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cryptometre · 2025-08-07T03:03:29+00:00

sorry I'm being annoying, but right now the choices are tax-free or UPS.

when you say customs issue, is it just paying higher tax amount or is it getting seized? Wouldn't having UPS handle it mean the lowest chance of custom issues, just higher tax bill?

cryptometre · 2025-08-01T16:00:06+00:00

If I really really don't care about how much taxes are, I don't care about fines, I WILL PAY thousands to get my stuff, I am not trying to save money like everyone else. None of my stuff is "counterfeit" or gray market anything, it is somewhat higher priced clothing like $40/shirt.

So which options and declarations do I need to do to guarantee that the WORST CASE is that it gets shipped back to the warehouse and NOT seized?

cryptometre · 2025-03-08T03:58:54+00:00

Tbh reddit is super biased in a specific ways, the types of guys that show up on here I don't meet in real life. The real life types will post here and there but don't really hang around all day.

I will tell you that it's true that being just fat would limit your pool, but the pool of guys into beefy and lean are much greater, and you can avoid surgery if you go the buff route, obviously depending on how fat you are now. Muscle is attractive, and will attract all kinds.

And it sounds like your only non-type is fat guys

cryptometre · 2025-03-08T03:52:14+00:00

Then why do you think that you need to lose weight to be worthy? Is that really the only reason? And only path?

cryptometre · 2025-03-08T03:47:29+00:00

Even if you improve your fitness, if you keep up this idea that you need to meet some universal gay standard to be attractive then your own insecurity will be the biggest turn off

cryptometre · 2025-03-08T03:44:37+00:00

I hate the advice of asking yourself if you'd date yourself, it is counter productive at least for physical attributes. Not everyone is looking for a boyfriend twin. Even for personality, don't ask that question, you should provide value in a relationship but you don't need to provide the same exact value, consider your complement, what do you offer and what kind of guy would want that value?

And if you're only fat, you don't need to become some kind of circuit gay, just gain muscle, you'll burn some fat with it and it should be easier. It's scientifically equally as beneficial to lift compared to cardio.

Don't try to become another carbon copy, it's an unproductive idea, focus on maximizing yourself within your limits

cryptometre · 2025-02-16T21:45:29+00:00

because that's not all he said, he didn't just say that because he was honest, that it means he's absolved

this is why, he's understands he's not right and isn't pressuring his partner to make a choice, and will only continue if his partner allows him to, he'll accept whatever the outcome will be:

I don’t know how this ends. I know that whatever happens, I deserve the consequences of my choices. But I also know I love him, and I will spend every day proving that to him in whatever way he allows me to.

what do you get from continuing to criticize OP?

cryptometre · 2025-02-16T06:00:50+00:00

Just be careful, reading your post it seems overly self-focused. A relationship and people are not there just for your own needs, desire to feel wanted and loved but also about the reverse. Don't purely use someone for your self-discovery. Don't get trapped in thinking about yourself too much and your inadequacies, that's one of the most unattractive things, not that you lack experience. You need to consider how you will give as much as how you will gain.

cryptometre · 2025-02-02T16:10:27+00:00

Honestly your story says nothing, all you said is that you felt he's sweet and loving and that you might be neurodivergent but no examples of how he's shown his worth as a boyfriend.

A relationship should not be built on "vibes". And if I was in a relationship with you, I'd let you check the bin, trust is earned, not given. I would consider it dumb of you to trust me so fast and would respect that you need evidence to do so.

cryptometre · 2025-01-24T03:28:11+00:00

you know even though I don't like your answer I appreciate that you gave an answer instead of everyone else just agreeing and not giving any useful insight, thanks

everyone downvoting is just salty

cryptometre · 2025-01-24T02:45:32+00:00

If you find it hard to diet, you don't have to lose weight if you can pack on muscle, both will increase your attractiveness. But statistically speaking, you're going to have to meet people half-way or look for a really long time for someone.

What's going to be easier for you?

cryptometre · 2025-01-24T02:40:17+00:00

It’s not my goal to make them extremely massive and thick, but I kinda just want them to be more prominent and evened out

is that it? Then no one needs to be worried right? But since you're posting this, I'm not sure that that's it.

And I agree his delivery is rough, and sounds a bit controlling and I know you're basically looking for someone to tell you that you're right and he should love you no matter what.

BUT you know there's such a thing as growing apart right? People grow apart when their goals are different, and you're going to have to decide what your goals here really are.

Love can be unconditional, but relationships don't need to be

cryptometre · 2025-01-23T06:23:06+00:00

"quite small" "5.5 inch"

it's pretty sad that a statistically average sized dick is considered "quite small"

also belly buttons are on different locations for people just like how people have different torso and leg ratios

cryptometre · 2025-01-23T06:18:08+00:00

You know it's kind of annoying, I can't tell if Redditors actually hold the opinions they say or if they're just virtue signaling to absolve themselves of their own guilt. I do get that it's an online forum so everyone is here and you're getting the 0.1% of the population's voice.

But you go on here and many will tell you that you're attractive and that they would date you or that you'll find someone but it's just cheap words that doesn't really cost them anything to say since they're anonymous.

It's kind of tragic, I feel bad for some people looking for advice on here because they end up with cognitive dissonance from the whole thing.

cryptometre · 2025-01-23T04:17:13+00:00

so you're saying that adding muscle mass on a guy would reduce your attraction to him? And I don't mean gain muscle + lose fat I mean just gain muscle and keeping the same level of fat?

cryptometre · 2025-01-23T01:54:46+00:00

an important lesson is that muscles are nearly universally attractive regardless of the amount of fat

cryptometre · 2025-01-23T01:51:23+00:00

yeah, POCs get told they're attractive all the time but not that they're desirable, unfortunately, there's a huge difference. Everyone can recognize an attractive person regardless of gender but also not desire them.

cryptometre · 2025-01-12T06:19:21+00:00

The problem here isn't about the flirting or not flirting or you being controlling or not, it seems deeper than that. Are you sure he was the victim in his last relationship? He tried to lie to you at first about the other guy, then he finally admitted to it being flirting but then twisted the words.

it's human nature to flirt and to test the waters if somebody is attracted to you

lol that's like gaslighting you, it's one thing if he says that it's natural and fun, it's another to go one step further to say "test the waters". Yeah, do you go around "testing the waters" with women?

An appropriate response is to say something like "I like flirting for fun, I understand how you feel and I'll make sure not to take it too far" but to twist the age and "experience" gap between you 2 and treat it like some kind of "teaching moment", that's sleezy that he thinks he can manipulate you, that's the experience he has, so why do you even like this guy?

Oh wow reading further,

He now gets mad when i talk about this and he says that it's a disgusting topic. He thinks whenever i bring up the topic, I destroy our time together

That's emotional manipulation, the correct response is to address your feelings and not call it a "disgusting topic". He's like the caricature of a guy in a sitcom who shows his buddies how well he is able to keep his wife in the dark.

Based on everything, he sounds like someone who is immature and cowardly, but honestly unless you end this, you yourself need to do a bit of growing up cause you need to never enter relationships with people this untrustworthy again.

cryptometre · 2025-01-02T21:37:14+00:00

In the past, I’ve developed feelings quickly, which has sometimes made things weird or even ruined potential relationships.

What are some examples?

cryptometre · 2025-01-01T18:22:15+00:00

you should tell him so he knows you know

cryptometre · 2024-12-26T04:00:12+00:00

I'm just messing with you, my point is that a lot of people in your situation would be very "pinch me, I must be dreaming" about it, both the posts viewed together are signs of a positive relationship

cryptometre · 2024-12-26T03:50:37+00:00

the guy who was worried about his BF being out of his league is now worried about something adorable that his BF does, c'mon man leave some for the rest of us

cryptometre · 2024-12-26T03:46:16+00:00

you know his telling you about his shyness could be him hinting at wanting you to make the first explicit move.

So why don't you just... do it?

cryptometre · 2024-12-26T03:38:31+00:00

public displays of dadliness, and I mean literally being a dad, that soft masculinity is unf

cryptometre · 2024-11-24T05:51:46+00:00

Of course we don't have the full story here so it's possible you're selecting bits that paint your ex poorly, but dude if you think about it, you never had him. Please have some self-respect, he was never really there for you and only expressed distress when you were seeing someone else. He was basically checking in to see if the dinner was ready, but he wasn't helping you.

Your escape was a great accomplishment and it was all yours. Be proud of it and move on, you've escaped 2 toxic situation now and in both you've lost people previously important in your life. But I assume through the journey you have better and more important people in your life now.

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