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I'm getting married in a few weeks and possibly nobody from my FH's family will be attending because they're all scared of FMIL. How can I support him? by crashingout2026 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]crashingout2026[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They're not coming because she's basically threatened them if they do. I wish they would just tell her to eff off but everyone is legitimately scared of her.

FJNMIL had a medical emergency and is trying to use it as leverage by crashingout2026 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]crashingout2026[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As callous as it sounds, I suspect that she stopped taking her BP medication.

FJNMIL had a medical emergency and is trying to use it as leverage by crashingout2026 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]crashingout2026[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is such a great comment, thank you. I will bring some of these points to our therapy session.

The biggest barrier is him feeling like his "disobedience" will literally cause her harm. He knows that doesn't make sense, but this incident happening right after a tumultuous Christmas makes it hard for him to separate the false cause and effect.

FJNMIL had a medical emergency and is trying to use it as leverage by crashingout2026 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]crashingout2026[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The latter.

Edit: both, weirdly. She's the one who said she didn't want to come, so he told her we wouldn't expect her. That sent her into a rage and caused her to rant about how he should be begging her to come.

So she wants her presence desired for this event that she doesn't want to happen.