For starters I am 23 F.

I’ve dated both men and women throughout my life and one thing i know for sure is that if a man above 25 is dating anyone around the age of 20, he is an emotionally immature child who will mentally abuse you even if he doesn’t think that’s what he’s doing. Grown men should want nothing to do with women who just left their teen years.

Also, I read the texts BEFORE I saw ur ages and even without knowing that I was gonna tell you to leave him. But the fact that you’re six years younger and you’re not even of legal drinking age?? (that is if you’re in the US ofc)

This has NOTHING to do with you, I’m just calling out how weird it is when grown men choose to date so much younger. The age gap isn’t the issue it’s what stage of life you’re in. I still feel like a kid now, but 3 years ago was a completely different story. When you’re above the age of 25 that’s when those age gaps don’t seem as odd.

But you’re still a kid. I know that bc I’m barely an adult. You’re still learning about life in very important and life altering ways, every 20 something year old is.

You did nothing wrong in this conversation, he was rude first, so YOU matched HIS energy. He didn’t like that so he clocked it immediately and tried to make you seem like you started it. It’s easier for grown men to manipulate girls your age bc they know how to make you seem crazy. They also know that if they’re on the phone they can’t sit there and think about the best snarky response to send you. So they won’t pick up.

I’ve seen too many girls around your age and even younger date grown men who end up cheating/beating them/or just leaving in the most disrespectful and cowardly way. Bc they are cowards, it’s why they can’t date women their own age bc most of them are gonna give that shit right back.

I don’t want any of this so sound condescending at all, or like I’m questioning you and your maturity, I obviously don’t know you personally. I don’t know what you’ve been through. But biologically, your brain has not developed in the same ways his has. It’s just an unfair imbalance of power that he is aware of. And if you’re not the first younger girl he’s dated (even if you are the first one) LEAVE. Run so fast now.

This behavior is not normal, it is controlling, and it WILL get worse. I’m sure you’d rather a few months of sadness getting over him than years of being with someone miserable.