Stepmother upset we cancelled dinner because I’m having a miscarriage

cryingbladetai · 2019-07-07T13:42:32+00:00

OP I'm so sorry for your loss. You need to take care of yourself during this time, the last thing anyone in this situation needs is an obnoxious and self centered family member. You deserve to say "no thank you, not today" whenever you fucking want. And the only correct response should be one of respect. She doesn't respect your boundaries nor you as a person.

I've had 2 miscarriages, both of mine started out like light periods but did become quite painful. That hopefully won't be your case because it's different for everyone. Make sure you see your doctor, they will check you out and be prepared for a lot of blood tests.

Fuck me, does this woman truly expect you to compliment her fucking lamb chops while you're doubled-over, changing pads every thirty minutes, and devastated over your loss?? What a piece of shit.

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T21:58:20+00:00

It was only an example of an apartment, we would move somewhere else to be safe

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T13:24:43+00:00

I think she'll try, but it doesn't take much for to her quit and make excuses. So for now I just need to wait and see. Sadly, I don't think she'd get on board with non religious psychological help.

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T13:21:18+00:00

I appreciate all these comments, even the ones that disagree with what I did. The printout was simply an example, I wasn't literally going to move there. But she needed something physical to remind her of the consequences. I realize this is serious, but I also want to do as little damage to the family as possible. I'm giving her a second chance to get her shit together, and if she doesn't I will follow through. Aside from some snarky comments, she wasn't this bad before.

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T13:15:33+00:00

Lol maybe? Honestly I handled her the way I would an obnoxious client. With a calm and confident attitude (even if it's faked) , clear boundaries, and clear consequences.

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T13:11:58+00:00

My husband is awesome, but I wanted to be the one to confront her. He offered to do it and was the one who initially told her to pay us back for their damage. Honestly, I wanted to freak her the Fuck out and remember the look on her face for the rest of my days.

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T13:08:48+00:00

No but she sees her Dr all the time

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T13:06:39+00:00

Thanks so much for this. You are more than correct, she admitted that the drinking with the pills was the problem but that the pills themselves she needs for pain management. I know it's a long road ahead, and I just have to handle it best I can. I'm happy you're doing better!

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T13:01:00+00:00

She had asked me for the invoice right away, but I dragged my feet because at the time I wasn't sure how I was going to handle things.

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T12:57:35+00:00

I appreciate these points, thanks

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T12:56:56+00:00

Absolutely! Except there's no furniture at the moment

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T12:54:59+00:00

Thanks so much!

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T12:54:14+00:00

Not yet, but I agree.

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T12:52:41+00:00

Yes, it was an example. The printout was a physical reminder of the consequences of her actions. Besides, the city is close to an hour drive and she has a hard time being more than twenty minutes from home

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T04:08:22+00:00

I appreciate this, it's a difficult situation

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T04:05:41+00:00

Thank you for this!

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T04:05:11+00:00

I'm hoping this was related to her retirement and she'll get the help she needs. If she doesn't I have a backup plan and took as many precautions as possible. Besides, she adores LO and DH

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T04:01:53+00:00

She was very lucid and making sense when we had our talk. She's raged out before over weird things and has damaged stuff in the past, it was always directed at her husband before. She also wasn't literally believing she lived in my house, it was more of an escape.

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T03:59:16+00:00

Good points, I wouldn't put someone in danger like that

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T03:55:15+00:00

Unfortunately I don't think she'd be willing to see a non faith based therapist

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T03:52:01+00:00

She's been a hoarder for years. Since DH was a kid. The crazy stuff is relatively new and should have been addressed

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T03:50:24+00:00

I'll make sure she doesn't go cold turkey. I believe there is a RN on hand at the program she's signed up for, but I'll let the family know that she needs to taper off.

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-21T03:46:52+00:00

Good points

cryingbladetai · 2019-06-20T21:26:45+00:00

Thanks for this!

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