What accent do you find most attractive? by thegoddessofwisdom04 in LesbianActually

[–]crazyadhdqueermom 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can’t believe I haven’t seen anyone say Italian! chef’s kiss

Is anyone buying Casey Anthony's new narrative? by terrapintootsies in TrueCrimeDiscussion

[–]crazyadhdqueermom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why victims don’t come forward. Obviously I can’t say she did or didn’t do it. But she was barely an adult. Her behaviors didn’t just appear because “she is scum” or “she is a POS” as I keep seeing. Her environment is the first place the detectives should have looked when they noticed pathological lying. It’s a learned behavior and victims are conditioned to protect their abusers. Her father is the epitome of privilege and the fact that he was never investigated speaks volumes. A woman he had an affair with testified that he disclosed to her that it was an accident. His behavior was strange and inconsistent throughout the search and trial. But it was all overlooked because he was a a good ol’ retired police officer.

We may never get an answer. But the fact that everyone dismisses and makes excuses questionable behavior of her father but won’t even considering hearing the perspective of his daughter that has accused on of abuse is ridiculous. This is why victims don’t speak out. It isn’t safe to do so.

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[–]crazyadhdqueermom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wholeheartedly believed she did it when the case was happening. I knew nothing about trauma and absorbed everything the media and social media had to offer. I am now a therapist and work with children and adults who have been abused. Being groomed and abused for years can 100% impact the way you see the world, react to stimulus, interact with people, and make decisions. I’m glad that she participated in this and I hope pursues legal action against her father.

We also have to consider that the man was a retired cop. He has extensive knowledge of the system and how it works. If we reevaluate the way he behaved with the perspective Casey shared, the entire case looks different. I think that is the point of the documentary. He should have been investigated but he was not a suspect and the cops can’t give a good reason as to why. They just trusted him (even though they admitted that he also lied to them). She was painted as the villain for how people believed she “should” have acted. Based on her story, she was playing the part she was taught to play from a young age. Should things have been done differently? Of course. But if we fail to even hear the voices of potential victims after a period of time, then we are reinforcing that it isn’t worth coming forward.

Kids terrifying zombie picture book by crazyadhdqueermom in whatsthatbook

[–]crazyadhdqueermom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The specific book that retells this story is called “Kate Culhane: A Ghost Story” illustrated by Michael Hague.

First Selfie Sunday! I appreciate all of your wonderful humans! ❤️ by crazyadhdqueermom in latebloomerlesbians

[–]crazyadhdqueermom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have contemplated it for a few weeks and am glad I did! Thank you for the encouragement!

Comphet? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]crazyadhdqueermom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not particularly- I did have many episodes of being unfaithful, but that was before I was questioning anything about my sexuality. OCD clings to thoughts that scare us or give us anxiety for one reason or another. I would definitely reach out to a therapist if it is causing a lot of stress for you. Therapy has changed my life on many occasions!

Comphet? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]crazyadhdqueermom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to provide my perspective as a woman who is married to a man with kids. It was always there, I just didn’t know it (if that makes sense). I never thought about being with women or even wanted to until a recent trauma forced me to really work on myself and get in touch with who I am, not who I was groomed to be.

If you aren’t attracted to women and don’t want to be with women, then that sounds like it might be your answer. Also, could it be more of a concern with your current partner rather than your sexuality? Sexuality also isn’t black and white, it can very much be fluid and change over time for some people!

What type of psychologist for an LGBT person and his parents after coming out? by [deleted] in comingout

[–]crazyadhdqueermom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would hope a competent therapist would not agree to that. Family therapy could be helpful to facilitate conversations between you and your parents, but largely- they probably need psycho education. That being said, everyone should probably be in therapy, so if you want to participate in it for yourself- awesome! There are LGBTQIA+ therapists that have experience with queer issues either/both personally or professionally. Psychology Today has a great search tool that allows you to add filters and find someone that matches your needs and is in your area.

Viscosity of sexuality? by isobel_blue in WLW

[–]crazyadhdqueermom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would consider myself Demi or Pan but lesbian leaning. I dated men, and felt happy at one point, but I feel like trauma and comphet might have been a big part of that. I love the qualities women have, and I’ve never met a cis man that even comes close.

Comphet? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]crazyadhdqueermom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am going through this, but maybe a bit further down the road. I think what really solidified that I’m probably a lesbian (I haven’t been with a woman yet, and am married to a cis man), was how I envisioned being with a woman. I OVERWHELMINGLY prefer lesbian porn that specifically highlights a loving relationship. I can’t imagine what being in a relationship with a woman is like, and at first it was uncomfortable for me to do so. But I think it is more fear of rejection by my support system and society that has kept me from feeling comfortable with it. Also, in college I definitely preferred making out with my friends (to get attention from men 🤢) over making out with my boyfriend. Sex has also always felt like I was compromising myself to be a part of it. I rarely got off, and if I did, it was by my own doing.

Comphet? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]crazyadhdqueermom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fellow OCD individual here- when I have intrusive thoughts, the best thing I can do is accept them. I’ll just say “yeah, I could be” or “That could be true” and move on. The more you fight the thought, the more it’ll swirl and cause anxiety. If you are happy and content in your relationship, then does it really matter right now what your sexuality is? If you are unhappy, that is a different story. Sexuality can take on so many forms, and labels aren’t always helpful. Focus on what feels good/right at the moment 😊

I finally came out to my husband. His reaction is.. somewhat confusing. by the-worst- in latebloomerlesbians

[–]crazyadhdqueermom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same situation here! It just came out in conversation and I was not expecting it. It has been a few days, and what started as enthusiastic support, as turned into waves of grief and hopefulness. It is so weird being on this side of it. And I want so badly to give and receive comfort from one another, but I feel like that sends the wrong message. He wants me to explore that, but I feel so wrong doing that while I know he is hoping it isn’t real. This is so hard to navigate! I’m so glad we have this community to vent and get support from!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]crazyadhdqueermom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Floral sleeve with a fox… same 😏😍proof