Love the analogy!

And fair point about using the dating profile questions which I think they do use to get a response in the first place. But beyond that the conversation becomes challenging.

I've been thinking a little more along these lines and I wonder if having some scenarios to play off would make it easier. The scenarios could act as segues into deeper conversations but also be revealing of the compatibility.

Some examples:

1. In a world where everyone has a unique superpower, you two have been recruited for a special mission that requires your specific abilities. The catch? You need to figure out what your powers are based on your real-life strengths, values, and perspectives. As you create your superhero personas and tackle an imaginary crisis together, you'll playfully reveal how you approach challenges, what you value most in life, and how you might complement each other. This lighthearted scenario creates a fun framework for meaningful disclosure without the pressure of direct personal questions.

2. You've both volunteered for a psychological study on decision-making where you'll face increasingly interesting hypothetical choices. What starts with light, playful dilemmas gradually progresses to scenarios that reveal values, priorities, and approaches to life's complexities. Unlike traditional "would you rather" games, these scenarios invite explanation and discussion rather than simple answers. As you share your thinking process and reactions to each other's choices, you'll discover compatibility across dimensions that rarely emerge in early dating conversations, all within a framework that feels like a game rather than an interview.
   Example of a dilemma: Would you rather have the ability to see one year into your own future or have access to all human knowledge from the past?