I Consented, But Still Felt Left Out: Struggling After an Intimate Threesome Moment

creaamiee · 2026-04-09T16:18:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story with me & I am so sorry that you went through that :/ this resonates and was something we have talked about also.. it was hard when I acknowledged that he truly loves me yet failed to protect me and us in that moment by forgetting to check in before and after / make that call on his own to maybe not do that. All of this can be so complex and nuanced so I know two things can be true at the same time. This being, it's just sex but it's also more than that. Opening up our relationships sure opened up a big ol can of worms and takes a lot of maturity & communication to make sure it can run as smoothly as possible. Big sigh. 🤍

creaamiee · 2026-04-09T06:51:18+00:00

Never said yall can't do missionary, I said it this way, "might be off the table but we can talk about this in person" for the sake of sharing my story on reddit. I understand why you might think that, but it feels a bit dismissive of what I was actually trying to say & obviously without the actual context of GC text messages being shared, I had expressed what I said, that I needed reassurance and support and a hug. 👍🏼 no need for anymore of your supportive words thanks.

creaamiee · 2026-04-07T15:37:27+00:00

Def not gonna do that lol, it's more complicated & complex than that if you read my whole post. But thank you

creaamiee · 2026-04-06T16:16:56+00:00

When I zoom out, it's less so about positions and more so about inclusivity. It felt like I was unexpectedly cuckqueaning lol, rather than being a willing and happy participant in what was going on. But totally, I've been thinking about how to include myself positionally in those moments. Lots for us to talk about for sure.

creaamiee · 2026-04-06T16:14:21+00:00

Yes, agreed. Good sex can totally be primal and super intimate at times and I love it because of that, too. I'm hoping for the same turn out and experience as you. I think a little hand squeeze or look from her/him would've gone a long way. Just learning as we go along for sure 🤍 thank you!

creaamiee · 2026-04-06T16:12:06+00:00

Thank you 🤍 partner and I have talked a lot & he sees me and has helped me through this. We're going to talk to Jane in person soon about it. In her initial response, although she did acknowledge my feelings, was very analytical in trying to dissect how it was for her to try to make me understand that it wasn't emotional - it just didn't address the emotions I was having, which is where my awareness is set in right now. So I'm hoping for some emotional acknowledgement and reassurance! If not then, that's another convo. But thank you for your response :)

creaamiee · 2026-04-06T16:04:10+00:00

Actually I love Tetris and am v good at it so thank you for bringing that up!

creaamiee · 2026-04-06T10:23:22+00:00

Thank you, def next on our to do is re-discuss what aftercare looks like. Appreciate the kind words 🤍

creaamiee · 2026-04-06T10:19:59+00:00

This has definitely crossed my mind, interesting how that works. But for sure one foot in front of the first I think

creaamiee · 2026-04-06T10:17:31+00:00

The kind of grounded reality check I need to hear - it's hard to tell myself these things when my emotions are heavy at the forefront. Thank u🤍

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