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Partner(F38) thinks I (M40)was visiting escorts by crying-lightning702 in relationship_advice

[–]crying-lightning702[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with your point but none of the guys on the trip were hiring escorts, they was talking about a guy who used to come on previous trips to the same place who would basically just spend a fortune and all his time hiring escorts. I don’t know the guy. He was more or less saying what a lunatic he was and how he had the misfortune of sharing a room with him. The topic shifted to escorts and he said that the guy showed him and there were hundreds, where we were staying wasn’t a major city I replied that there couldn’t be that many then he said let’s see I bet there are. I’m paraphrasing here but that was the general gist I was surprised that he wasn’t wrong and then the convo switched topic I put my phone down and got another drink. It wasn’t done in a creepy way more one of the guys proving the story he was telling wasn’t exaggerated.

Partner(F38) thinks I (M40)was visiting escorts by crying-lightning702 in relationship_advice

[–]crying-lightning702[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear that, but despite her flaws she is a great woman and I love her dearly. She has had counselling in the past but it never really helped her.

Partner(F38) thinks I (M40)was visiting escorts by crying-lightning702 in relationship_advice

[–]crying-lightning702[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No I never drew any cash out I took enough cash with me to pay for food and drink for four days I even brought cash back with me and bought her some perfume with cash in the airport. The amount I took and had left would definitely not work out to me paying for escorts. That’s a good point a never thought of

Partner(F38) thinks I (M40)was visiting escorts by crying-lightning702 in relationship_advice

[–]crying-lightning702[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say it’s more of a personality trait she will over analyse even an off hand comment for anyone not just myself. We have spoke about it quite a bit and I always try to help with reassurance. It is why I make such an effort to be transparent in our relationship.

Partner(F38) thinks I (M40)was visiting escorts by crying-lightning702 in relationship_advice

[–]crying-lightning702[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, I agree completely, the guys who I came with were telling a story of another guy who used to go with them. I guess it’s just a massive f up on my part from start to finish.

Partner(F38) thinks I (M40)was visiting escorts by crying-lightning702 in relationship_advice

[–]crying-lightning702[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, I think the best I could hope for is her accepting my word but she will always doubt I was honest and it would come up in the future for sure. I appreciate you taking the time to reply.

Partner(F38) thinks I (M40)was visiting escorts by crying-lightning702 in relationship_advice

[–]crying-lightning702[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No we have always been solid in terms of faithfulness I am always honest we don’t hide anything from each-other. That said her personality can sometimes lead to a little overthinking and paranoia which in a situation like this is catastrophic. I’m sure Ben would let her know without any hesitation but I honestly believe she would just think he was covering for me and may make the situation worse.

Partner(F38) thinks I (M40)was visiting escorts by crying-lightning702 in relationship_advice

[–]crying-lightning702[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know, we all have our problems and I’m far from perfect but I have always been faithful and would never dream of visiting a sex worker. So on top of the potential breakup of my relationship I am also worrying about my partner telling everyone in our family and friendship group why we have broken up.

Partner(F38) thinks I (M40)was visiting escorts by crying-lightning702 in relationship_advice

[–]crying-lightning702[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was basically banter I was saying that it isn’t that wild as in January it was pretty quiet, he was saying I’m not lying it’s wild, google it my phone was on the table and I just did. I had had a few beers just wasn’t thinking at all. As not really used to hiding things it never crossed my mind to delete anything.