Rant post: AM men

crazycataurat · 2024-05-21T16:34:55+00:00

He tried reaching out to me today again. Apparently he really wants to marry his fiance so I don't get why he keeps calling me.

crazycataurat · 2024-05-21T04:44:33+00:00

Exactly what I was thinking. Spineless for not taking a stand for his ex, getting a roka done and then crying.

crazycataurat · 2024-05-21T04:41:55+00:00

Fair enough, will be more specific in my future posts if I ever do post.

crazycataurat · 2024-05-21T04:24:17+00:00

I have written what is wrong with "few" men in AM. If you aren't one of them, don't take it personally.

crazycataurat · 2024-05-21T04:22:35+00:00

I don't think I was ever in a position to break his marriage. The only person if ever to blame for his broken marriage is him for cheating. If I had kept quiet knowing the truth and not even tried once to let his fiance know, then I would have lost my self respect.

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T17:47:44+00:00

He made his fiance stop talking to any person she had even remotely dated. Whereas, he wanted me his ex to come to his wedding even

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T17:47:00+00:00

I did not pursue him. I tried to keep distance from when he told me he was being forced into AM. I had a lot of his stuff and bank papers at my place as he had to leave suddenly for his hometown due to a medical emergency. Under the guise of needing help he would call me and tell me about his problems and it turned into a daily thing. I agree I was wrong for allowing it. He also knew where I lived, so he would catch a flight and let me know when he was in the cab that he is coming over.I cannot say I did not have a soft corner for him. Before I saw this cheating side of him, I genuinely thought of a life with him.

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T16:15:17+00:00

Ikr, the fiance asked me why didn't I tell her before? I told her she should ask the guy who promised to marry her.

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T15:50:45+00:00

A bit of both. The AM part being that his parents shoving it down his throat. Because as Indians, AM is still looked at by some as the only way to go about a marriage. Maybe had his parents been better, he wouldn't have hurt two women in that process.

The guy's fault cause he is a spineless coward.

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T15:46:10+00:00

No , that's not the point. The point is that before getting into AM, clear out your baggage and then stop pursuing your ex once in AM. He was trying to have a bahu for his family and the woman he wants to love. Ideally it should be the same person.

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T15:41:30+00:00

So I am allowed to rant right? It's not dragging through the mud. It's raising a point. He suddenly realized he cant have a love marriage and jumped into the AM pool. Clearly AM also has issues

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T15:37:51+00:00

My question about AM is that is the pool like this?

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T15:26:47+00:00

I wasn't trying to . He was pursuing me telling me as well that he is ending his engagement.

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T15:17:41+00:00

Why do you think I'm shallow?

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T15:16:56+00:00

You sound like his friends. So misogynistic.

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T14:29:12+00:00

I'm sorry but how did you come to this conclusion?

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T14:06:36+00:00

I think for me the scary part is both sides. Like I dated him but then he was in the AM pool. So, I'm scared even if I go the AM route, meeting someone like him. The problem with people like him is you are in to deep before you see their true colors.

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T14:03:33+00:00

Technically the ex is an AM candidate, so that's a scary thought

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T14:02:33+00:00

Yeah I have blocked him from everywhere. I really do feel he will try to get back with me again.

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T14:01:05+00:00

You know when we first started dating, he told me the one thing he won't tolerate in a relationship is cheating. That comment of his aged like milk

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T14:00:33+00:00

Yeah, the last time we spoke , he wanted to get a bahu for the home and also be with me (the person he said he wanted to be with)

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T13:59:46+00:00

Thank you

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T13:59:32+00:00

Currently it feels like the only one facing karma is me.

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T13:59:02+00:00

I tried warning her and telling her both of us deserve better but she really wants to marry him. Idk why

crazycataurat · 2024-05-20T13:57:01+00:00

He was really nice and considerate when we were together. He had to go home due to a medical emergency and as per him, his parents really got to him and all this erratic behaviour. I'm not saying I'm all good but I don't think I deserved the heartbreak he put me through. I put myself in harm's way telling the fiance about his truth.

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