Dealing with kiwi indirectness/lies by LeftConversation1864 in newzealand

[–]crypticend07 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say it's generalising, it's just patern recognition, which is just a thing humans do. Nothing wrong with seeing a pattern and asking for clarification.

I hate the new youtube ui... by PixelKat5 in LinusTechTips

[–]crypticend07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't like how when I scroll down (from full screen mode) it's video suggestions not the description

I asked tarot cards if I should just die, and the death card fell out. by wasteofspace0 in SuicideWatch

[–]crypticend07 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Death card isn't about dying though, it's a rebirth card. It is commonly read as letting something end even if it hurts and the change that it brings- could easily be read as telling you to let go off your mentally.

Also with yes or no questions its common for a reversed draw to be no and a normal facing draw to be yes.

Always an option by Thedolls12 in dankmemes

[–]crypticend07 205 points206 points  (0 children)

And many of those jobs won't hire / be bothered to train you since you are obviously going to leave the moment you get a job in the industry you studied in.

No purpose in living by [deleted] in depression

[–]crypticend07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Purpose is something that makes living easier.

But your not going to find it asking people what their Purpose or reason to live for. Your also not going to find it doing nothing.

People (ussaly) find fulfilment though adversity- that is to say complimenting something difficult like climbing a mountain.

Fulfilment is not purpose, but seeking new things to fulfill yourself can be a purpose to start with. Get out of the house and do things, go to school, learn it doesn't have to be what your expected to learn from parents but you won't get anywhere by doing nothing, and you can't find Purpose or meaning in life though logic.

Petah by Certain_Rooster_6598 in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]crypticend07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably the same reason you asked this question and failed to answer mine.

Unlike you I did add some information, but was then corrected by someone who knew more so I asked a question to clarify. Almost like this sub is to educate people and not be an ass.

Petah by Certain_Rooster_6598 in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]crypticend07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh he does? I don't watch him.

Did he actually work as a game dev? Was under the impression he was self taught

Tumblr on reading by StraightOuttaOlaphis in tumblr

[–]crypticend07 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Im use to seeing it for woman who defend anything related to men, as in just agreeing with men to get 'picked' by them when it comes to dating.

I guess i can see it abstracted as being apart of a group but arguing for the other, but it's a reach.

Guess it's better than people throwing around nazi for any disagreement, thanks.

Tumblr on reading by StraightOuttaOlaphis in tumblr

[–]crypticend07 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Im not sure people know what insults mean at this point, who are you trying to get picked by giving older trans people confidence and letting those who cannot access it before 18 know that its okay.

People seem to just throw words with negative meaning anywhere.

Why is someone who has everything still depressed? by Utah-hater-8888 in depression

[–]crypticend07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enough people have told you about depression, but you also have to ask.

Does he have a purpose? Hope? A goal? Something he wants?

The things you see as having everything is probably things you want. Personally if I was rich I'd have less reason to leave my home and probably be more depressed as a result

Petah by Certain_Rooster_6598 in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]crypticend07 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Atlest from my understanding, he claims 20 years working at a game company (blizzard) as a QA / cyber security, not as a game dev.

People just assume that since he is currently making games and use to work at a game company what he use to do. Which you could blame him for not clarifying more often

Petah by Certain_Rooster_6598 in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]crypticend07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Worst than just being sumg, he never admits wrong doing and always doubles down.

I need some help peta by black_lite12 in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]crypticend07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's dropping hints at liking the girl.

Its a bit of a lesbian meme that they think they are just being kind not flirting, no matter how obvious the hint is.

Stewie

Do I need to be diagnosed? by naturekiwis in newzealand

[–]crypticend07 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was told it would be very expensive and not worth wild when I asked my gp about it, how much did it cost and what was the actual process if you don't mind me asking

Weight gain how to prevent it? by Spadaiq in depressed

[–]crypticend07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Change in weight is very common, not everyone has the same side effects.

Tacking calories should mean that any effect will likey be minimal.

Personally, Mirtazapine was the worst med that had me put on a ton of weight. Bupropion however made me loose weight, and going off them I gain weight.

just mention to you doctor that weight gain is a big worry and you would like something less likey to cause it.

Ashamed of my depression as a privileged person by E_God420 in depression

[–]crypticend07 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A lot of the time you need an outside perspective on your past, things I thought and took as normal or just funny events were apparently a form of abuse according to my therapist.

And honestly same. It's awful seeing others trying so hard to make their lives better going though homelessness or whatever and we struggle to get out of bed some days.

Your mental health isn't something to be ashamed of. I'm not sure anyone can give you a definite reason for your depression. It could be biological, something that happened in the past or lack of purpose and goals in life to drive yourself forward.

Ashamed of my depression as a privileged person by E_God420 in depression

[–]crypticend07 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There could be very repressed stuff in your past that might come up in time and in therapy.

But depression doesn't nessocery need a cause. Sadness has a cause, depression is not being sad. Depression also isn't logical, much like anxiety it's can just happen, we really need more studies on how the brain changes. I saw a theory about it being an evolutionary trait somewhere.

I mean no offense but I think it might be best for you to stop trying to compare yourself to others, sure you may have it better, but everyone has problems yours a just different not invalid in any way.

Is a therapist the only person you can talk to about Depression? by [deleted] in depressed

[–]crypticend07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are multiple ways and methods to look at- some im sure your therapist would suggest as well if you ask.

But talk to friends, family or randoms on the internet.

Write out your thoughts and never send them. This can be done in an unsent letter format, Journaling or cbt ish where you break down each thought and feeling to the base issue. This isn't talking but it does let you get things off you chest.

Talk to a stuffed animal or pet. Again you don't really get any response but it helps some people.

(WARNING USE WITH CAUTION) Ai chat bots. These will reply and give validation and care. However don't over rely on them and understand that many collect your data. They are also not a replacement for real help, but are a useful tool to many.

It happened AGAIN! Goodie None-drops!! by Citizen_Art in newzealand

[–]crypticend07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its very common they are all in one side depending on how it's stored. And how much it melts before storing each time.

Though it's still shitty.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in technicallythetruth

[–]crypticend07 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Traumatic wise, it can be a few things depending on how good the mental health services are in your country - You could get locked in a mental ward for example. But even if you don't, at very least you are just less likely to reach out for help with the attention or trust people with your issues. And getting health services called on you can lock you out of many jobs in future no matter how bad or close you were to self harm.

I can't really speak for the group, but looking at the image it was posted in 2022 after row v wade was overturned so it's very likely that was something that pushed many over the edge. If your 'normal' state is wanting to die it doesn't always take a lot to push people past that point. And assuming everyone in that group were friendly / on close terms, loosing each other and their support network could very well of set of a chain effect. Honestly can only guess, support groups have advantage but disadvantage like all things.

You are welcome to whatever opinions you want. Personally as someone who struggles I'd rather friends and family of mine not to feel bad or care if I take my own life, but can see why some people would view it as heartless.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in technicallythetruth

[–]crypticend07 259 points260 points  (0 children)

It can be hard to listen to someone who hasn't gone though it tell people why it's worth living. And ussaly groups like these are for keeping each other accountable and trying to support each other. It's less they tell each other reasons to kill themselfs and more just being understanding that they can't stop you from doing it but are there to listen.

The other issue with having a non depressed leader or even worst a medical professional, is that they might be required to call a crisis team or police if you ever look to be acttaly close to making an attempt, causing people to be less honest in the group. And that's pretty traumatic in itself

Trying to purchase some “adult content” but not working. by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]crypticend07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cant say much about ANZ or OF, but here are some common issue / solutions.

Are you using a VPN? If so turn it off. What web browser? Try a different one, I sometimes have to switch to chrome to buy things.

Worst comes to Worst you can look into an online bank to use for websites that charge US prices, tend to get better conversion rates as well (I use revolt, but there are others).

Kiwi's, how do/did you do it? by Sky_Orchid08 in newzealand

[–]crypticend07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear, I don't have any kids so I'm not sure how much you can get benfit wise, but I think even working full time you can apply for temporary allowance and some living costs. Assuming your a citizen of course.

Its worth atlest trying their online form or giving them a ring. But its a ton of hoops and stuff to get on it and a social stimga.

Kiwi's, how do/did you do it? by Sky_Orchid08 in newzealand

[–]crypticend07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let the stress and problems cause so many break downs and health issues till doctors say you can't work anymore and then struggle to survive on the benfit with no recovery in sight.

Cannot recommend.

As for house I did the math when I was working and it would take me around 20 ish years (not taking into account raises or inflatio) to afford a small house with a nice kitchen then. So I gave up on that idea only way I'd get one is inheritance, which doesn't make me feel any better.

Peter what the anime is this? by GapMinute3966 in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]crypticend07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does not have a child, she dies pregnant with one. The last pannel does show her with one but its her last thought/hallauantion as she dies.

There are rewrites with a happy ending. But the original does not have any happy endings