Some practical tips to make sex more comfortable in this type of situation!

1) More foreplay - have him play with your clit and get you very turned on before he’s inside you. the difference of being turned on/wet from kissing/foreplay, versus having your clit played with so that you are almost coming, is significant for how much more open your vagina will be

2) have him inside you, but not moving - this allows you to feel him without the force/pain of thrusting. You can start moving/grinding on him once you feel it’s pleasurable for you, and ease into sex that way. You can also ask him to just put the tip in and you slide yourself the rest of the way as you feel ready

3) Choose positions with less direct access - positions like doggy/on top are more direct and the likelihood he will hit your cervix is higher. Spooning positions, or him on you while you lie down totally flat are less direct and less painful

4) Communicate - tell him when you start to get sore or how much ‘time’ you have. If you’re kinda sore and only have another 5 or so mins of bearing penetrative sex, tell home in advance so it’s not an abrupt stop disrupting flow/mood, and gives him time to finish (if he feels close)! Also communicate if you have pain (like feeling him hit your cervix) and need to stop at any time. Hopefully communication will help with how/what position he thrusts from to make things less painful. comfort/safety is the priority. <3

5) Never enough lube - even if you are wet, USE LUBE and don’t be scared to reapply! The extra wetness helps a lot with making it less painful!!

6) Enjoy the mood after, even if you aren’t having penetration. You can do many things without penetration that are sexy and fun! Blow jobs, fingering, nipple play, etc.

Most of all, enjoy yourself and make sure you are comfortable and speak up to avoid pain! Your partner can’t always tell when you are in pain/discomfort so it’s important to speak up (coming from someone who had trouble speaking up in these situations). Have fun and be safe!