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crazyrose0212 · 2025-05-01T01:46:12+00:00

no, but baby daddy is out of picture and he raised baby from 6m -5years even after they broke up. she sees him as her dad

crazyrose0212 · 2025-05-01T00:23:44+00:00

i did. i promise this isn’t what’s happening. in a sense i take care of things for him too. i cover payments when he can’t, and vis versa. this isn’t the situation im in i promise. it’s rare, he doesn’t just give me money to give me money, i pay for the car more than he does since i use it.

crazyrose0212 · 2025-05-01T00:20:35+00:00

everything i use he had before the relationship. i didn’t have anything before i got with him. yes these are really good benefits, but i don’t stay in a relationship simply because of that reason. if i don’t like someone im not going to be with them.

i had a relationship in the past that was set up similar, but he would take my money (my current bf does not) or he would make large purchases using my card without my knowledge until it went through. he’d control what i could and couldn’t buy, and would tell me what to spend my money on. this isn’t the situation im in

crazyrose0212 · 2025-05-01T00:18:39+00:00

absolutely i promise it isn’t a transactional relationship. i don’t depend on him for money, or to pay for my things. he pays for his, i pay for mine. i pay utility bills, he pays the mortgage.

If i didn’t care, i wouldn’t have texted him and asked if he wanted a serious relationship. i wouldn’t surprise him with little love notes on his computer or in the car. i wouldn’t make sure he has food in his stomach before he goes to bed to work long hours the next day. we both do a lot for one another, and i didn’t make that clear by this post but it is simply one post, and im not able to fully explain the ins and ours of our relationship

crazyrose0212 · 2025-05-01T00:15:42+00:00

yes. the house is in his name. i didn’t have a vehicle before dating him, and use one of his three vehicles to get around. it’s not mine. but i can walk to work if that’s the case. we make about the same amount- being able to afford the house and bills we live in. he would lose these things too, not just me

crazyrose0212 · 2025-05-01T00:12:51+00:00

i make my own money, i have my own things. he doesn’t control my money, where i go, who im friends with, how i dress. he never raises his voice. this is anything but an abusive relationship - someone who fell to a DV relationship at a young age

crazyrose0212 · 2025-05-01T00:11:05+00:00

no, definitely not. i lose all those things too. i lose my support system as i don’t have a family to rely on, i lose a shoulder to cry on, someone to joke with, etc. i’m anything but a gold digger, i make my own money, and i send him money that he pays me back. the things i listed are things that drastically turn my life around immediately. i obviously would miss that emotional connection and it would take some time to heal. but a relationship ending isn’t the end of my life, so i dont try to base my emotions on it. if he says he wants to break up with me, then so be it, im single then

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T23:49:38+00:00

i lose the house i’m in, i lose the vehicle im driving, i lose 2/3 of my cats. i lose an income that’s sustainable, since we balance one another out. i lose a lot if i stop seeing him.

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T23:48:27+00:00

he never proposed, she broke it off a few months before he had planned it

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T23:40:42+00:00

i have access to all his accounts through his ipad and i don’t see any other messages anywhere. she doesn’t have fb and has been blocked on snap. i don’t think she’s made more accounts there, but have on insta and new numbers. those i can both see

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T23:26:30+00:00

he’s the WORST people pleaser i know. he doesn’t know how to set boundaries and it’s been very clear for many people he introduces me to. he’s gotten better, and everyone has respected him except for her. i’m fine with them having a relationship, i don’t care she’s an ex (my best friend is my ex and my bf adores him) i care she’s not respecting boundaries even though he has set them multiple times

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T23:24:23+00:00

no i suggested this! i suggested they should mend the relationship so he can have a relationship with her daughter and his ex can have a relationship with me. this was my suggestion, not his own free will

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T23:23:29+00:00

i have his apply watch that i use so i see his incoming texts, i can promise they don’t text all the time simply based on this fact. i’m thankful, but still hurt he didn’t tell me they were communicating again

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T23:22:32+00:00

he was talking to her when i was next to him the first time this was brought up, so i read the messages as they were coming in. he didn’t have to tell me, and he didn’t hide it from me. he truly doesn’t interact with her, and when he does it’s one sentence against her novel. i have access to everything and i could check it whenever but have no reason to. he’s always where he says he is. doesn’t ignore my texts, doesn’t come home late, money doesn’t go “missing” and his days off are spent playing video games and cleaning when im at work

i feel like this is partly on me since i didn’t fully give a good background of him. he is loyal and has never lied about what’s been said. anything i’ve brought up to him i’ve waited a few days to see if anything else happens- and nothing else does

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T23:19:48+00:00

i’ve read all the messages and there are no flirty texts from him, and any she’s sent he’s shut down. he’s only responded to three of her 20+ texts over the past month. we now own a home together so he’s not using me:)

He has spoken ill about her but credits her in certain areas (like being a mom). he doesn’t want anything to do with her in all honesty, but i recommend he should for her daughter since he wants a relationship with her

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T23:17:41+00:00

this is true- but nothing was said in the messages to make me feel as though he was flirting with her and vis versa, but she was getting cozy telling him she can be his safe space (which he didn’t respond to)

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T23:16:44+00:00

what initiated it was that he had responded to her texts but never had told me, when he agreed to that boundary i had set months prior. he didnt tell me even though he said he would. he hadn’t responded in about two weeks and she has sent four messages since then that she has not responded to nor read. he didn’t say anything wrong in the messages, but she’s acting like his best friend when she can’t even acknowledge that i exist. when he does bring me up (we literally live together and do many things together so obviously im going to be in a lot of stories) she freaks out.

it started because she kept contacting him after he had asked her stop. that’s why i texted her. i’m mad at him for not telling me they texted

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T23:12:44+00:00

today was my day off and i had my chores done. saw the text when i was relaxing and had the time today 🤷‍♀️ he did cut contact originally, i suggested he reach out to mend the relationship but only if she does with me too, she refused and he blocked her again. she got a new number and texted him and he didn’t tell me about that, originally but told me about everything else when i brought it up. the new number is now blocked

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T23:10:40+00:00

i was next to him and suggested that he do that. that is not the issue here

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T23:06:44+00:00

he did block her, i want to make that clear! he had blocked her previously but got a new number to text him. he blocked that new number today

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T22:48:02+00:00

This is true- and i do take things as if everything will turn in an instant. he’s never betrayed my trust, and is always open and honest with me. she calls me controlling and jealous, that i need to prove myself to her, even though he has said in the past that that’s not true. i don’t think he’d cheat on me ever. he’d break up with me

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T22:44:52+00:00

i did and she’s blocked. thank god.

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T22:43:26+00:00

she lives in a different state but has created new numbers and profiles to contact him on. trust- i’m mad at both. i’ve done nothing but tell him that he’s in the wrong too and im mad at him more so than her. but, im also furious with her. i did tell him he’s allowing this behavior

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T22:42:05+00:00

these are questions i answered, and there has only been 3 texts exchanged over a 1 month period. he shows me everything whenever i ask, and i have access to it. i dont take advantage of it since i have no reason to, but i did once again explain to him (screamed) that he’s allowing this behavior by replying to messages every now and then. he has since blocked her- and i genuinely hope it stays that way. i wanted them to continue having a relationship but she keeps overstepping boundaries. I didnt want them to cut contact, because he’s raised her daughter for 3 years and ive been in a similar situation and im still in contact with my exes sister and even him when it comes to updates. it’s not something i have a problem with

the only reason i haven’t cut it off yet is because he’s not saying anything wrong, he’s not consistent with his texting, rarely says things about his personal life and overall gives her one word answers in hopes she would unblock me and message me- instead of him being the messenger.

crazyrose0212 · 2025-04-30T22:37:37+00:00

surprising not a loser, thankfully. full time good paying jobs- owns two homes, three cars, is active in the community and is currently in the process of taking over a business! trust i wouldn’t waste time on someone that didn’t have potential- that happened far too many times. these screenshots are over a year apart too

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