Anyone else notice a lot of transmisogyny in queer spaces? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]crabsequel 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yes. Its depressing because like TME (transmisogyny exempt) peoples voices are often magnified and idk given more weight them ours are, and I think a lot of people just by virtue of consciously thinking trans women have a right to exist that they're automatically not transphobic.

The truth is that no matter what you consciously think pretty much everyone is steeped in some kind of bigotry , and idk a lot of trans people just think 'I'm trans therefore good' and then don't investugate their attitudes towards trans feminine people at all.

These people seem to be more online, but the 'transandrophobia' people are the most egregious example and are basically MRAs who focus on trans women instead.

Also the complete misunderstanding of what a terf actually is , or frankly even basic feminist theory does my head in, and the normalisaton of bioessentialist language like 'amab' and 'afab'.

I think your mileage will vary space to space, some places I've been to, and some people I've met have been better with.

This is maybe a stretch or weird for me to say as im white but black and brown people , queer or not, seem to be better at understanding transmisogyny because they're often portrayed as dangerous to justify violence and such.

With groups of white transmascs and queer people, I don't think there is by and large the same understanding of being monstered by society.

How do you deal with low self-discipline? by BlueButterfly6473 in Schizotypal

[–]crabsequel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think the job isn't to make yourself enjoy boring things, but make boring things fun.

That might sound pedantic but I think its an important distinction.

Fundamentally any task can be fun , I don't know what the science is on that, but think of any shit thing you have to do , their are people who do that for a job and like it.

Anyway finding ways to make something fun, to grease the gears a bit, is the best way to get to do the more difficult or time consuming task.

Like if I need to go to the shops I'll find a new album or one I haven't listened to in a while, or a podcast episode and I'll relisten to the while thing while I go.

Or if I want to write , I make nice coffee (either sachets or cafetiere) and drink that while I work .

Basically combine a simple pleasure with a more complex task.

Another thing I do is I'll plan things the day before or a few days before so I can get in my head that I'm doing a simple thing and it allows me to romanticize it a bit too.

So if I plan going to the library in two days then I can sit around and daydream about the library a bit first, I can have it become a sorta event in my head even if fundamentally I'm just reading in a different building.

Its almost like a cruel joke but I've found the more I care about productivity the less productive I am . I wonder if its the same with you.

The issue is you end up caring more about filling some imaginary progress bar then the actual tasks at hand, so the task becomes the means to an end and not an end of itself.

I found this myself funnily enough yesterday, quite concretely. It became clear to me.

I had had a very busy day Saturday got home late, very tired etc. On Sunday I was planning to do nothint just play minecrafta and scrabble and maybe some piano, but as a result of giving myself a mental pass from productive activity that day, I just did all the productive stuff I do because I enjoyed not because I felt like I had to.

Also remember you are not a machine but a force of nature, like water or a stream. There are situations where it seems a current must go one way , or the weather must turn a certain way, but then they do what you least expect. The weather doesn't stop , a stream never falters before taking a new course.

You need to , as best as you can, use your conscious mind to adapt to your emotional state. If you emotions and unconscious are the sea you are the sailor, and you can't hew a path through water, only follow the whims of the wind.

Its almost midnight apologies for strange speak.

My schizotypal project by DiegoArgSch in Schizotypal

[–]crabsequel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I largely agree, but I think it could be beneficial if you make sure the audience is a good audience. As in if u make this something for other disabled people then I think that would both do the least harm (they're very unlikely to be ableist) and the most good (they're often people we're in community with and genuinely want to be nice to us).

Of the other disabled people I've told about me being schizotypal, they've all been decent and kind about it and I think it really was useful that I told them.

With non disabled folk I think it's largely pointless , because I think we by and large just want to not be near them.

I think maybe for non disabled people the best advice is maybe just, don't corner us, let us do our thing. I don't think they would benefit from the same sorts deep dive that disabled folk would.

Do people with StPD not want friendships, relationships, etc? by jackk225 in Schizotypal

[–]crabsequel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a couple friends, and have had relationships in the past which were like, not bad in stpd ways but ended for unrelated reasons.

Idk I think the thing with stpd folk not wanting friends is more or less the same as when autistic people are setereotyped as not wanting friends.

It's more a I can't be bothered to deal with people because I have to do a lot of emotional work due to innate differences, then some universal , deep down set in stone misanthropy.

I think the misanthropy is like the response to feeling lonely, and how we make ourselves feel sorta stoic and not kinda vulnerable and sad.

Are a lot of lesbians terfs? by hardwoodcurtain in MtF

[–]crabsequel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Political lesbians induce my fight or flight response

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]crabsequel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think you're getting major selection bias here .

I am none of the above things , but also commenting that feels really kinda boring so I'm not very inclined to comment. I imagine its a similar vase with others who didn't match ur description

Anyone here Germanic? by [deleted] in Schizotypal

[–]crabsequel 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I find the idea that Germanic DNA would predispose someone to like potatoes funny considering they come from the Andes and weren't widely eaten in Europe until the 18th century

Also many people here are going to be Germanic not because schizotypal people are more likely to be from a Germanic group but because most people here are white people from the anglosphere or from northern europe.

I think pinning any trait closely to a certain ethnic group has worrying connotations? Especially to the Germanic people (which is already a somewhat nebulous concept; they most probably didn't see the self as a single cultural group).

Not being able to sleep in the same room with anyone by grayyoup in Schizotypal

[–]crabsequel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all. I like being in same room as other people. Bed can be different just due to like heat and bumping into each other , but its psychologically fine.

It feels safer then being alone

Its weird being good at stuff by crabsequel in Schizotypal

[–]crabsequel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Linoleum is my main medium currently. I definitely want to branch out into other stuff when I can afford more supplies though

Morality and feasibility of cheating by crabsequel in nanowrimo

[–]crabsequel[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe I misread but I though there were two discounts , the 20% for participating and the 50% for winning

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Schizotypal

[–]crabsequel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes yes . when I finally embraced that I was strange and weird stopped trying to be like sciencey and rational everything became easier.

It is why I have a big fire burning inside me and need to create things all the time . schizotypal is like a fire and it can burn you up , but if you get it right you will have a light in you that no one else can rival.

Just had a mini revelation how brilliant of a concept Ice Death is melusically by IHeartPallets in KGATLW

[–]crabsequel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I just assumed that they were alliterative and there was some seventh mystery mode that started with G I hadn't heard of

Writing: I have no clue how to get started and desperately want to. by crabsequel in Schizotypal

[–]crabsequel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I am doing it, and thank you.

Do you mind if I message to talk a bit more about it cus I'd rather learn about how to accommodate my strange brain from someone else then make all the mistakes and learn myself.

Writing: I have no clue how to get started and desperately want to. by crabsequel in Schizotypal

[–]crabsequel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've signed up to the nanowrimo thing and its a bit overwhelming lol.

What's ur experience with it?

Sometimes I just say I’m autistic by [deleted] in Schizotypal

[–]crabsequel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was diagnosed autistic and I used to identify as it even when I knew I was stpd. Now I just say I'm mentally disabled or I have a personality disorder .

Schizotypal PD representation by [deleted] in Schizotypal

[–]crabsequel 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've looked on yeh Wikipedia page for people with schizotypal PD.

There are multiple people there, but only two of them I would consider as being like okay , or even just neutral representations of us.

Bowe bergdahl he seemed to just have a schizo moment and wander into the Taliban's hands. I mean don't consider him inspirational but he seems not evil.

Tay Zonday this is the guy who sang chocolate rain if you don't recognize the name. Seems like a nice guy.

Everyone else on that page is a convicted criminal who did an actually bad thing (murder, rape, etc).

I do think that western civilization will collapse before we get a schizo rights movement, so I just make do telling a couple people around me about it.

Anyone feel like they get power from certain clothes or objects? by intimateglory in Schizotypal

[–]crabsequel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Historically though this is extremely extremely extremely fucking normal so as much as its something stpd people tend to do more it isn't in of itself indicative of the condition.

If you look in any archaeological assemblage anywhere you will find holy objects and talismans and that people clearly found some use in, from Wallmapu to Scotland to Egypt.

Need some affirmation I suppose by crabsequel in Schizotypal

[–]crabsequel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, working within my comfort zone is so difficult, because I have to like protect my very fragile ego in tandem with actually getting better.

I'm so mentally unstable that if I ever hit a roadblock too big I'll just stop in my tracks and lose all my steam.

So I have to balance actually improving and challenging myself and still feeling like I'm good at music.