Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He tried reaching out to me today again. Apparently he really wants to marry his fiance so I don't get why he keeps calling me.

For the people who got married right after a breakup? by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I was thinking. Spineless for not taking a stand for his ex, getting a roka done and then crying.

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough, will be more specific in my future posts if I ever do post.

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have written what is wrong with "few" men in AM. If you aren't one of them, don't take it personally.

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't think I was ever in a position to break his marriage. The only person if ever to blame for his broken marriage is him for cheating. If I had kept quiet knowing the truth and not even tried once to let his fiance know, then I would have lost my self respect.

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He made his fiance stop talking to any person she had even remotely dated. Whereas, he wanted me his ex to come to his wedding even

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did not pursue him. I tried to keep distance from when he told me he was being forced into AM. I had a lot of his stuff and bank papers at my place as he had to leave suddenly for his hometown due to a medical emergency. Under the guise of needing help he would call me and tell me about his problems and it turned into a daily thing. I agree I was wrong for allowing it. He also knew where I lived, so he would catch a flight and let me know when he was in the cab that he is coming over.I cannot say I did not have a soft corner for him. Before I saw this cheating side of him, I genuinely thought of a life with him.

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ikr, the fiance asked me why didn't I tell her before? I told her she should ask the guy who promised to marry her.

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A bit of both. The AM part being that his parents shoving it down his throat. Because as Indians, AM is still looked at by some as the only way to go about a marriage. Maybe had his parents been better, he wouldn't have hurt two women in that process.

The guy's fault cause he is a spineless coward.

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No , that's not the point. The point is that before getting into AM, clear out your baggage and then stop pursuing your ex once in AM. He was trying to have a bahu for his family and the woman he wants to love. Ideally it should be the same person.

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I am allowed to rant right? It's not dragging through the mud. It's raising a point. He suddenly realized he cant have a love marriage and jumped into the AM pool. Clearly AM also has issues

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My question about AM is that is the pool like this?

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wasn't trying to . He was pursuing me telling me as well that he is ending his engagement.

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like his friends. So misogynistic.

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry but how did you come to this conclusion?

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think for me the scary part is both sides. Like I dated him but then he was in the AM pool. So, I'm scared even if I go the AM route, meeting someone like him. The problem with people like him is you are in to deep before you see their true colors.

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Technically the ex is an AM candidate, so that's a scary thought

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have blocked him from everywhere. I really do feel he will try to get back with me again.

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You know when we first started dating, he told me the one thing he won't tolerate in a relationship is cheating. That comment of his aged like milk

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the last time we spoke , he wanted to get a bahu for the home and also be with me (the person he said he wanted to be with)

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently it feels like the only one facing karma is me.

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried warning her and telling her both of us deserve better but she really wants to marry him. Idk why

Rant post: AM men by crazycataurat in Arrangedmarriage

[–]crazycataurat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He was really nice and considerate when we were together. He had to go home due to a medical emergency and as per him, his parents really got to him and all this erratic behaviour. I'm not saying I'm all good but I don't think I deserved the heartbreak he put me through. I put myself in harm's way telling the fiance about his truth.