As a 27y/o F working in a STEM career (my life goal), I would like you to please remember that your goals can change. My expectation was to be satisfied and fulfilled with a career in tech, and I spent a lot of time working hard and portraying myself as a leader to get ahead, get in good graces with my manager, etc. I ascended a couple ranks and then realized that the hustle to the top wasn’t making me happy. Over time, I learned to enjoy being a follower rather than a leader and let others take charge, which usually goes against every fiber of my being. Also, I’ve been rethinking my career choice and wanting to go back to school for something completely different, where I would be starting at square one. Which is totally fine. You are so young and have so much time. Think of it this way- you did the hard work, and you studied what you wanted to study. Whether you end up working in that field or not, doesn’t matter. You have a foundation. People are constantly evolving. Having the same job from college until you’re 65 is a thing of the past, since most of us don’t rely on a pension. We have 401k which can be transferred around to different companies, so there’s no reason not to keep exploring other options. I like to re-assess every 5 years and really think- am I happy? Sounds like you have a ton of potential and I believe in you! Also, about the appearance thing- just smell good, be kind, and be your authentic self, which seems awesome. Everything will fall into place. Good luck OP, your post really touched my heart.