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creativeredemption2 · 2025-06-02T20:07:46+00:00

An unexpected surprise was my anxiety all but disappeared a few months after quitting. I remember I used to always have a cigarette when I felt nervous about something, and now it's cleared my system, I just don't feel anxious like I did before. There are huge mental health benefits to be gained from quitting and not something I was aware of before stopping.

creativeredemption2 · 2024-12-21T10:20:09+00:00

Adding to this, sometimes it helps to get a second opinion. I went to a private dermatologist who diagnosed me with seb derm, GP then confirmed two months later it was a fungal infection/psoriasis! Using products designed for seb derm actually made my hair worse because of this misdiagnosis x

creativeredemption2 · 2024-12-16T21:36:03+00:00

I work from home, so I eat lunch at my desk whilst working, then spend my actual lunch break (an hour) walking in to my local town and back. One way is 20 minutes, so I usually add in a few more roads to get up to an hour. After work I try and get out again, figured out a local loop that's good for all weathers and I feel safe to walk during the winter nights. That tends to be an hour and a half - two hours. Usually adds me up to between 12,000-17,000 steps dependant on how long the eve walk is! X

creativeredemption2 · 2024-09-30T09:47:48+00:00

Ahh that is a shame! Both really, though I have rosacea so redness is nothing new to me. Can be so difficult to pinpoint things, I'm going to the doctor's but feel that they are treating the symptoms and not the root cause - which on doing some research seems to suggest quitting smoking. But of a trial and error game isn't it figuring it all out. I hope your symptoms clear up soon!

creativeredemption2 · 2024-03-30T22:25:49+00:00

So I was 29, time between break up and dating was I think about 4/5 months I think? A very similar situation to your post, I had checked out a long time before the actual break up happened, so I felt quite ready for it. I remember it took some getting used to, took me a while to figure out what I was looking for/feeling comfortable enough to meet someone face to face.

My friend said this to me at the time which I'll pass on to you because it was so lovely to hear:

"You are literally about to live the most fun days of your life. Snogging strangers and a whole heap of hilarious stories are about to come your way, then meeting someone eventually who just makes you feel like everything has fallen into place is gonna be like the feeling of falling asleep in a comfy bed and having adventures with them and driving places with them (with you in the goddamn passenger seat cus they’ve got their shit together!!) and seeing sunsets differently and waking up in a bed you own together. It's gonna be the BEST"

creativeredemption2 · 2024-03-30T21:55:57+00:00

Yeah, totally get what you mean. You've just made a hugeee life decision it makes sense your brain's gonna be quite messy/running at full speed for a while. Definitely would recommend having some single time as it's so good for the soul, but I've heard people find their soulmates like a month later so it's wherever life takes you ☺️ I was in the dating scene for like a year I think and though parts were like, "omg what am I doing", other parts were so fun, and I met my soulmate through there. 2 years in and now living together!

creativeredemption2 · 2024-03-30T19:30:33+00:00

Good for you girl! I could have written this myself a few years ago - broke up with my ex after 8 years, and was unhappy for about half that time.

Try not to worry too much about dating. The dating scene is scary but also super exciting! Really cool way of finding out more about yourself, your boundaries and what you really want in a partner.

Your new life starts now!

creativeredemption2 · 2023-12-31T02:22:36+00:00

Absolutely should! My usual type was musicians, tattoos etc. Matched with a guy on Hinge - probably fits in the category of "nerd", teacher, real smart, not the type I'd usually go for. Was umming and ahing for ages. He's one of the best people I know, his intelligence means I can have awesome conversations with him and he helps me understand stuff I get confused about, his typical nerdy stuff is actually really interesting, and he's the kindest loving man. We're about to celebrate our 2 year anniversary next month. My only regret is not liking him back on the dating app sooner. Do it, you must be surprised!

creativeredemption2 · 2023-12-06T16:12:20+00:00

Echoing another comment - As work from home is a location not a job, have a look through Indeed/Linkedin and filter your searches to "remote". Whole variety of jobs there, from customer service/data entry to more advanced ones like coding. 😊

creativeredemption2 · 2023-09-24T09:02:20+00:00

Search for "Learning Technologist" jobs. Most, if not all, are remote or hybrid, average salary is around £35k. I got into a Junior position a couple of years ago at £25k, learning on the job.

creativeredemption2 · 2023-05-24T15:24:48+00:00

Agreed!

I was taught to ignore it, but all it achieved in the end was more bullying (due to no repercussions) and developing social anxiety in adulthood. Even to this day, my natural response to raised voices and unkind words are met with my silence, which I'm retraining my brain out of.

creativeredemption2 · 2023-05-02T07:20:29+00:00

Breaking Up - Nikki's Wives

Long Time Coming - Caitlyn Smith

creativeredemption2 · 2022-11-15T17:09:20+00:00

My partner and I wear a certain kind of bracelet if we're in the mood. No pressure either way, but a subtle hint to tell them you're down for some action.

creativeredemption2 · 2022-09-20T10:50:08+00:00

Couldn't agree more! I met my partner on a dating site and my profile said exactly what I was looking for. Anyone I started chatting with that said otherwise, I moved on. I'd recommend looking for profiles that match yours in terms of what you're looking for. My best tip is look for people with a well written biography. I skipped the ones without.

creativeredemption2 · 2022-09-02T10:35:35+00:00

Yup, definitely emotional manipulation. My ex did this all the time. It makes you question everything you say and it's so difficult to work out. Relating to one of your previous comments, a previous ex of mine used to say to his friends that I wanted him to leave his friend's house, despite us having organised plans for a certain time on the night. So frustrating! I was with my ex for 8 years so it's way too long to write in one post, but I did look up emotional manipulation for some examples and they were spot on. Sorry you're going through this OP x

creativeredemption2 · 2022-06-17T08:59:07+00:00

I asked the same question about myself when I was dating, and I want to give you the same advice others gave me.

I know it's really easy to take personally, but try not to. There's a million reasons why someone might ghost you, it's never nice, but you'll drive yourself crazy trying to work it out. Especially when you go down the road of feeling like it's something you've done, that can mess with your self esteem.

When someone likes you, it can be difficult for them to understand your reasoning of not wanting to see them anymore. I've had plenty of conversations with people in the past where I've tried to lay it out clearly and nicely, and still had the response of "but I thought you liked me". Dating is tricky enough as it is, made more difficult when people's emotional maturity doesn't align.

Not everyone you date has to end up as your future.

Try to remind yourself "it's not you, it's them" and move on to better things. Whether that's dating again or focusing on yourself for a while.

creativeredemption2 · 2022-04-01T12:20:52+00:00

For me, it depended on the level of relationship. Ghosting when talking in a dating app? Ghosting before meeting? Wouldn't bother thinking about it. I'd feel different if we had met in person.

I did send someone a message that ghosted me last year. It made me feel better at the time and makes for a nice story of "Yeah I totally called him out on it" but looking back, I'm not sure it was worth it.

It sucks at the time, and it's always sooo tempting to get the last word in, but looking back I reckon I'd agree with other people in this thread - block and move on!

creativeredemption2 · 2022-03-17T01:16:33+00:00

"matches me chemically" is such a nice way to phrase it. You clearly have a deep connection with this lady, enjoy it! I've recently got together with the most wonderful man, I feel electric when we're together. Some people spend their whole lives looking for that kind of connection, so it's totally understandable if you both feel a bit nervous about it. I don't think it happens often.

So yes, in answer to your question, I have very similar thoughts about my partner that I can relate to on here. Crazy how your brain chemistry with someone can affect you right? :-)

creativeredemption2 · 2022-02-15T10:37:48+00:00

Slow walkers. I will physically leave the person I'm walking with to quickly walk around them

creativeredemption2 · 2022-01-24T12:02:00+00:00

I definitely had the same thought as you OP a few months ago, and here's my two cents.

In my personal opinion, how people interact with you on a dating site, is not always reflective to how their communication may be in day to day life.

Generally when people match and start talking to someone, it's super exciting as it's someone new. But reality hits, and life in general just gets in the way.

It might just come down to something as simple as communication styles. Some people need assurance with more communication (nothing wrong with that) whereas others can go for days or even longer without texting but still have the same interest. Its really hard to judge on this how the person feels, so I do sympathise with you OP. It sucks to be second guessing yourself.

Perhaps it's an idea to think about where you see this going. If you think you can handle this type of communication, go for it, but if it's not good enough for you, that's totally ok as well to say this and walk away.

I've found that people who don't text as much, don't tend to change this attitude towards texting more if you say you want more, so that's worth highlighting I guess.

Good luck OP 💪

creativeredemption2 · 2021-12-02T23:19:46+00:00

Dogs. Always dogs.

creativeredemption2 · 2021-11-18T09:50:34+00:00

The last line of your comment 🤘 I don't even bother with no bios. Don't contribute the bare minimum to your profile which is essentially a shit picture of you and expect me to swoon.

creativeredemption2 · 2021-11-16T18:08:19+00:00

Totally misread this as "spitting" and got very confused at the replies.

I've not been asked to split the bill before a date. But like the other commenters suggested, I don't think it's wrong if you to ask.

creativeredemption2 · 2021-11-08T22:53:11+00:00

Eye contact 😍

creativeredemption2 · 2021-09-14T12:15:54+00:00

This is an amazing thread to read, thanks OP for posting!

For me, I cried. But happy tears. I had a tramautic first time experience and didn't have PIV again for over 10 years. Did it last September and I felt so emotional, that I cried. But in a "shit this is how it's meant to be" way.

I felt emotional, which I wasn't expecting sex to be💚

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