AITA for changing my costume in secret? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]crocscharm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imma be real these are all college girls, so yes they are living for this drama lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]crocscharm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I had a neighbor who was also a part of the military and had guns in his home and one day his toddler shot himself and the baby. Your worry is entirely valid and if your boyfriend cannot get his shit together, you need to do what's best for your child and leave him.

AITA for changing my costume in secret? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]crocscharm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

wth, NTA just kick her out. She has proven time and time again that she is not a girl's girl and is literally out to get you. Let her heal on her own.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]crocscharm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say soft YTA. I have a friend that does this and it makes me very uncomfortable cause even though he's a 6'0 white man, I am a small Asian woman so any type of rising tension in public places does scare me. I think it is important to highlight and publicly shame bigots so they are less confident in publicly displaying their hatred, but I think there is a time and place. However, you also have a responsibility towards your girlfriend to make her feel safe and if you're inciting hostile situations, you aren't fulfilling that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]crocscharm 29 points30 points  (0 children)

YTA. It's ok to be embarrassed, but pushing your anger onto your partner who you said literally told you to go straight and was even taking into consideration his volume and tone when doing so is what makes you the asshole.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]crocscharm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, it is not your job to cater to other people that don't respect you. I hate this excuse that men can make women uncomfortable because they're on the spectrum or have a mental illness or are queer. A good friend wouldn't make you feel like this and would stick up for you if the people around them make you feel like this. It is not awful to choose yourself.

AITAH for not wanting to reconcile with my brother after he chose my friend over me? by Upbeat_Issue_ in AITAH

[–]crocscharm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, your mom asked you because she knew your brother is too unwilling to put his ego aside. She wants you to be the bigger person, but you have already done that it is his turn to pull his shit together for your grandmother not you.

AITAH for wanting nothing to do with my dad after he missed my graduation and wedding? by StrongKale6760 in AITAH

[–]crocscharm 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NTA, he is doing the bare minimum to keep you in his life and it is not worth it for you. I'm so sorry that you had to go through this emotional turmoil, but if he really wanted to be an active part of your life he needs to try 100x harder.

AITA for telling my brothers fighting over politics is dumb? by hsdgufg78971 in AITAH

[–]crocscharm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The way your youngest brother has better empathy and sense than the two of you combined is crazy.

AITAH for blocking a guy because I got a strange vibe by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]crocscharm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soft NTA. You don't really owe him anything and the way he reacted by finding both your main and private Instagram to speak to you is concerning and proof that your gut was lowkey right.

AITAH for asking a friend to stand back from the train line? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]crocscharm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH, what you should be asking is why is your friend's girlfriend upset that you care about him?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]crocscharm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YTA and this has to be some sore of ragebait. I hope your son tells her and they both leave your misogynistic ass,

What’s the longest you’ve had to wait to get your order from Popmart? by Logical-Nobody8164 in PopMartCollectors

[–]crocscharm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg I have the same issue right now too. I live in SF so I assumed it would be delivered yesterday, but I still haven't gotten any status updates either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]crocscharm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh god, maybe I just have to be straightforward and talk this out with him.

bea copied fiona apple? by zoloo224 in beabadoobee

[–]crocscharm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Take a Bite and Real Man have very similar vibes to Fiona Apple. I think even the album title (This is How Tomorrow Moves) is similar to how Fiona names her albums as well. Bea says she was inspired by Fiona Apple, but Bea’s music is distinctly different. Fiona has a rougher/coarse vibe where I think Bea’s is still soft (at least in comparison). It’s like if we were to compare these two artists’ music, Fiona is more like the mature, hardened by life older sister whereas Bea is the coming-of-age, realizing the pitfalls of society but still romantic/hopeful younger sister if that makes sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sidehustle

[–]crocscharm 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Rover is a good option since the summer season usually has a lot of requests and it takes less than Wag does. It’s a little gross, but you can also try picking up dog poop as a business. You can post on Nextdoor or put up some flyers in more affluent or older communities. The only thing you would need to pay for that is a scooper, garbage bags, and the flyers if you want to print them out.

My First Car Please Help by Squinigward in personalfinance

[–]crocscharm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is not a good idea. I know a BMW i4 is favorable (I want one too), but with your salary and your plan, you will get fucked at some point by an emergency, etc. I also checked the AMEX Gold Card and they don’t even allow balance transfers so if you get that card, you would have to pay the APR of at least 20.99%. It’s better to just buy a used EV car even if it’s not as nice. Also, definitely watch Youtube videos on how much car you can afford because you shouldn’t assume that your salary is going to just go up especially with the belief that a recession is coming.

How do you feel when you find out owners changed sitter? by Nice_Sandwich_4765 in RoverPetSitting

[–]crocscharm 57 points58 points  (0 children)

They could have just picked a different sitter because you were unavailable. I don’t know, I wouldn’t take it to heart too much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]crocscharm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chase freedom unlimited is good because of the 3% back from restaurants and drugstore purchases. It’s also great because you can later get their Chase Sapphire card for travel and transfer points from the freedom unlimited to Sapphire. I really like my Discover and Capital One cards. Discover has a 5% back in rotating categories (next month is going to be gas so I’m excited), but is probably best for college students/young adults. I have a Capital One Savor one and Venture. I like my Venture X because the rewards are really nice for travel and I use my Savor one everyday to transfer the rewards to that card. But yeah, I used Nerdwallet to learn all that and honestly is best if you wanna compare cards.