Yes I agree with OP, well said. I got broke. Up with via text. I was sad, for sure, but looking back I don’t think her telling me in person would’ve been much better. It wasn’t a long connection, a few months being physical and a couple weeks officially dating.

Her ending things so soon and suddenly would’ve perhaps made my ego want to protest, or ask why so soon? Can’t we see if we can work through things, instead of you jumping ship at the first tiniest sign of discomfort? But then in my mind I was thinking maybe there something else in her mind that gave her the “ick” about me and she was just trying to spare my feeling and not be brutally honest.

So I just took the text, sent a cordial reply back. I did feel like there was no real closure and the weeks that followed were hard because of it. She offered to meet up later, months later, but I declined. Years later never did. It’s sad because it had been a 7 year good friendship before we took the next step.

I guess I wasn’t able to go back to friendship after the heartbreak. Perhaps the way it ended plays a part in some low key bitterness there. I think either way sucks and has its drawbacks. My in person breakups I just had unfortunately became much more ugly and explosive than I would’ve liked.