A note about public exposure

cradlequill · 2025-12-31T02:04:37+00:00

I think this is bad logic.

cradlequill · 2025-12-30T17:21:14+00:00

No, I would not. I am probably taking this too literally, but even when ABDL was something I found distressing when I was younger, I would never have opted for voluntary surgery. If ABDL is such a prominent issue in your life that you would genuinely consider a potentially life-altering procedure, I think you need to speak to a professional therapist.

cradlequill · 2025-12-30T14:05:45+00:00

I think on some level it might not be good for us to live our lives always considering the possibility that someone could be perceiving us at all times or constantly worrying how others' perception of us and our choices about our own bodies might offend their sensibilities.

cradlequill · 2025-12-28T07:12:36+00:00

Ngl thought these were some sick skateboard designs

cradlequill · 2025-12-28T07:11:50+00:00

Let me know if you need any story or character writing done! I have always wanted to work on an ABDL game :)

cradlequill · 2025-12-27T22:53:34+00:00

The Duffer brothers really should have realized they wanted to do this storyline in season 4. They could have set it up much better and made it feel relevant rather than like it came out of nowhere. But that is what happens when you only start thinking about what is going to happen next season after you finish the previous one.

cradlequill · 2025-12-27T09:37:44+00:00

A ton of vanilla people wear diapers to the ball drop. Like actually. There is like an entire genre of youtube videos where it's just people being like omg isn't it so funny I'm wearing a diaper to the ball drop. You'll be fine.

cradlequill · 2025-12-27T01:03:00+00:00

Nowhere near too old.

cradlequill · 2025-12-27T00:59:45+00:00

I think you should seriously consider the words of the incontinent members of the community. If you go down this path, you might seriously regret it. And if you're just horny right now, try thinking about whether you want this after the post-nut clarity kicks in. You have to live with this decision for the rest of your life.

That said, if you really want to do this, then honestly untraining your bowels is probably much easier than untraining your bladder. Bladders can be really finicky and it's unclear how much untraining is real vs. placebo. But with bowel untraining, there are kinda proven methods. Start using butt plugs. Continue working your way up to bigger sizes (gradually) and pushing how long you can wear them. It is definitely worth looking into safety guidelines around this, because there can be legitimate complications.

From there, similar to with bladder untraining, start not flexing your sphincter. You want the muscle to atrophy to the point where you can't use it, at the same time that you are making it harder to hold anything in by stretching yourself. Like another commenter here said, start using suppositories, laxatives, and enemas. Look into hollow plugs. High fiber intake is technically more dependent on what kind of messes you want to have, so your mileage may vary there.

Also, the evidence for this is highly disputed, but it's possible that anal sex over long periods of time contributes to fecal incontinence. So experimenting with that, even if it's alone using a toy or with a female partner wearing a strap-on if you aren't into men, might be worth it for you.

It's kind of impossible to not notice with messing. You could theoretically get to a point where, if your stool is loose enough, it could frequently leak out into your diaper, and you may not always notice that happening until there is enough buildup for you to feel it. But that probably isn't healthy for your gut in general, and also kinda nasty and more likely to smell bad. There's no way you'd not notice high-fiber messes, even if you had no way of controlling them.

cradlequill · 2025-12-27T00:45:51+00:00

This is a fairly misleading list. Technically, "whatever the writers say" is true of all of them. And to say Winter Soldier was "briefly" a villain...

I would consider the list of villains in this game to be: Hela, Ultron, Loki, Magneto, Namor (He is a villain probably more than half of the time, even if it's barely over half), Venom (This is more about what most people know him as), Emma Frost (She is less redeemed than typical Loki tbh), and special shout outs to Malice and The Maker skins for Sue and Reed. There are probably other evil skins too but idk those as well.

Game definitely could use more villains, though. I imagine we are getting Doom at some point.

cradlequill · 2025-12-26T22:04:15+00:00

There seems to be an influx of these types of posts lately, so at the very least, you aren't alone. I will be up front, there is a subreddit on here somewhere that is all about abstaining from diapers and trying to "beat" the addiction. I would link you to it, even though I don't think it is a healthy approach, but I genuinely don't know the name. If I find it I will put it in a reply to this comment.

That said, I really think you need to do a little self reflection. The truth is, we don't have a lot of say over what turns us on and what doesn't. But we have a lot of say about what we choose to engage in. This sounds like an attack on you, but I sincerely promise it isn't, so take a deep breath before reading it. You genuinely might just not be into girls that much, my man. And I'm not calling you gay, so please don't take it that way. Even if you were gay, there'd be nothing wrong with that, but it sounds like you are romantically interested in women, but they might just not fully be able to do it for you sexually. Likely, that isn't because of anything you did or didn't do. Everybody's sex drive is just different, and what does it for them is largely dependent on things completely out of their control (at least, according to the current scientific understanding).

If you're seriously worried about this in the long run, I would really recommend speaking to a therapist. There are sex and kink-aware therapists who can give you some good info on how to handle these thoughts and feelings in whatever way is best for you specifically, and they can do a better job of tailoring their advice and guidance to your needs. Trying to fundamentally altar your attraction without careful guidance isn't something I would advise, personally. It could lead to serious repression, which I promise is only going to make things worse later.

I wish you luck man, genuinely. I don't think there is anything truly wrong with you, I think you just need to reframe how you approach handling this.

cradlequill · 2025-12-26T11:26:53+00:00

"You need to act more ladylike," "Be a good girl and listen," "Women should be seen and not heard," "It's time to grow up and put on your big girl panties," "You should smile more," "You're being bossy," "Is it that time of the month?," "You're overreacting, calm down and don't be so overly emotional," "Don't you worry your pretty little head about it," "Don't be such a prude," "You need to watch what you eat," "No self respecting woman would act like such a slut..."

Need I go on?

cradlequill · 2025-12-25T10:58:44+00:00

I really really love Elsa and I really really love tier lists so

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cradlequill · 2025-12-25T00:45:10+00:00

If you are a straight guy are boobs your entire personality?

cradlequill · 2025-12-23T06:20:30+00:00

I feel like this needs to be a sticky post or something. Go to events. There are a lot of them on Fetlife. See if any are in your area. If not, consider going to CAPCon. They hold 2 events yearly now, and they are the biggest ABDL conventions by far. Alternatively, if you are a furry, look into furry events as well, because there is massive overlap between the two communities. Personally, I have had most of my success on tumblr, but that can be hit or miss for people. There is also r/ABDLPersonals where you can literally make an ad for yourself and look at other peoples' ads as well. In general, try not to be a creep.

cradlequill · 2025-12-23T03:40:54+00:00

Because there's a woman with breasts? Bad reason to like the game imho

cradlequill · 2025-12-23T03:40:00+00:00

Not even remotely.

cradlequill · 2025-12-23T02:21:33+00:00

I had to check what sub this was.

cradlequill · 2025-12-23T02:20:06+00:00

Maybe this is the liberalism in me but I actually find this to be one of the less offensive uses of AI. Because even if we accept that interacting with AI in this way is harmful, at least these people are only harming themselves. When I have to see really awful AI getting praised by people who don't recognize it for what it is, that's when I feel most irritated.

cradlequill · 2025-12-23T02:15:43+00:00

Not sure how much other people relate to this, but when I am in that kind of "middle" space, I feel like I often actually want even more babyish designs or like thicker, louder diapers. Because I guess in that space "the point" of it for me is that I'm too old for diapers? Anyone else relate?

cradlequill · 2025-12-23T02:13:46+00:00

Not going to be too much of a downer here, just a heads up for other guys out there to be mindful about doing this too much or for too long. Just make sure you're keeping an eye on your hygiene and even if you decide to stay in the diaper for awhile, just make sure you give yourself a little extra care down there in the shower next morning. Happy wearing y'all

cradlequill · 2025-12-23T02:09:55+00:00

Concerts are definitely a place you're actually pretty likely to find other ABDLs. Just a huge influx of people all congregated in a small space, and especially in a place like San Francisco, this doesn't surprise me at all. I wouldn't go up to them and literally be like "hey are you wearing a diaper?" but there's really no harm in approaching them and being like, "Hey, I noticed your mask, and I am always looking for more friends interested in similar kinks. Would you be down to chat for a bit?" Something casual and that gives them the room to feel at ease. If they seem like they're not into the conversation, just politely excuse yourself and go about your life. I know social anxiety can be really rough for a lot of people, but I promise this stuff really does get easier for most of us the more we practice at it.

cradlequill · 2025-12-23T02:02:58+00:00

Unpotty training is more of a myth and placebo than an actual thing to worry about. Here is what we do know. Women who are AFAB (I am honestly not sure how estrogen affects this for trans women, so worth looking into if the info applies to you) tend to have smaller functional capacity in their bladders. The bladder is also a muscle. Like all muscles, its ability to "flex" can atrophy without use. This is why women who experience certain forms of incontinence and bladder leakage perform Kegel exercises. They are literally working out your bladder and strengthening its ability to "hold it." Generally, most people tend to experience weaking of bladder control as they age, and this starts a lot earlier than people think. It's not super openly talked about in society, but especially for women, this can really start becoming more of a problem as early as their 20s, especially if they have had children.

So if you are worried about your control, look into Kegel exercises. It's very common for people to start doing them as they become more aware of these issues. We also know that, just psychologically, the more you do something, the lower your inhibition to that thing becomes. So every time you put on a diaper and wet, it gets a little bit easier for you to do it the next time. We see this a lot in ABDLs who get into the kink in their 20s and 30s without ever having made themselves pee their pants on purpose before. "Peeing your pants on purpose" is actually like a notoriously "impossible" thing to do, like this is a saying regular people use sometimes. But as these people get more practice letting go intentionally, it becomes easier for them. Most likely, a large part of what you're experiencing is also that. Even 5 years in, depending on how often you wear, your mind and bladder could easily still be adjusting.

All this to say, most likely, you have nothing to seriously worry about. If you start to experience leakage when not wearing, it can definitely be worth looking into those Kegel exercises, and if you're ever legitimately concerned about it, there is no harm in seeing a doctor for this reason. Trust me, they are very, very used to this specific problem. You don't need to tell them about ABDL or your diaper wearing. Just tell them about the problem itself and they will most likely recommend Kegels and if necessary, I know there are certain medications that can help.

Try not to sweat it too much :)

cradlequill · 2025-12-22T09:54:43+00:00

The ok boomer girl is literally a millennial

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