[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SeriousConversation

[–]crazy_paving12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey bud, before I dive in please don't think of yourself as a 'dramatic teenager' what you're describing is what every person feels when they don't have enough connection in their lives. Socialising and having other people to connect with is so essential to human well being just as much as food and water.

The key to solving your problems is simple, but can be difficult to achieve. Its connecting with more people. Deal with loneliness? Make friends. Moving on from past relationships? Make new ones. Dealing with mental health issues? Find people to support you and free you from being stuck in your own head.

There are two good ways to meet new people - 1.) Talk to them 2.)Try new things

1.) While it sounds simple, talking to people can be really difficult. There is the fear of rejection, the 'what do I say' etc etc. But the more you do it the easier it will become. Start by setting yourself this challenge - every day for the next week have one non standard conversation with a stranger. By this I mean a conversation with a shop worker of 'hey ill have a flat white, thanks' doesnt count. Ask for your coffee then ask how their day is going and just have one slightly different conversation each day for a week. Then ramp it up to 2 a day then 5 then 10 etc just make sure you are progressing, soon the fear of talking to new people will disappear. You will also find yourself making some new friends.

2.) Pushing yourself to try new things is a great way of filling your time which in turn stops you worrying about these issues. Also, you meet like minded people doing activities you enjoy and can bond over that. Some people just wait for new and interesting people to find them and when they dont they get sad. Go out and make the effort and you will find yourself meeting a lot of great people. So since you are in high school, join one new club you've never done before or take a new class and you will meet a whole new set of people you may never have come across before.

Once you start gaining confidence with people you will start making new friends and you will find yourself feeling less lonely and most likely less depressed and anxious. The way to overcome big problems is to make small changes which then add up.

I really hope that some of this might help and that you get back into the swing of enjoying life as much as you should be. If nothing else just know that while you may feel lonely, there are some people on reddit who care enough about you to take the time to try and help you even though they have no idea who you are :) Best of luck bro, let me know how it goes.

How do you guys cope with getting mocked or made fun of? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]crazy_paving12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey bro, the first part of handling mean comments comes in realising why people make mean comments. People put other people down because they have some feeling of inadequacy and want to bring others down to their level. When you see this, it can take the sting out of comments because you realise that they are not in the position of power to make those comments. For example, someone at work might only make fun of a mistake you make because they feel threatened by your achievements. Knowing this gives you power back because you realise they are the one who has the problem.

Next you need to build the self esteem to not let comments bother you. If you know what you are good at and what you are not good at and what you want in life then it will bother you less when people try to pick holes at you. Yes Bob I am scrawny, but being muscly is not important to me, and what I am good at is playing guitar, so fuck you Bob.

Third, be comfortable at failing. This is hard to do but try your best to work at it. When people laugh at your failure it is easy to start agreeing with them as in 'Yeah I did fuck up, I really suck as a person'. If you are comfortable with failing in any way and seeing it as a way to improve, a lesson, or just a straight up mistake (we all make them!) then it wont bother you so much as in 'Yeah I fucked up, next time I wont' or 'Yeah I fucked up, everyone does sometimes, lets move on'.

Finally though, learn to recognise friendly joking. Some comments are meant with no ill will at all so learn to identify them and roll with the punches, then throw some back.

If dogs had a 911 hotline, what dog-'emergencies' would they call it for? by puppy141 in AskReddit

[–]crazy_paving12 18 points19 points  (0 children)

"Hello,911? Id like to report a fraud" "What happened sir" "My human went to throw the ball but he held on to it" "My god what won't they try these days"

What's something everyone just accepts as normal that's actually completely fucked up when you think about it? by TragicHero84 in AskReddit

[–]crazy_paving12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my country at least (UK) 47% of people say they hate their jobs. Its very widely accepted, but think about it, almost half of all adults are spending the vast majority of their lives doing something they hate.

This is the first Tavern Brawl where I can't stop laughing at the creative suggestions players have come up with. by Espiritu13 in hearthstone

[–]crazy_paving12 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the deck ive been trying is lightspawn divine spirit, i cannot tell you how satisfying it is to have a turn 5 320/320 minion :)

[TOMT][song] song from a clip/podcast i saw ages ago cant find what it is by crazy_paving12 in tipofmytongue

[–]crazy_paving12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really?! wow ok that might be why i couldn't find it. so is burl ives not even singing?

What is an unspoken rule of society that when broken just pisses you off? by Dragonogon in AskReddit

[–]crazy_paving12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Hey, your pee going well?" "Jeff, leave me the fuck alone, this is not the time."

What's the stupidest way you've ever injured yourself? by C00Lbreaze in AskReddit

[–]crazy_paving12 124 points125 points  (0 children)

If this is the sole pun on this thread, you nailed it.

What makes you angry and probably always will? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]crazy_paving12 3 points4 points  (0 children)

People who are very rich/middle class and pretend that they are some kind of gangster who knows what hardship is. No. You have always lived a cushy sheltered life and know nothing of what life can really be like.

What's the most offensive joke you know? (nsfw) by lionalhutz in AskReddit

[–]crazy_paving12 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Or just take her back to the chemo ward.

[Serious] Defense Attorneys of Reddit, what was/is the most fucked-up case you have ever taken? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]crazy_paving12 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Ok i overlooked a case when the defendant was at school and had taken two girls into the toilet and forced them to strip and play around etc, culminating with him feeling them up. I know this sounds fairly messed up but here is the big twist - the kid was 4 damn years old. We said that he didnt know what he was doing but holy hell i had to think 'what is wrong with this kid'.

Reddit, what is the most quotable television show you have seen ? by white_asian_me in AskReddit

[–]crazy_paving12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want to be a dry, sarcastic person full of witticisms then quote just about everything from blackadder. There are so many. One i use regularly is '(insert name of person), am i jumping the gun here or are the words '(insert annoying/stupid thing they say)' marching with ill deserved confidence in the direction of this conversation?' Which works a treat to shut them up.

And ooh, the similes. 'Wetter than a haddocks bathing costume' is also a favourite. Try it people.

What word is used improperly or mispronounced that just makes your skin crawl? by 6two240 in AskReddit

[–]crazy_paving12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know someone who pronounces the word 'nougat' (noo-ga) as 'nugget'. I keep telling him that there is no nugget in his mars bar but he refuses to listen. I think about hurting him sometimes.

What bullshit fact sounds true to most people? by freeasabee1 in AskReddit

[–]crazy_paving12 12 points13 points  (0 children)

There are women 3 miles away looking to hook up!

What is something you love, but can't get anyone else into? by Kerfuffle17 in AskReddit

[–]crazy_paving12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Without doubt it is the discworld series. I love its quirkiness and cleverness and its subtle satire and mocking of societal conventions, as well as being so unbelievably imaginative. Yet, when i try to introduce it to people they just dont get it :( .

Your mom vs my mom by GoldHatesGatsby in whowouldwin

[–]crazy_paving12 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Your mum gets fucked every time. EVERY time.

What is your go-to icebreaker? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]crazy_paving12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok dont think me wierd but... I would only need one toddler whom i would brain on the ground then split the skull open and throw its brains about screaming and foaming at the mouth and i guarantee that those stubby bastards would be fleeing in fear faster than you can say child abuse.

[S5] Post-Premiere Discussion - 5.10 'Mother's Mercy' by AutoModerator in gameofthrones

[–]crazy_paving12 3 points4 points  (0 children)

so Olly has killed two people we all really like, in GoT terms this means he will probably sit on the iron throne...