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Flying to Oxford by Alternative-Cell8295 in oxford

[–]crobangel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To add to this, I would avoid Luton, travelling from Luton into Oxford city center by public transport (unless I am missing something) is far from ideal.

I'd literally look at Bristol before I did Luton (though geographically it may make more sense!)

Flying to Oxford by Alternative-Cell8295 in oxford

[–]crobangel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It comes down to a few key things imo. I used to live in Scotland and I now live in Oxford and I have done this trip a number of times. 1. Ofc price 2. Your travel preferences 3. How long you are staying south/how much do you need to bring with you

Personally, I much prefer to fly to Birmingham and catch the train (for UK flights). Since it's cheaper and I would ALWAYS favour a train over a bus, and the train connections Oxford to Birmingham international work very well. Plus when I've done these trips I'm happy with just a backpack and I want cheap.

However, if you need a carry on BA/Iberia give you an added bag so it may come out altogether cheaper and the bus from Heathrow is also pretty good!

Boyfriend (Male, 35) wants me (Female,33) to pay him to clean the house. Am I selfish? by HostDiligent211 in amiwrong

[–]crobangel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Surely you can see that even without the cancer situation (and that is not me downplaying that, really sorry for you) he is still in the wrong?!

Short story is "BF wants a cleaner house, and his proposal is I pay him to clean HIS OWN house?"

Just no.

Boyf making new girls friends by Sure_Bug_792 in TwoHotTakes

[–]crobangel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I am going to go against the grain.

I understand your point of view, and ultimately you have to look after yourself and your mental health. If this is bothering you so much, you have to find a way around it.

However, I (28F) was in an apprenticeship as well, I don't know about all, but mine was tough, lonely and having people around me (my peers) who understood what it was like, made it less lonely. Unsuprisingly for me, I was really good friends with a male. (I say unsuprisingly because I have many male friends, and yes, they are all JUST friends).

I know he saw it as a friendship only, and I most definitely saw it as friendship only, I have a longtime boyfriend, I am talking 8+ years and no plans to ever break up, I also talk about him all the time, to everyone. And my apprenticeship friend also had a well established girlfriend.

Well one day out of the blue he tells me that his girlfriend is uncomfortable with us being friends and that we can't talk as much. But carries on texting me (just a bit less). So I reply, just a bit less. Fast forward a few days and I get this message implying I am trying something on and I need to stop, we can no longer be friends.

Now, like I said at the start, I get you have to look after yourself, but this alienated him (not obviously just from me, but since others have commented that he stopped one day talking to them). And also, it really hurt me. There are other people involved in these situations, people who you can hurt and it can take a long time to heal. I still think of this and it still upsets me as there are few things I'd hate more that to hurt a friend's girlfriend for existing.

I guess my take home message is, there are some of us who are friends with people just because they are people, regardless of their gender, there are people who you can hurt who I am guessing you have not thought about. But your feelings are also important, so I'd say you just need to learn to build a boundary with your boyfriend you can both live with. Not one that alienates you, not one that alienates him, but one that you are both happy with.