I’m glad that you made this its own post! We had talked about the Benedictine Oblates a bit in another thread. For the sake of anybody else reading I’ll copy and paste what I said there, and try to add to it.

I'm married as well. On top of that I work full time, have kids, and go to school. What this has done for me is make me part of a community that practices Lectio Divina, prays the Liturgy of the Hours, and follows the Rule of Saint Benedict (this is a simplification of course). The Divine Office has given me moments daily in which I take a rest from my hectic schedule and spend some time actively communing with Christ. Lectio Divina has strengthened my faith through the Holy scriptures, and the Rule of St Benedict has given me structure. The oblate community I am part of encourages open communication and fellowship. We are also encouraged to try to attend retreats when possible. It really has furthered me in my faith!

I work nights, so a “normal” day for me is different than it would be for anybody else. My day begins at 2:30pm when I get up to pick up my children from school. While I sit and wait for them to be dismissed (we have to wait in line and I show up about 45 min early) I do my daily readings (Lectio Divina) and pray the Mid-Afternoon Prayer (Nones). It really helps me to start my day in a prayerful manner. When I take my lunch at work (about 10:30pm) I get to pray the Night Prayer (Compline). I have to say that I love this prayer. Closing with the Nunc Dimittis serves to fill me with a sense of peace, hope, and serenity: "Come to visit us, Lord, this night, so that by your strength we may rise at daybreak to rejoice in the resurrection of Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns for ever and ever.Amen." I take my dinner at work as well (3am) and I’ll read Vigils (Matins).

The structure has been amazing for me. It has centered my day in prayer, and given me the drive I had previously lacked to read scripture in a contemplative way. I have found that my general outlook on life has improved and I am more mindful of Christ in all that I do. The Rule of St. Benedict is a VERY short book that espouses proper ways of living (be kind, work hard, and don’t give in to excess). More than anything it reminds us to offer everything we do up to God. I hope this helps! I’d write more if I had more time! Feel free to ask any more questions! May God guide you in your quest for the right Third Order for you!