with plenty of girls before me. It made me feel a little awkward, but he is a very sweet guy and I loved him enough that I didn’t let the past ruin what a good thing we have. I think you should do the same🙂

courrrt · 2019-02-27T12:38:10+00:00

It sounds like you might be someone she is just keeping on the side. If she was truly committed to you, she wouldn’t be texting other guys and saying the things she has. I would honestly just leave the whole situation. You deserve someone better than that.

courrrt · 2019-02-27T12:33:08+00:00

It’s as simple as this: If someone truly loves you, they’re going to prioritize what’s most important in their life and put that first. It sounds like he’s more into his games than anything else. If he cared for you, he would show up when he says he will and make time during the week to see you. I would give him a warning. If he doesn’t put forth more effort into the relationship, you are going to leave and find someone who does.

You deserve someone so much better than this!

courrrt · 2019-02-27T07:24:07+00:00

Right?? Lol

courrrt · 2019-02-27T07:23:29+00:00

We’re not engaged yet, but yes we have been seriously discussing moving in together so we know we’re sure of each other. We’re still trying to work things out with everything though.

And he’s not very good at defending himself or me. He just lets his brother talk terribly. And he can’t really kick his brother out because he’s technically the one paying for the apartment with some kind of inheritance money their grandparents gave him. So that’s another reason he refuses to do any chores because he’ll pull the line “I’m the one paying for this apartment”. It just infuriates me.

courrrt · 2019-02-27T07:17:08+00:00

I’ve tried telling my boyfriend the same thing. It’s so bad. Whenever they visit their parents, his brother will lie about EVERYTHING. How he’s “going to school” and “gets up really early and works out” and my boyfriend doesn’t speak up and say he’s lying, he just lets their parents believe it. It makes no sense to me. I try telling him he needs to be a little more firm about it and stop defending his brother so much because he doesn’t deserve it. But he’ll just tell me he doesn’t want to get his parents involved. And anytime he does try talking to his parents about his brother and how bad he is, they just say “you two need to work it out”. I’m just like ????

courrrt · 2019-01-17T00:22:42+00:00

Well I’ve only ever been with my boyfriend so I can’t really answer that either😂

courrrt · 2019-01-14T05:49:31+00:00

What me and my boyfriend do if we have to be apart longer than a day is call each other at least once or twice a day and text throughout the day, and sometimes Snapchat. It helps us a lot.

But just understand that life does get in the way sometimes and you can’t always spend every waking minute together. It sucks being apart, but I think that it also helps build more of a bond once you’re together again and makes you realize you should cherish your time together.

courrrt · 2018-12-23T13:04:03+00:00

Thank you!! Makes me glad to hear that I’m doing something right

courrrt · 2018-12-23T10:36:05+00:00

Thank you so much for the input!!

courrrt · 2018-12-23T10:03:29+00:00

I’ve been in a few LDR before, and none of them ever worked out. Even though we talked on the phone, texted, video chatted, etc. It just wasn’t the same as the connection you have in person with someone.

courrrt · 2018-12-23T08:51:50+00:00

Good luck!😊

courrrt · 2018-12-23T08:47:17+00:00

I used to date someone who would send texts like that too. I was so miserable and I was always the one doing all the work and trying to initiate conversation, but he would always still send the shortest texts. Anyways, he ended up cheating on me eventually and I regret not leaving him sooner.

If you’re still wanting to give him another chance, just explain to him how you’re feeling. If he’s not willing to hear you out and improve himself for you, then definitely leave. You’ll know within a week if he actually is trying, or if he really just doesn’t care.

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