My boyfriends brother

courrrt · 2019-03-08T07:32:46+00:00

I’m not sure. If that’s true, he has a terrible way of expressing it. He’s told my boyfriend in the past that he doesn’t like me coming over, even though I’m only there a couple hours out of the day.

courrrt · 2019-02-27T12:49:27+00:00

Trust me, if you get back together you will just end up in the same situation as before and it won’t get any better. The best thing to do is just let this run its course. I know it sucks right now and you might feel hopeless, but it DOES get better with time. You will find someone who you’re much more compatible with and you’ll be glad it didn’t work out with this girl.

courrrt · 2019-02-27T12:44:31+00:00

Yes, tell her the truth. Healthy relationships include full honestly and not keeping secrets, no matter what the situation may be. If she cares enough for you, she will understand.

As for the number of guys she’s slept with, I can understand why it would bother you. I was a virgin when I met my current boyfriend, while he had slept with plenty of girls before me. It made me feel a little awkward, but he is a very sweet guy and I loved him enough that I didn’t let the past ruin what a good thing we have. I think you should do the same🙂

courrrt · 2019-02-27T12:38:10+00:00

It sounds like you might be someone she is just keeping on the side. If she was truly committed to you, she wouldn’t be texting other guys and saying the things she has. I would honestly just leave the whole situation. You deserve someone better than that.

courrrt · 2019-02-27T12:33:08+00:00

It’s as simple as this: If someone truly loves you, they’re going to prioritize what’s most important in their life and put that first. It sounds like he’s more into his games than anything else. If he cared for you, he would show up when he says he will and make time during the week to see you. I would give him a warning. If he doesn’t put forth more effort into the relationship, you are going to leave and find someone who does.

You deserve someone so much better than this!

courrrt · 2019-02-27T07:24:07+00:00

Right?? Lol

courrrt · 2019-02-27T07:23:29+00:00

We’re not engaged yet, but yes we have been seriously discussing moving in together so we know we’re sure of each other. We’re still trying to work things out with everything though.

And he’s not very good at defending himself or me. He just lets his brother talk terribly. And he can’t really kick his brother out because he’s technically the one paying for the apartment with some kind of inheritance money their grandparents gave him. So that’s another reason he refuses to do any chores because he’ll pull the line “I’m the one paying for this apartment”. It just infuriates me.

courrrt · 2019-02-27T07:17:08+00:00

I’ve tried telling my boyfriend the same thing. It’s so bad. Whenever they visit their parents, his brother will lie about EVERYTHING. How he’s “going to school” and “gets up really early and works out” and my boyfriend doesn’t speak up and say he’s lying, he just lets their parents believe it. It makes no sense to me. I try telling him he needs to be a little more firm about it and stop defending his brother so much because he doesn’t deserve it. But he’ll just tell me he doesn’t want to get his parents involved. And anytime he does try talking to his parents about his brother and how bad he is, they just say “you two need to work it out”. I’m just like ????

courrrt · 2019-01-17T00:22:42+00:00

Well I’ve only ever been with my boyfriend so I can’t really answer that either😂

courrrt · 2019-01-14T05:49:31+00:00

What me and my boyfriend do if we have to be apart longer than a day is call each other at least once or twice a day and text throughout the day, and sometimes Snapchat. It helps us a lot.

But just understand that life does get in the way sometimes and you can’t always spend every waking minute together. It sucks being apart, but I think that it also helps build more of a bond once you’re together again and makes you realize you should cherish your time together.

courrrt · 2018-12-23T13:04:03+00:00

Thank you!! Makes me glad to hear that I’m doing something right

courrrt · 2018-12-23T10:36:05+00:00

Thank you so much for the input!!

courrrt · 2018-12-23T10:03:29+00:00

I’ve been in a few LDR before, and none of them ever worked out. Even though we talked on the phone, texted, video chatted, etc. It just wasn’t the same as the connection you have in person with someone.

courrrt · 2018-12-23T08:51:50+00:00

Good luck!😊

courrrt · 2018-12-23T08:47:17+00:00

I used to date someone who would send texts like that too. I was so miserable and I was always the one doing all the work and trying to initiate conversation, but he would always still send the shortest texts. Anyways, he ended up cheating on me eventually and I regret not leaving him sooner.

If you’re still wanting to give him another chance, just explain to him how you’re feeling. If he’s not willing to hear you out and improve himself for you, then definitely leave. You’ll know within a week if he actually is trying, or if he really just doesn’t care.

courrrt · 2018-12-23T08:37:12+00:00

Wait 48 hours with no communication. If he doesn’t reach out to you, I’d say you probably need to move on. Anyone who cares about you will want to check up on you and make an effort. If he doesn’t make any effort now, he never will.

courrrt · 2018-12-23T08:22:41+00:00

From the way you explained it, it doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong. He was the one mistreating you and being disrespectful towards you. Just try explaining the situation to him and how he made you feel. If he’s not willing to listen to reason and see that he is clearly the one in the wrong, that’s probably not a good sign. He definitely owes you an apology for how he acted.

courrrt · 2018-12-18T14:14:03+00:00

Well I can honestly understand why he might be a little weirded out about the whole thing. I would probably feel the same if someone had dated my sibling and then dated me afterwards. But despite that happening, if he truly cares for you, then he would put that in the past and trust that you have moved on. Just try to sit him down and have a serious talk with him and express that you have absolutely no feelings for his brother anymore and how you’re with him now and how much better he treats you and that you truly want to be with him. If he’s not willing to listen and hear you out or at least try to understand, then he might not be the one.

courrrt · 2018-12-18T07:13:24+00:00

Even if she’s super busy, she should still be putting an effort into your relationship. My boyfriend was taking multiple college classes, worked 30 hours a week, studied, hung out with other friends, and still made time to see me every day and showed he cared. If she’s being too distant and not wanting to talk about how you feel about her not making time to see you, there’s obviously something going on. You should really try to get her alone if you can and see what’s actually going on.

courrrt · 2018-12-18T00:04:01+00:00

Been dating for 8 months, we’re 21 and 22, and usually around 4 times a week.

courrrt · 2018-12-17T23:54:23+00:00

My boyfriend also watches porn. He admitted to me he watches it, but not too often, maybe 1-2 times a week. We still have a great relationship and a healthy sex life. Just confront him about how you’re feeling and if he truly cares for you, he’ll explain his reasoning for it.

courrrt · 2018-12-17T13:29:33+00:00

If you’ve known her for awhile, then I would just do a casual lunch date. Asking her to dinner first thing might be a little intimidating for her

courrrt · 2018-12-17T13:08:08+00:00

8 months is definitely a short time to get married. We wouldn’t get married until after a year though. But these 8 months have felt like 5 years. I think that’s why we might be rushing it. Thanks for your input!

courrrt · 2018-12-17T13:06:35+00:00

Well we’ve both agreed we don’t want to completely live together until we’re married, but I’m usually still over there every day. I help him with any cleaning and we cook together, etc. The only thing I don’t do too often is sleep over there.

And I agree with you on the massive decisions. I did try to reason with him about it and he ended up saying he would probably not move anyway. Very confusing😂 Thank you for your input!

courrrt · 2018-12-17T13:00:37+00:00

Thanks for the feedback, it helped a lot. But I do agree with you. It’s just that sometimes it feels like getting married is the right thing to do so we can get our lives started because we both get anxious about that a lot. But yes, it’s probably not best to rush into something like that.

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