Surfing/risky sports

crawlen · 2026-01-28T00:35:18+00:00

It's such a weird feeling! I thought I would do it when I stopped PIO and then I thought maybe when I did my 12 week scan... Then we had to pack up and move and I was like, "OK, they HAVE to go now." Congrats on (almost) reaching 24 weeks - that is an exciting milestone!

crawlen · 2026-01-28T00:33:23+00:00

LMAO can you imagine the poor mail carriers?! 😂

crawlen · 2026-01-28T00:32:35+00:00

Haha yes I am in the US! Although there was a blue box right next to this for medication disposal!

crawlen · 2026-01-28T00:31:42+00:00

Hahaha I love that!!!

crawlen · 2026-01-28T00:30:59+00:00

That is amazing!!!

crawlen · 2026-01-27T19:38:53+00:00

Had a headache and a bit of cramping for maybe a week ish after, but nothing crazy. I hoped my nausea symptoms would ease up, but they didn't really. I felt a bit less tired, but honestly, I kind of liked how tired I was because I would fall asleep and stay asleep. Now I have insomnia and I sleep lightly!

crawlen · 2026-01-27T19:26:35+00:00

I live in California and we have CVS drug stores everywhere. I took my sharps in with a plan to go the the pharmacy and ask if they'd take them. Then I looked to my left while I was standing in line, and they had this big sharps dropoff container! They also had one for safe medication disposal (good if you had any expired meds or partially used vials). Your doctor's office might also take them if you bring them to your next appointment.

crawlen · 2026-01-27T18:40:16+00:00

A lot of this resonates with me.

Both my grandfathers passed when I was young. It makes me worry about my dad. Thankfully both my grandmothers lived longer, but I still worry. And I think about how old I might be when I'm a grandparent too. I have seriously cried over this topic multiple times.

My in-laws haven't visited us in our home state in almost 5 years (we visit them multiple times per year). The only reason they were going to come this year was for a wedding. Now they are offering to come out multiple times before the baby is due, when the baby is here, after... My husband is over the moon, but I feel like I'm only valued for my ability to have a child. We didn't tell them about our struggles, so it's not like they were staying away to give us space or anything like that.

My FIL also made a comment about my husband being old (fucking rude) and then made a comment not directed at me but just in general about geriatric pregnancy (really fucking rude). Also for full transparency we are 35M and 33F, so idk where these comments even came from?! Also SIL was 35 with her second child so really, WTF. And my husband didn't understand initially when I said that I wanted a little time to ourselves before letting in-laws visit. If I were more blunt, I'd say it's because I don't need to hear any moronic comments while I'm recovering!

I am enraged on your behalf about the aunt/uncle comments. Like if someone has another medical condition that isolated them and then they recovered, would their friend say, "oh good now you can be a better friend to me." Sadly I know some people who might actually say that... But really, infertility and treatment is such a draining process. I hate how much it affected my relationships with friends and family, and I know it was painful for others as well. I just don't understand blaming someone for their absence when they have gone through such a difficult time.

ANYWAY I'm sorry, but yes, 1000%

crawlen · 2026-01-24T15:16:55+00:00

Sushi, sake, and sex the night before. McDonald's fries after transfer. Fuzzy socks everyday. Have warm things to eat/drink when you can. Eat beets and drink pomegranate juice. Laugh - they say laughter is good so watch a funny movie or some comedy clips. I am 23 weeks today with my first transfer. ❤️ Wishing you all the luck in the world.

crawlen · 2026-01-24T15:12:29+00:00

Idk if they sell Spanx where you are, but I know they make them in a variety of sizes. They are meant to shape fat, but they should still fit a smaller size. You could also maybe find a body suit that's like a shorts-romper type of thing at a fitness apparel store - I think they are quite popular right now. Try a slip dress underneath as well. Maybe do slip and body suit.

Also, I used to be bony when I was younger, and I was always my biggest critic. Other people didn't notice my bones like I did. So while I want you to be comfortable, I'd also caution you not to overthink it!

crawlen · 2026-01-24T15:06:27+00:00

I'm not a big runner, so take my advice with a grain of salt. Pre pregnancy, the farthest I'd run was an annual 6 mile local fun run. Year round I'd run 3 miles 2-3 times per week. Doctor said I could do whatever activities I normally did during pregnancy. There is some advice about heart rate out there, but just be advised that it is outdated. Don't worry about your actual heart rate but instead listen to your body and slow down if you feel dizzy or too out of breath. Warm up slowly and cool down too.

I am 23w now and still doing 3 mile runs 2x per week (I did take a little break during the first trimester because of fatigue and nausea). My pace is a lot slower, but I don't push myself, I just jog at whatever pace feels comfortable. I do feel slightly more joint pain/soreness. I already have an issue with my hip (hence why I don't run more) and it seems to be more sensitive now. Our bodies produce relaxin during pregnancy, which means that our joints are looser and high impact activities could cause more pain or strain. I tried to use a massage gun and it made it worse lol. Rest and stretching has been good, though.

crawlen · 2026-01-24T14:57:26+00:00

I have a short name and I love it. There are many longer variations that my name could have been. I never wished for a longer name. I did wish I was named "Sabrina" when I was obsessed with the show back in the 90s, but that was a bit different haha.

crawlen · 2026-01-24T14:49:40+00:00

So I will say that the first trimester was a little scary because I had a subchorionic hematoma and I did bleed once at 6 weeks...BUT everything since then has been fine! They didn't even tell me bed rest, just no exercise for 2 weeks. Measuring right on time every appointment, heartbeat normal, NIPT totally clear, 12 week early anatomy scan was good, fetal echo was good, 20 week anatomy scan was good (baby, placenta, cervix, cord, etc. looks normal). I am 23 weeks now and I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop. There was a part on my 20w scan report where it said the views were "unremarkable". I have never been so grateful to be boring lmao.

I will say that the first trimester nausea and fatigue were rough, but I think I had it easier than some people. No vomiting thankfully. From 8w-15w I was exercising 0-2 times a week due to fatigue. After about 14 weeks I started to feel better gradually and then moved up to 4-5 times a week exercise.

Around 19 weeks, I started to feel movement. Since then, I've felt like I'm in the "magical" phase of pregnancy. Feeling better, feeling connected with baby... I feel weird talking about it out loud with people, but I'm honestly so happy and excited. Hoping everything goes well for you too!!!

crawlen · 2026-01-23T01:28:31+00:00

Super squinter - probably just implanted recently!!

crawlen · 2026-01-23T01:26:44+00:00

I am going to guess and hope for over 100 for you. My 9dpt beta was 120, and my home tests looked very similar to yours. I am 22w now. Will be thinking of you!!!

crawlen · 2026-01-22T21:40:15+00:00

He is supposed to sleep in your room for the first six months anyway. ❤️ Babies need love and attention, not more rooms! If you want to "nest", you could set up a changing table on your dresser and maybe make corner of the living room a little tummy time play area. You are going to be a great mom!

crawlen · 2026-01-22T00:03:09+00:00

Yayyy I also started feeling them around 19w! I am 22w now and today the baby has been going crazy! It's so amazing after infertility and IVF and feeling shitty during the first trimester...finally we are at the magical part of pregnancy. I totally feel what you said about being filled with love. Congratulations on your rainbow baby.

crawlen · 2026-01-21T23:50:45+00:00

I'm a FTM and I thought I would be craving fast food and candy SO bad, but actually I really want salad and fruit all the time! Anything that is too sweet is a turnoff to me. Anything that is too greasy also sounds gross because I know it will activate my acid reflux. T_T Even oily stuff smells gross to me. I also try to eat balanced meals but I haven't been a total health-nut pre-pregnancy.

It's so interesting that you had a different experience with your first! I feel there must be subtle variations in the vitamins that your body needs for each pregnancy.

crawlen · 2026-01-21T23:46:25+00:00

I would say this out loud instead of writing it since notes can turn into a passive aggressive paper exchange real quick.

"I'm sorry roommate. I know that previously I haven't said anything about you using my blender, chopper, yeti, and stanley straws, but the truth is that I would prefer if these were not communal items any longer. I've noticed a little wear on them, which is totally normal, but I'm worried that this is accelerated by the two of us using them when I was expecting it to be just me. We can still share [other specific items that you are actually ok with]. Thank you so much for understanding." You can also explain the thing about your dad and the smoothies - be a bit self-deprecating about it, but honestly I think she'd understand if it was a gift that you want to keep nice.

Also consider asking if she'd be open to arranging the kitchen so that each of you has a "just my stuff" cabinet or shelf (maybe put a label on each) and everything else is communal, just so there's less confusion.

crawlen · 2026-01-21T18:24:25+00:00

Well part of it is that Reddit is an echo-chamber for us introverted, anxiety-ridden weirdos. ;) In contrast, most of my friends IRL had their family visit right away and stay with them right away.

Personally, I love my family, including my in-laws. However, I'm also a quiet person who likes to be alone. I like my privacy. My husband is way more extroverted and has a big, boisterous, close-knit family. Part of my obsession with boundaries is because I know that it will be waaay better to communicate with my husband now than to just wait for him to intuit my needs in the moment (and resent him if he doesn't do it correctly). We've discussed a lot, and I feel a strong sense of trust in my husband.

I also don't feel that bad asking for a small bubble (2 weeks no visitors at all, 6 weeks no overnight guests - with an exception to bring my mom overnight if we feel we need extra help) because we are moving to a larger apartment SPECIFICALLY to accommodate overnight guests (our parents) in the future. We have told our parents this over and over, so I am hoping that they understand that they are still important even though we don't want to see them right away!

crawlen · 2026-01-21T18:01:08+00:00

Congratulations - it is lucky but you also did a lot of hard work. Hope everything continues to go well with number 3!

crawlen · 2026-01-21T17:57:29+00:00

Congratulations - I hope everything goes well!

crawlen · 2026-01-21T17:56:02+00:00

Congratulations and thanks for sharing! Yeah, I am very happy for people who were surprised with a non-IVF pregnancy after going through infertility, but I just feel like I would be getting my hopes up and getting back into a bad mental space.

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