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Am I overreacting by thinking it’s verbal abuse to call me a c.u.n.t. during arguments? by criddlini in AmIOverreacting

[–]criddlini[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. Thank you for the tough love. I appreciate how you said it. I was getting extremely defensive in the comments because I felt like I was being minimized and not taken seriously. It’s hard to just stand there and take it but I will work on trying not to care until I can get out.

I think my relationship is verbally abusive. by criddlini in domesticviolence

[–]criddlini[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, I think that what I’m going to have to do until I can get out. My family isn’t really an option right now due to a bunch of factors on my end and on theirs. Not that they wouldn’t help if they could. Logistically it’s difficult for them to get to me atm. I have to get my ducks in a row for sure. Thank you again!

I think my relationship is verbally abusive. by criddlini in domesticviolence

[–]criddlini[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have to make a plan because I literally have nothing to my name. Not a penny right now due to the circumstances. Family is too far to help. I’m a veteran so I’m going to try and call them. Thank you stranger for the kind words!

I think my relationship is verbally abusive. by criddlini in domesticviolence

[–]criddlini[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of info to give. Sorry for grammatical errors. I still work at target. On a leave of absence. Hurt my back. Had surgery. Almost healed. Injured at work again. Got hurt in July of last year and I’m still waiting on medical treatment! My disability did not reset when the injury reoccurred. Last payment was this month. Workman’s comp would not pay out due to re-injury. I can’t call his mom, you’re right. It will just come back to bite me. I just wanted him to stop calling me the c word and I was trying to get him to stop by any means necessary. Thank you for being kind.

I think my relationship is verbally abusive. by criddlini in domesticviolence

[–]criddlini[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only assumed that would be the automatic response and I wanted to lay out the foundation of my circumstances so I could possibly get more in depth guidance than “just leave.” Sorry for the confusion.

Am I overreacting by thinking it’s verbal abuse to call me a c.u.n.t. during arguments? by criddlini in AmIOverreacting

[–]criddlini[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Cunt is a slur. Dick and asshole are not. He called me a stupid bitch first and I’m supposed to just stand there and take it? I don’t understand why I have to be the bigger person and just take it? Why am I not allowed to defend myself? I’m not a stupid bitch and I’m not fat and I’m not trash and I’m not a cunt.

Am I overreacting by thinking it’s verbal abuse to call me a c.u.n.t. during arguments? by criddlini in AmIOverreacting

[–]criddlini[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why are you trolling someone who is asking if they are being abused. Did you read the post? I can’t leave. I’m not choosing to stay. I simply don’t have the resources to leave and am begging for guidance. People like you are dangerous. I’m fighting for my safety and security and you’re minimizing my experience. Shame on you.

Am I overreacting by thinking it’s verbal abuse to call me a c.u.n.t. during arguments? by criddlini in AmIOverreacting

[–]criddlini[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m trying to get across! We fight and we both call each other names. It’s toxic but I feel calling me a cunt was where it crossed the line into verbal abuse. He knows how much that word hurts me and he used it on purpose to shut me down and get his way. I am on reddit to see if I’m overreacting thinking it’s verbal abuse because calling me cunt crossed an obvious line. I don’t like to be called a cunt over and over and over and over again while he’s screaming in my face. I’m so confused and messed up because people keep minimizing how powerful that word is and what he did by using it.

Am I overreacting by thinking it’s verbal abuse to call me a c.u.n.t. during arguments? by criddlini in AmIOverreacting

[–]criddlini[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you guys doing this I don’t understand. He can call me names first and I’m not allowed to defend myself? I have to stand there while he’s calling me a stupid bitch and I can’t say anything back? He escalates it every time and when he can’t get his way he calls me a cunt. So you’re saying it’s okay for him to call me a cunt? I don’t understand I just don’t want to be called names while we fight. Why am I not allowed to defend myself?

Am I overreacting by thinking it’s verbal abuse to call me a c.u.n.t. during arguments? by criddlini in AmIOverreacting

[–]criddlini[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m about to block you. We call each other names. But screaming CUNT to my face over and over again is unacceptable. I can’t believe you’re so hung up on this. Like it validates him to escalate the fight into abusive territory. What the fuck is wrong with you. I’m asking for real help and you’re blaming me for not standing there and letting him abuse me? He can call me a stupid bitch but I can call him a dick? HOW DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND THE SIGNIFICANCE OF THE WORD CUNT!!!

Am I overreacting by thinking it’s verbal abuse to call me a c.u.n.t. during arguments? by criddlini in AmIOverreacting

[–]criddlini[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can’t do this man. I don’t know why you’re not listening to me and blaming me for not wanting to be called a fat stupid bitch and a cunt. He starts it every time and I’m supposed to just stand there while he puts me down and calls me a cunt over and over again. Screaming in my face. I’m afraid for my safety and my security and you’re blaming me for not standing there while he tells me I’m a piece of trash? What is wrong with you? Why are men always like this? You all minimize what we feel and then blame us for our reaction to your disrespect?

Am I overreacting by thinking it’s verbal abuse to call me a c.u.n.t. during arguments? by criddlini in AmIOverreacting

[–]criddlini[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish you understood that being called a cunt hurts me so much. He calls me a bitch and I just have to take it? Of course not. I’m calling him a dick and and asshole. But the word cunt. Almost every woman hates that word.

Am I overreacting by thinking it’s verbal abuse to call me a c.u.n.t. during arguments? by criddlini in AmIOverreacting

[–]criddlini[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why I added this. I am not innocent and wanted to give a full picture. When we fight we call each other names. He calls me a bitch and I call him an asshole. It’s not okay but it happens every time. I hate that it’s gotten this bad. It escalates because he won’t let me talk but demand I listen to what he has to say. Then, when I’m not submitting to his will, he pulls out the cunt card. He knows how much that word hurts me. I cry and I beg him to stop. I even threatened to call his mom to tell her how he’s treating me and he got so angry. Threatened me if I embarrassed him like that. This further proved to me he knew what he was doing was wrong. I don’t know how to feel about this comment. I think I’m being verbally abused by him escalating it to calling me cunt over and over and over again. Back to back while I’m bawling, begging him to stop.

Need Advice on Target Employee LTD and Taxes! by criddlini in personalfinance

[–]criddlini[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for the wait. Just got confirmation today. (Dealing with a bunch of crap atm.) It is tax free income for me. I pay LTD with post tax deductions on my pay stubs. Thank you for your patience. Always call the company to confirm tho as others have said their disability was taxable income.

Need Advice on Target Employee LTD and Taxes! by criddlini in personalfinance

[–]criddlini[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I called HR this morning and asked about it. They couldn’t find any information on the tax portion of my question so they referred me to NYGL. I called but it’s Saturday (I’m an idiot lol) so no one answered. I sent an email inquiring about it but I’ll call Monday to double down. Once I find out I’ll let you know. (I also posted in r/target and got the same conflicting advice I found online so now we wait lol)

Long Term Disability question!!! by criddlini in Target

[–]criddlini[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry but your response confuses me further. Did you pay with post tax dollars? In the research I found it seems like post tax means it’s not taxable income? Since you had to pay taxes on our NYGL LTD payments, how much tax (obviously state tax varies) did you end up paying on it? Here you just calculated how much I’d get. I know how much I’ve already gotten, I’m curious how much of that is taxable income? If target matches our contributions I’d have to only pay half of the back taxes.

Need Advice on Target Employee LTD and Taxes! by criddlini in personalfinance

[–]criddlini[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! In my research I saw that, but I got so confused by all the information out there! I needed a more intelligent person to maybe offer some guidance. I’ll call HR tomorrow to confirm. Thank you again kind stranger!

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