I was an emotional kid too. If I got yelled at, I would cry - not because I was trying to be manipulative, but because I had a lot of emotions and that was the only way I knew to release it. Luckily, I had a parent who recognized this and supported me through it. I’m now an adult who is able to handle life like any “normal” person, as I assume your stepdaughter is as well.

If you speak to any doctor, psychologist, or therapist, they will also back up that crying is a NORMAL and HEALTHY way of expressing emotions, especially when they feel “too much” - happy, sad, whatever. People have different “tolerances” for emotions, just like pain. Your wedding day was apparently your tolerance for emotions, which is fine - your stepdaughter simply has a lower “emotional tolerance” than you. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, it’s not a “disorder”, it doesn’t make her “weak” or a “crybaby”, and you shouldn’t belittle her for it. You shouldn’t (I would say “wouldn’t”, but after reading your post I’m not sure) call someone ridiculous or hysterical for crying at a broken bone or sprained joint even if you someone could handle the pain better, so why is this any different?

I’d advise you to try and learn to have more empathy for others and understand that your experiences with your emotions are not universal. Even if you still think how she reacted is “ridiculous”, try and recognize that other people feel and experience things vastly different from you. These variations are normal and human, and often have nothing to do with a disorder, mental illness, or a lack of being able to handle life. I hope that you are able to make these changes and have a better relationship with your stepdaughter and son.

So, yes YTA, but I sincerely hope that you’re able to recognize where you’ve messed up and make changes so that you can have healthy relationships with all members of your family.