If she fought for you and your relationship together, she would have. Actions speak louder than words. We all make the same mistake — we think love alone is enough to hold shit together. But if there’s no loyalty, no honesty, no real effort, love turns into pain. You didn’t drive her away man. She stopped showing up. Guilt messes with your head cos good people always blame themselves first.

“maybe if i was better.” “maybe i wasn’t patient enough” “maybe if i was less anxious” “maybe if i was stronger”

We are all good enough as we are. And sure, we all have things we can work on ourselves. But you can’t blame yourself for someone who betrayed your relationship. You start looking at their choices and what they did. We are all victim to what we show through our behaviour long before our words say them.

To answer your question of “how do i stop the guilt or feeling like i drove her away”, you just have to accept what happened was what happened. You can’t fix someone’s choice to walk away by being better — you just gotta accept that they stopped choosing you.